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Hi all I'm new here I'm currently recovering after having had an emergency laparotomy and salpingectomy due to a ruptured ectopic pregnancy. I would just like to reach out to anyone else out there who might be going through something similiar. Also, I'm curious as to when it might be safe to ttc again. I just feel this aweful void in my life after having gone through this and would love to become pregnant again even though I do still have a daughter who is only 6 months old. My daughter is amazing and I love her so much and I want for her to have a sibling close in age to grow up with. My husband is military and fortunately on shore duty at the moment and he and I were just so excited when we found out we were pregnant. Thanks in advance, it will just be nice to talk to someone who knows what I"m going through.
Last edited by JT19; December 2nd, 2010 at 03:10 PM.
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Hi JT, I had a very similar emergency salpingectomy/laparotomy over Memorial Day weekend earlier this year. My rupture was odd in that it was a very slow bleed over 3 days (all internal), so by the time they got to me, I had lost a lot of blood and was going into shock. They pumped 3.5 liters of blood out of my abdomen and I needed 3 units of transfusions.
I was told to wait for my cycle to return to normal (3 normal-length cycles in a row) before trying to conceive. This is mainly for dating purposes - when you get pregnant again, you need to get checked out early on (like 5 weeks or so) on ultrasound to make sure that the pregnancy is in the uterus. I was impatient and started trying as soon as I fully recovered my strength and blood levels (almost 3 months after the surgery), but I used Ovulation Predictor Kit pee tests so that I knew when I ovulated, since my cycle was irregular. And I took cheap pregnancy tests starting at 10 days past ovulation (which is pretty early).
Amazingly, I got pregnant on the first cycle trying! I had ovulated from my "good side" (the side with the tube) - we could see the corpus luteum on the ovary in the first ultrasound. Also, it is in the uterus, and I'm almost 15 weeks along! This is incredible luck. It took months to get a BFP with the ectopic, and I assumed it would take at least a year with the single tube. But I am proof that it CAN happen!
PM me if you have any questions or want to know more, or just chat! I know I found my experience incredibly scary and it was more than a pregnancy loss, it was a near-death experience and filled me with dread about future fertility problems. I'm here anytime you need to vent.