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When I had my daughter, I got my tubes tied. I realize I got them done for a good reason & I knew that I wanted to have them tied as soon as I found out I was pregnant. I went through my entire pregnancy excited to get them tied... but now I'm kind of sad. Not because I want to have more babies... but because if I changed my mind, it would take alot to get pregnant again. I really feel like our family is complete... but... i don't know if it will be complete in a few years... or if I'll catch baby fever again... *sigh* I'm worried about the future, in terms of babies... anyone else feel this way??
I agree with Mellie, it's normal to be sad. I also had my tubes tied, but I had the opposite feelings. I was paranoid that my tubes would fail me, and I'd end up pregnant. I was so sure I was done. Now, I have a hysterectomy, and sometimes I do feel a pang of sadness because it truly is official...NO GOING BACK...but then I smack myself in the head and realize I HATE kids! LOL...Not my own, obviously, but I am done. No more. Done.
I just hate that that part of me is gone, forever. I can't ever grow it back. But, I don't miss the periods, the pain...the cramps. I no longer have to be nervous about an 'accident'...it's good.
I got mine done because My oldest was still 3 when I had my 4th baby! (She was born 11 days before his 4th birthday) My body is done, my patience is done... and I'm ok with it... but its sad because that part of me is gone. I'm also sure my tubes will heal back together just because my last 3 babies were prevented & our methods of birth control failed us. I feel confident that I'm done & I won't want to start all over again. I guess its more a feeling of confusion than anything.
Troy left the size of our family up to me, and I worried that I would never feel "complete". As soon as I got pregnant with #4 though, I knew our family was complete. I was afraid I'd end up regretting the tubal, but it's been 2 1/2 years now, and I know I did the right thing. The only sad feeling I had was knowing the option to have another baby was gone. But I knew deep down that I didn't really want a fifth child.
I think what you are feeling is totally normal.
I also could have written this myself. I have 4 kids and I had my tubal done at delivery and knew when I got pregnant with #4 that I would have it done. I think it's just the finality of it, and like you said, it would take soo much. I don't want anymore kids, my body is done, and I'm sure I won't change my mind...it's just sad that the whole pregnancy/childbearing days are over for me.