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Did you ever grieve over not getting the gender you wanted?
When I found out I was preg. we decided we were done, no matter the gender. (I had 3 boys already) We really wanted a girl & were blessed to have her, but I know that if she was a boy I'd grieve for the daughter I never had.
Did you have this or know someone who went through it? How did you (or they) deal?
I never got a boy. But, that's ok.
When I was pregnant with my oldest daughter, I kept her gender a secret until she was born...I, however, had a super strong feeling that she was a boy. I wanted a boy so badly.
She was born at 28 weeks gestation, and when the doctor told me she was a girl, I asked him 3 times to make sure, because I wanted a boy...then I cried. And then I cried because she was a girl and was so happy and relieved that she was a girl, instead of a boy. LOL
And with my second baby, I really wanted another girl...so, I got 'lucky'. Even my pets are all girls.
Thank you Tasha_Mae for my spooky siggy
Last edited by Gray Sea; August 2nd, 2010 at 11:48 PM.
Originally, I thought I wanted all boys. Then we had Brynne, and I was so excited to have a girl. We didn't know for sure she was a she until her birth. With our last, I thought for sure it was a 3rd boy, but once we learned it was another girl, I was thrilled. Not only for me, but for Brynne..... she'd have a sister a year and a half younger than her. I feel lucky to have 2 of each, but I would have felt lucky regardless of the genders.
my 5 are all girls, and right after my third I was maybe slightly bummed (wouldn't go as far as calling it disappointed), my 4th was a preemie, so I couldn't care less about the gender, and I was relieved my 5th was another girl.
Dh and I both figure that if we were ment to have boys, we would have had them, so we're happy with our family. Had we gotten to pick ahead of time I would have asked for a few of each, but now I wouldn't change a thing even if I had been able to.
My first 2 were boys and we tried for a girl the third time because I did want one so badly. I was lucky to get her and I'm thrilled to have her. I think I would have been ok with another boy though. I just feel blessed for each of them.
Its funny because with my first I was convinced we were havng a girl! But the ultrasound tech said boy and he sure was. Then with number #2 I was like ok this is totally different and so its DEFINATELY a girl, haha nope. Another boy. Then when we went for #3s ultrasound I said, yea its a boy. No doubt about it. And she was a girl! I was like, are you sure? But didnt believe it fully till she was born!
Last edited by JessW7; August 21st, 2010 at 06:38 AM.
We didn't know what DD was until birth. DH wanted a boy so bad but when she came out, he was still so happy. I figured we would never have boys. When we found out DS #1 was a boy, we we're happy to have 1 of each. But then when we got pregnant with DS #2, I was hoping for a boy because we already had enough boy stuff!
I have only ever expected to have girls, so I don't feel that I've 'missed out' on having a son.. but I can definitely understand why people would feel that way. At times I feel a little sad that I'll never know what it's like to have a son, but I wouldn't say it is something that I have 'grieved' over