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[MellieB]

Welcome! I'm sure no one here would judge you at all. For a time we were only going to have one baby too.

What made you decide to have more, or was it on accident?

[MellieB]

No, they were all planned to a degree.

It was even before we had our first and we're working out money needed for kids ect. We also both come from families where we were ignored by our parents for the most part growing up. We thought that is was because we had siblings and didn't want our kids to grow up like that. Then we realised that no matter how many kids we had that wouldn't happen because we didn't want it to.

[Trish36]

Welcome!

[natty]

Welcome and no one will judge you I can respect why you want one we get it sometimes from family that we should have more even though we have two just do what is right for you

[*Jennifer*]

Hi there! As a done at one mom too, I totally get where you are coming from. I get people telling me that I need to have another. In one ear and out the other. Hubby and I have our reasons for having only one.

[*Jennifer*]

Oh and the selfish part. I don't get why someone choosing not to have children or to have just one is selfish. I think it is the complete opposite. What is selfish is bringing a child into this world without the intentions of changing your lifestyle in order to fit the needs of that child. I know of people who have babies simply because they think they are supposed to, yet go on acting the same way they did before starting a family. Realizing that you don't want things to change shows that you are thinking about what it takes to raise a child. Definitely not a selfish thing to do!

Most people don't know that I do get sad that I will never have another baby. But I know how having another one would affect my family and giving my son a loving home matters more than me having another baby.