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March 17th, 2007, 02:08 AM
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Hi there,

How did you know you were done?

I just had number 3 on 02/18/2007. Before he was before I was unsure if he was our last. Dh was sure he wanted him to be the last one. Well, my mother has been there for all my deliveries. On the day my son was born my mother passed suddenly 2 hours after. She was there totally fine but 2 hours later her heart stopped. I can not imagine having another child without her by my side. So in a way it is like that decided my fate. My mother thought 3 was a good number. 3 is a good number but how do I really know if I am done... I can not picture myself doing it without her so am I done?
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March 28th, 2007, 03:49 PM
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WOW... I'm SO sorry you lost your mom... Especially since it sounds like the two of you had a pretty good relationship.

About "being done"... I don't think anyone can KNOW except you and your husband. You CAN ask yourself some pointed questions...

If I want more... why?
Am I afraid to be done... (as in the FINALITY of it all)
Why does my husband want to be done?
What are the pros and cons of each side?

Maybe even journaling these things would help. If you have a belief in God, you might really pray about it.
I do, and if it would not be offensive to you I'd love to pray about it for you. For God to give you a clear peace in your heart no matter the answer.

Congrats on your new baby! I just visited my friend who's baby is about 8 months and he was SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO sweet! I have 5 children and my oldest is 6! (I'm 37) It's a happy and sad-ish type thing for me... My husband and I already talk about the fun it will be when we're grandparents... (and I'm not even THAT much of a baby person) ha ha!

I hope this was in SOME way helpful....
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March 29th, 2007, 11:38 AM
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Seven had a lot of great points! I'm also so sorry to hear about your mom. My mom also has been at every one of my kids births. That is so special!! Good Luck to you.

My husband doesn't want any more kids, he says 4 is enough lol I really would have liked to have 1 more but since he is the breadwinner, I respect his wishes.
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