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Since I was 19 years old, I wanted to be a State Trooper and now I am considering going to State Trooper Academy in January. I will be in the academy for 6 months, coming home every weekend but I hate to leave my boys. I know it is only for 6 months out of my life and will be there for them on the weekends but I feel guilty leaving them. Am I a bad mommy for doing this? Do I not go? I am so confused about this. What is your opinion on this and be totally honest?
No you are not a bad mother for getting out and doing something that would make the lives of your children better!!! You would be a bad mom if you didn't care and didn't want to try to do your beest!!!
I say go for it! Its only 6mnths which is not really that long a time and in that time you will be home every weekend.Your doing somthing to better the lifes of you and your family and i think thats great. Let us know what you decide.
I agree with the others. And it wasn't that bad when my husband did it last year. He was gone M-F, got home around 8pm Friday night and left around 5pm Sunday afternoon, so it literally was around 48 hours a week that we saw him and he had homework that had to be done and had to study etc, but he was still here, we could eat dinner together and he was able to call (or us call him) every night. They put him up in a hotel, so it wasn't a problem for me to call him in the evenings and let Brandon say good night which helped a ton. For us anyway, the benefits are FANTASTIC, the overtime is great also (he makes a good $10K a year extra in overtime), and no more paying for gas for him to go to work. It's definitely full of rewards and it's a government job so retirement is good also, a lot will do tuition reimbursement if you want to go to school (if you haven't already), full healthcare benefits, plus overtime if you need the extra money for something. If it's really something you want to do and have the ability to do then I think you should go for it!
Awwwwwwww, thanks ladies ! I value everyone's opinion and I posted this on another board that I am on and of course some mommies said they just could not leave their little one's. It is a hard decision for me and there is alot to think about. I will keep everyone posted on my decision.