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July 20th, 2007, 10:18 AM
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I'm so frustrated with my 8 year old daughter right now. I caught her trying to sneak some granola bars out of the house and told her she couldn't have them. Right away she goes on offense and starts screaming at me "You're so mean!" so then I say "that's one" she keeps it up I say "that's two" she keeps it up so I tell her "that's three" and to go and take a time out. She screams "NO!" (keep in mind the baby is sleeping upstairs and I don't want her to wake him). So she's too big for me to carry so I tell her she can either go upstairs and take her time out quietly or she's grounded. She kept on screaming so I ended up grounding her for 8 days and now she's "running" away. I fear I didn't handle this the best, but for me I did good...I DIDN'T yell back at her which is what I normally do, I calmly told her I'm sorry you're angry but these are the consequences for your actions. She stormed out with an angry "I hate you!" makes a mom feel great.

sorry I just needed to vent. I feel like I'm the only one in the whole world with a daughter that I can't control.
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July 20th, 2007, 05:42 PM
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I have to say i know what its like my son is only 4yrs old and does all the yelling and screaming and tells me he hates me that im mean all the good stuff.It is frustrating i have no idea how to deal with it at times but we get there i just try to remember he is only a child and hes only saying things to me that he has heard from others deep down in his little heart he does not mean it.I hope you and your daughter can work it all out.
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July 21st, 2007, 08:29 AM
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I think you handled the situation very well. Yelling at her will only add more frustration and she is looking for a reaction. By you handling it the way you did, it probably calmed things down a lot quicker. I have a 12 year old and he has tried to test me at times but he never has yelled at me....thank goodness because I would probably lose it . As she gets older, it will become harder so embrace yourself...not that you wanted to hear that . I'll be thinking about you.
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July 25th, 2007, 12:16 PM
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I struggle with my 8 year old son all the time. I think part of it is the age. You did a good job not yelling at her - I normally do. Now, if you can stick with the "grounded" then you are doing so much better than me!!! I always forget what I grounded him from and then he gets it back way too soon...and once, wayyy too late! LOL

Keep your head up...this phase will pass!
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