I NEED TO VENT

IBake2Boys+1Girl · #1 October 14th, 2005, 07:44 AM

Okay so most of you don't know but I am the youngest of 9 children (blended family) and the closest sibling I have to me in age is Shane who is 25 and then Dawn who is 28 and then Shawn who is going to be 31 in February. So as most of you do know my birthday was this past tuesday and I got a call from Shawn wishing me a good day and yada yada yada. Well, then he decides to tell me that he has good news as well. His 19 YEAR OLD GIRLFRIEND is about 5 weeks along into her first pregnancy!

Oh my god can someone please explain to me what an almost 31 year old Little Boy is doing with a 19 year old girl. Don't get me wrong Stacy is a good girl and she can put my brother in her place like only my mom and I can but Good Gracious! I love my brother and if they are happy then I am happy for them but my brother is a 31 year old brat who still can't hold a job for longer than three months at a time. He is an alcoholic and he gets mean when he drinks. Stacy knows all this but its like she thinks she can change him. I hope she can because she is in for a rude awakening!! What is coming next. First by best friend gets cancer, and now this? I really don't think I can handle any more NEWS this week. At least its friday...maybe next week we'll have some different news!

Oh, and I guess I should tell you that DF got a new job FINALLY! He's laying brick everyday from 7 to 3 pm. And hes making anywhere from 8-10 dollars an hour cash *depending on the job* under the table. This is wonderful for us. He's been out of work for almost a month and as you can tell from my other post we are hurtin for money bad! Plus, I managed to find a babysitter who I absolutly love that will only charge me $75 a week to watch boogerman from 8-2:30 monday through friday! Finally...there is the good news I've been waiting for!

*~*MoMMy4eVeR*~* · #2 October 14th, 2005, 08:07 AM

Whoa!! That is a difference... I could never imagine dating anyone over 24 let alone 31!!! But who knows maybe she can straighten him up. Hopefully at least, huh?? Well I hope that everything goes ok with their relationship and that the baby is healthy. Congrats, auntie!

And that's soooooo great that DF finally got a job!! Woo-hoo! Hopefully he won't decide that he doesn't "like" the job, like my mom did.. LOL! Congrats on the great news, hun!

sweetlilysmom · #3 October 14th, 2005, 08:10 AM

.Diana. · #4 October 14th, 2005, 08:36 AM

wow thats about 10 years.. it isant TOO bad.. i mean it could be A LOT worse.. look at these movie stars! Anyway- CONGRATS! with you DF's job! Thats great news to hear!

IBake2Boys+1Girl · #5 October 14th, 2005, 09:18 AM

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Originally posted by *~*MoMMy4eVeR*~*@Oct 14 2005, 10:07 AM
Whoa!! That is a difference... I could never imagine dating anyone over 24 let alone 31!!! But who knows maybe she can straighten him up. Hopefully at least, huh?? Well I hope that everything goes ok with their relationship and that the baby is healthy. Congrats, auntie!

And that's soooooo great that DF finally got a job!! Woo-hoo! Hopefully he won't decide that he doesn't "like" the job, like my mom did.. LOL! Congrats on the great news, hun!
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Its not the age difference that bothers me. Its that brother lacks the responsibility to take care of himself let alone a girlfriend and a child. Hopefully Devon, he will take this opportunity to grow up and realize that its time to settle down in life.
As for the DF's job, he already made the comment this morning that his arms hurt so bad that he wouldn't mind if his ride "forgot" to pick him up. He tends to always find something wrong with his place of emloyment so he can sit at home on his butt! Lets pray that we can get past his lazy stage and he'll hang on to this for awhile.

shanna · #6 October 14th, 2005, 09:28 AM

I hope he does keep the job, ya'll really need the money he needs to realize that. I'm so glad my hubby is a hard worker and makes sure he provides for us.

I hope you get some good news too, I know it's really stressful worrying about your family and friends. Congrats on becoming an aunt soon though. At least your little man will have a cousin close to the same age to play with.

IBake2Boys+1Girl · #7 October 14th, 2005, 09:35 AM

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Congrats on becoming an aunt soon though. At least your little man will have a cousin close to the same age to play with.
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Thanks, that is one thing I'm really excited about. I never had anyone in family close to my age. I was lonely as a child and I don't want that for little man!

Swamp Lizard · #8 October 14th, 2005, 10:14 AM

I wouldn't worry about the age difference. It is just a number. My DH is 24 years older than me, and I can never understand why some people make such an isuue out of it. Maybe she is the one who can turn him around! I really hope so for the baby's sake! Like the other post said, atleast your babies will be close in age!

sweetlilysmom · #9 October 14th, 2005, 10:14 AM

yeah I am ready to be an aunt too

IBake2Boys+1Girl · #10 October 14th, 2005, 10:31 AM

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I wouldn't worry about the age difference. It is just a number. My DH is 24 years older than me, and I can never understand why some people make such an isuue out of it. Maybe she is the one who can turn him around! I really hope so for the baby's sake! Like the other post said, atleast your babies will be close in age!
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The age doesn't really bother me that much. there is about 21 years between my mother and father and turned out great. I'm just really concerned that she is going to regret the decision later. Not that I want her to get rid of it, its just that my brother can be really hard to handle.

thisgoodnight · #11 October 14th, 2005, 12:27 PM

Wow.. were they trying for a baby? He should definitely het his alcohol problem taken care of before bringing a baby into the world. But maybe his baby will make him realize that he needs to grow up a bit and stop drinking. Hopefully anyway.

rmbc82 · #12 October 14th, 2005, 01:53 PM

I don't know your brother or his girlfriend but maybe things will work out ok for them.

My sister is 18 and is dating a 32 year old. My parents and I haven't met the guy yet and so we don't have a clue what he is like. While we don't necessarily approve of their relationship theres nothing we can do because she is 18 and lives away at college. He doesn't interfere with her schoolwork so my parents don't say anything to her. Me being her sister wants to meet the guy so I know what hes like - I'd want to meet him if he were her age because I'm just nosy like that.

A very good friend of mine had her first child at 19 and her second at 20. She is a great mother to both and a good wife. I really don't think that age is an issue sometimes. I think its the maturity of the people together.

However....on the other side

Another really good friend had a baby with her on again/off again (to this day) boyfriend when she was 21. The baby is now 2 and stays with her grandparents most of the time because her parents are too busy partying all the time.

IBake2Boys+1Girl · #13 October 14th, 2005, 02:32 PM

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That is what I'm worried about. She knows about his drinking and she hates it. I'm really hoping the baby will let him grow up. As for her, I know she'll be a good mom, but you know how you wish that the younger ones would wait? (like i'm old, I'm 22) But even I have wished that I had waited because it really is hard and a big toll on the parents. They definatly weren't trying but my bro it the kind of guy who wouldn't worry about it. One of those "Don't worry, I'll pull out" types.

kitten936 · #14 October 14th, 2005, 03:36 PM

congrats on being an aunt

Jason and I have an 18 year age difference and it works out great im actually glad we hes older because I think most guys my age (im 23) arent ready to be a dad yet I know I wasnt ready to be a mom a year ago it just kind of happened and now I cant imagine going back.Remember that the only person that can change your brother is himself she can try but he has to want to do it himself or it wont work. Just remeber everyone grows u differntly but I wish them the best of luck.

IBake2Boys+1Girl · #15 October 14th, 2005, 04:00 PM

Thanks everyone for your supportive comments. I hope nobody thinks I'm judging them simply based on age. I do know there are a lot of young moms *like devon* who although have a hard time are wonderful mothers, and I know that age difference isn't such a big thing, but like you said ktten, only he can change himself and that is my biggest fear. That regardless of this little life that he probably already loves, that he won't grow up and act his normal age. I do wish them all the best and I am excited to be an auntie....I just wish the best for them.