[♥womanintheshoe♥]

I'm a bit on edge lately. I'm not usually like this yet know that during pregnancy I can get a bit...testy. So on Friday morning when I went to a moms group and was asked for the 18th time when my u/s is and told for the 18th time what I am having AND told for the 18th time that I won't be able to wait and oh surely you want to know and how it's better to find out (from moms who've never waited so how can they know it's better?!), I was a bit miffed. I handled myself well, though, and just ate more brownies so I couldn't respond as my mouth was full.

So that was Friday. Today (Sat.) I went to Goodwill and hit the mother lode for maternity shirts (yeah!) but as I was filling my cart a pg woman came and stood right by me looking at shoes, talking on her cell phone (right there I felt my annoyance building...hang up the stupid phone and shop already, people!) and talking loudly (as in "I want everyone to hear my conversation because I'm the only one who matters" kind of loud). I started to flip through the clothes a bit more aggressively. By the time she walked away I was throwing clothes into my cart and I almost broke a hanger, I was so annoyed! Her conversation in a nutshell was that she was going in on Wednesday to be induced because baby is full term at 37 weeks and since she was 38 weeks she is anxious to meet the baby so in she'll go at 6am at which point the doctor will break her water and start pit. The point at which I grabbed my cart and held on so that I wouldn't grab her phone, turn it off and shake her silly was when she said, "This being my first, things should go smoothly."

My tongue is blistered from biting it. Tomorrow I get to go to church where the woman who says I eat too much is and others who will tell me how things are during pregnancy and what having a new baby is like will add to my lovely emotions.

Sometimes I wish I could just let loose, tell women that no, they do NOT know what I'm having unless God found them suitable as His replacement and yes, I WILL be fine with waiting and I DO think it better (for me) to not find out. Or to provide the nitnoid in Goodwill with the suggestion that maybe, just maybe, she shouldn't be so ignorant and should educate herself before doing that to her body? Or take a huge donut and shove it in my mouth right in front of the crochety old woman who watches my every move. Or respond with, "No, REALLY??? I didn't know anything about being pg or having a new baby!" to those who think I know nothing.

OK...rant over.

Here's my pity party: Feel free to copy and paste as a response, lol.

On a positive note, the $700 error on my tax refund was in our favor so I bought the Sunshine Radian carseat I've wanted, paid less than $25 for 2 pants, 1 skirt and 5 shirts at Goodwill, and found out tonight that I can still dance the Irish jig...in 2" heels, no less! So there are good things, thankfully.

[ZZ0607]

LoL at the phone conversation. I doubt it will go smoothly, but I hope it does for health's sake. I'm all for natural. If I'd heard that conversation my thoughts would've been: lol r u 4 srsly??!! Long explanation, but it's funny, trust me.

And people telling you how pregnancy is? Really?? I mean... really?!? Do they know your family? I was incredulous after that one. I mean, I'm sure even someone with 50 kids isn't a expert or knows everything, but I think by #9 you'd have a pretty good idea.

Mommy groups are difficult. I went to one for a year and never really clicked with anyone, so I quit going. Is this the 18th version of that conversation within that group?? Although, blame mommy brain? Sometimes it takes me 18 times to remember something. I wouldn't tell someone what's best though. I'm just one of the impatient ones who has to know. I ruined my surprise 18th birthday party because I HATE being in the dark on things. Imagine my daily frustration.

Unfortunately, there's not much you can say to people to make them think differently. Or to keep their thoughts to themselves. So, brownies and a deaf ear are probably the best solution!! For the most part I smile, nod, & walk away the same.

[Mommy2Ethan]

I have been feeling the same way around people.... My problem is I don't bite my tongue, and it gets me in trouble a-lot!

[♥womanintheshoe♥]

And people telling you how pregnancy is? Really?? I mean... really?!? Do they know your family?

Really. Yes, they know my family...I usually have most of my dc surrounding me as they are talking and my baby in my arms! It is incredible, isn't it? Especially when they inform me of things rather than just share their experience. Usually I find it more amusing than annoying but it has happened a lot lately.

As for the moms group that same conversation about u/s and finding out happened every single time I spoke to someone on Friday. Maybe not 18 times but probably a dozen times. It got old.

For the most part I smile, nod, & walk away the same.

This is what I usually do (or throw clothes in a cart) but tonight I just had to let it out. Thank goodness for message boards.

[mommydiva]

I have snapped a few times at people. And I am about to snap on a few more who feel the need to tell me that I am ignorant and stupid because I am planning on an epidural(in real life). Hello I have done the research I know the things I want and don't want and so don't tell me I won't know what real birth is like. I know my body as far as pain tolerance is, and I do not have the ability to meditate when I am pain. And honestly if its true that your cramps are a good indication of what your labor is like yeah I will be way to stressed without the pain medication. Sure I would love and have looked into different birthing methods however I just know me and have decided. So leave me alone already.


Oh the people on the phone thing I usually don't mind but no need to talk where everyone can hear it.

[amber1]

YIKES! sorry to hear that you are going through all the drama. I havent had such a bad time with it yet thank goodness. Just a lot of the normal how do you feel or whens your due date. My boss however is the one who flips out on me everyday because I havent been eating enough, but purely it is just a lot from stress from my mom passing and stuff like that. But Im doing better. I can see her point so it doesnt really bug me when she says something but I can definately see how you would be so annoyed. Good luck, hope people stay out of your business so you can get some peace of mind.

[Trish36]

LOL that woman in the Goodwill store doesn't know what she's in for. Especially if she's being induced.
Yeah, people just have to give you their 2cents, whether you want it or not.
I think you should speak up, then maybe these women will leave you alone for once.

[srprisebean3]

LOL! I love your rants Are you sure you aren't wearing some kind of sign on your back? Because you get way too much CRAZY unsolicited advice!

I mostly get comments on what i eat, i was talking to a friend about how DH and i went out to sushi the other night and someone standing near by (didn't know this person) says "you know you shouldn't be eating that right"

I looked at her and said "No, no one ever told me! Does that mean i can't drink beer or take my diet pills anymore either?" Her jaw hit the floor and she walked away! It was awesome, Who does that? Had she been listening to the FIRST part of the conversation she would have known that i only ate rolls that were COOKED!

i feel the same way about ignorant mommies to be. The ones that think pregnancy, childbirth and a new baby are all Rainbows and butterfly poop. You wouldn't believe some of the things i saw on the L&D floor!

[ZZ0607]

Originally Posted by srprisebean3

I mostly get comments on what i eat, i was talking to a friend about how DH and i went out to sushi the other night and someone standing near by (didn't know this person) says "you know you shouldn't be eating that right"

I'm guilty of that one, but between DH and I. He wanted me to try sushi sometime and I said, "Ew! Besides I can't! I'm pregnant." He came back with, "You know, not all sushi is raw." Me: "... ... oh." I still haven't tried it yet, though.

[inyourhonor]

I'm always amused at a first time mom whos still pregnant giving me advice on how to raise my kids haha. Its like this is my 3rd time around, I think I know what I'm doing!

I probably would have "accidentally" rammed my cart into her ankle haha.

I've found myself much more easily tested also. I hope you stop getting some ridiculous advice!

[NCRG2010]

the talking on the phone drives sme absolutely insane and i ALWAYS say something when people are yapping loud in a store. i tap them on the shoulder and say "no one wants to hear your conversation"

[Missitta]

Ugh, I'm there too. I am a supervisor at my work and my fuse is SHORT!!!!!

I also have people telling my what I should and should not do and eat. They don't know that my doctor told me to eat ANYTHING I want since I have been so sick and haven't gained any weight and she is getting nervous. Normally that is still fresh fruit and veggie related products (I have an absolute meat aversion) but every once in a while it is a bag of skittles and a gatorade. And I CAN if I want to!!!In fact she told me to eat as many calories as possible. I get frustrated with people who tell others how to do pregnancy when they have no idea whats going on.

Hang in there. We're only halfway there. Pretty soon people are going to start making those "You sure you're not having twins?" Comments.... if they haven't already, and they have for me.

[pr1madona]

I would have said something to that lady. I am sure her labor will NOT go smoothly once Pit is added to the picture, or an epidural for that matter. I've heard about women who thought they were 38weeks along and got induced and the baby had problems because it appeared younger than that and it's lungs weren't fully developed. My old OB started talking about inducing me because DD was due around Labor Day and he thought it would be more convenient. He said that's what his wife did while pregnant. I switched Dr's and never went back. lol.

[ECUPirate]

I feel your pain. I was grocery shopping the other day and the lady in line behind me with her kids was driving me absolutely bonkers because of: her voice. That was it. She was whiney and complaining about how long the line was and how she should of gone somewhere else to shop and I felt like she said it 997928734982739843 times. I wanted to shove one of her oranges in her mouth so she would shut up. I find myself losing patience with people very easily right now, and it wasn't even anything directed at me. If I were you and someone was telling me how much I was overeating I think I'd snap...then I'll walk in with a dozen doughnuts and pretend I was going to eat every.single.one of them!

[knightsgirl]

Originally Posted by srprisebean3

I mostly get comments on what i eat, i was talking to a friend about how DH and i went out to sushi the other night and someone standing near by (didn't know this person) says "you know you shouldn't be eating that right"

I looked at her and said "No, no one ever told me! Does that mean i can't drink beer or take my diet pills anymore either?" Her jaw hit the floor and she walked away! It was awesome, Who does that? Had she been listening to the FIRST part of the conversation she would have known that i only ate rolls that were COOKED!

I'm "guilty" of eating things on the no-no list (lunch meats are my usual vice). After having sushi only *once* since I got pregnant back in Dec. 2007, I said "Screw it!" last night. Japanese women live on this stuff and they have plenty of healthy babies! =D So I got some Tsunami Rolls at Target. They were *so* delicious!! lol

Thankfully, I haven't had people trying to impart their "knowledge" upon me (except maybe my mom) or making rude comments. I am like many of you that I just get *so* annoyed with people sometimes ... but I'm like that normally ... so imagine when pregnancy hormones kick in!! Usually the brunt of my annoyance is focused on my step-son, who just seems to know how to irritate the piss out of me. But he's a teenager, and I think that's part of their job! =D

As for the woman on the phone inducing labor two weeks early ... my opinion is that unless it's medically necessary, inductions and c-sections should not be performed, especially early! I was induced and had an epidural but I was 41.5 weeks carrying a 9lb baby ... he didn't need to "cook" any longer! Thankfully, my induction went smoothly and I had a fantastic birth experience ... but I know many women don't. So why put those added risks onto your labor and delivery? Seems silly to me.

Anyway ... let's just hope all the nosy busy bodies stay out of our way ... and the annoying people keep their mouths shut so they don't have pregnant women "attacking" them for being whiny! =D

[laisydaisymama]

I'm impressed lol, that's all I have to say!

[♥womanintheshoe♥]

The ones that think pregnancy, childbirth and a new baby are all Rainbows and butterfly poop.

lol

the talking on the phone drives sme absolutely insane and i ALWAYS say something when people are yapping loud in a store. i tap them on the shoulder and say "no one wants to hear your conversation"

One of these days I'll have to try that - you are brave!

I'm so relieved at the responses. This morning at church I was thinking about how I whined and complained in my post and was quite embarrassed; good to know I'm not alone! We showed up to church last minute and left right away so the only comments I heard were about my feeling better.

You ladies are great. It's nice to know we can rant here and be "safe" in doing so.

[amhk]

I have been so irritable lately, I don't think I would be able to handle all of those annoyances as well as you have!

[TeresaSuperMama]

Lol, my hormones have been decently in check these days. I swear I have been half as hormonal as I normally am during pregnancy and then that makes me worry because I start feeling "unpregnant". I have gotten very good at biting my tongue these days.

That lady at the Good will would have got along nicely with the guy at the Target last week that was going on and on and on and on about how advanced his 2 year old was because she watches Dora and now can count to 5 in Spanish. I was thinking "um, woopy doopy doo I hate to break it to you dude, but every other 2 year old on the planet that watches Dora can do that." Not to say that every 2 year old really can do that, but come on. It wasn't like she was counting to 100 in Spanish. Then I'd have been impressed.