DH might miss the u/s...

MamaAnna · #1 March 16th, 2010, 05:39 AM

DH was supposed to be working at a job site about an hour and a half away today with a guy that usually finishes early and definitely would've let him leave either way so he can make it to the u/s this afternoon. The thing is when he got there they told him there was a change in plans and now he has to do a solo job on the far side of DC.

It can take him two and a half to three hours to get back from the far side of DC so unless he finishes early (not very likely on a solo job) there's just no way he'll be able to make it. If somebody else were there he could still leave, but since it's just him it has to be finished first even if it means staying late which it very well could. I'm so nervous about today and really need him to be there to calm me down and as much as I need him there I know he wants to be there. Neither of us has seen the baby in 12 weeks and I know he really wants to and wants to be there if/when they determine the gender and everything. He wants to hold our youngest up so she can see the baby on the screen even though she'll have no idea what she's looking at. I just don't know how he can make it at this point.

Shalyn · #2 March 16th, 2010, 05:42 AM

Sounds like what happened to us with my 2nd baby. I was so sad he couldn't go with me. Hugs.

sunshyne57 · #3 March 16th, 2010, 06:29 AM

Aww I'm sorry. That really sucks

I thought my DH wasn't able to make it to my big ultrasound either, but he was able to make it at the last minute.

I know it's not the same, but do you have someone else that can go with you for support so that you don't have to go alone?

You can always have the tech write out the gender on your ultrasound picture and you can both be surprised together. That's what I was going to do if my husband couldn't make the ultrasound.

Good luck today!

krystal g · #4 March 16th, 2010, 06:32 AM

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Originally Posted by sunshyne57

You can always have the tech write out the gender on your ultrasound picture and you can both be surprised together. That's what I was going to do if my husband couldn't make the ultrasound.

I really like that idea if your DH can't make it. I'm sorry, I hope he is able to be there.

Shalyn · #5 March 16th, 2010, 06:46 AM

That's what we did too..............I had an envelope ready w/ little pieces of paper, one said I't a girl and one said "It's a boy" and I told the U/S tech to take one out. Then once he was home we opened it together (although I was pretty positive I had already seen what she was on the screen).

srprisebean3 · #6 March 16th, 2010, 06:52 AM

That sucks! I'm sorry, i agree if he can't go do something fun so you can both find out together.

I know a gal who actually had the tech write down the gender and put it in the envelope. She then took it to a bakery and had them make her a cake with either pink or blue filling (she gave the decorator the envelope). Then they wrote

"Its a......" on the cake. She said it was a lot of fun to cut it as a family after dinner....and of course eat the cake

MamaAnna · #7 March 16th, 2010, 06:59 AM

Thanks for the support ladies. I don't have anybody else that could go along. The nearest relative is 40 minutes away and I'm not even talking to her, plus I don't have any friends out here. It's like I've been shunned because I'm the only young mom or something, they don't even say hello to me and when I've arranged play dates the other mom has been a no-show. It makes it pretty lonely when it comes to stuff like this.

We keep talking about whether or not there's a stem on the apple so maybe I will take an envelope along just in case and have her put which ever apple in applies. I really don't want to find out without DH, it just doesn't seem right since he's so excited about it.

Trish36 · #8 March 16th, 2010, 07:35 AM

I hope he'll make it!

~Devon~ · #9 March 16th, 2010, 07:47 AM

Well, you could always call and see when the next available appointment is. Explain the situation and just tell them that you are considering rescheduling. If you do go and find out, then you could swing by a grocery store and purchase an apple, either with or without the stem!

amhk · #10 March 16th, 2010, 08:10 AM

I am so sorry! My DH didn't get to make our ultrasound this time and while I was sad, I was not sad enough to wait to find the gender for a couple of weeks if I rescheduled. Wouldn't you know they couldn't tell me the gender for sure anyway

I think all of the ideas above are awesome and if he can't make it, maybe do something like that so you will be surprised together.

MamaAnna · #11 March 16th, 2010, 08:19 AM

I had to push to get them to do it as late as they are today. Normally it would be done as an early morning appointment since they combine it with an OB visit so if I rescheduled there's even less of a chance he'll make it. I'm just going to hope for the best.

knightsgirl · #12 March 16th, 2010, 09:24 AM

When I was pregnant with Jaiden, we had gone in and had an emergency u/s ... we discussed in the car on the way there that we wanted to find out what we were having. Of course, Jaiden wasn't cooperative (and everything was alright ... just had bleeding from the outside of my cervix).

We scheduled the regular anatomy scan for a few days later and it ended up that because of work DH was running late. I didn't want to find out without him, so I asked our tech to write down what it was and put it in an envelope I had brought with me. Also, when she went to look for his "parts" she let me know so I wasn't looking at the screen.

DH got there just after we finished and we sat down in the waiting area and pulled out the pictures. We both got to see together that we were having a little boy! I know he felt disappointed that he couldn't be there for the u/s, but having that moment with him was wonderful!

I hope everything works out with the u/s and DH can make it on time. But if not, there have been a lot of great ideas for finding out together!

forest · #13 March 16th, 2010, 09:36 AM

I really hope that he makes it!! If not the other ladies have some great ideas so you can learn the gender news together. Do you have a video camera? Maybe you could record the u/s as well so your DH can see it too.

TeresaSuperMama · #14 March 16th, 2010, 09:58 AM

That really stinks! I hope he can make it. I'm not 100% sure if dh is going to make it to our big u/s either, but we aren't finding out what we are having so it's not as big of a deal.

MamaAnna · #15 March 16th, 2010, 10:09 AM

I don't have a video camera, but we are getting a DVD of the u/s so I may be able to get her to label a picture of the baby to show boy or girl and we can watch the DVD on the TV at home together. He hasn't called to say he's loading up yet or anything so at this point it isn't looking good. I'll keep hoping until they call me back though. My luck it'll be the one time they're not behind schedule.

ZZ0607 · #16 March 16th, 2010, 10:11 AM

Aw. DH hasn't been to any ultrasound since the 10 week with baby #1. He plans to go to this one, though, so I'm really excited about that. I hope you are able to find out the gender together in some creative way if he can't make it. I really hope he makes it though.

Cheryl_W · #17 March 16th, 2010, 10:48 AM

Oh Anna that sucks... I just realized on the PCOS board, you're 3 days ahead of me! That's close!

Anyway, maybe you can just turn away from the screen and watch the DVD so you can both see it together. I started to cry just reading your post, I know how much that must suck but be strong! And you've got all of us girls here with you during your u/s, even if we can't physically be there, we're holding your hand in our hearts

oriel13 · #18 March 16th, 2010, 10:54 AM

That really stinks. Hopefully he will make it, but if not I agree about having the tech write it down so you find out together. My DH was deployed last time, it totally sucks to go to these big moments by yourself.