I feel so bad this pregnancy With my dd I had troubles in the beginning but I never once complained. I had energy all the time. I was working 40+ hours a week, and doing a fantastic job at keeping up on the house duties and everything. Even cooking wonderful dinners EVERY night! I felt like a wonderful wife, and soon to be mommy! I actually looked down on others who would leave work months early because "they couldnt handle it" when I worked the day I had my dd and I would get so mad at women who would "complain" about little aches and pains. I feel bad because Im now one of those women!! Even though I didnt have any m/s I still didnt hardly eat so I never cooked dinner and Im still not doing hardly any cooking. Now, Im hurting so bad in my back and pelvic area that it hurts to sweep and mop, and even do laundry. I havent taken the dog on a walk in 2 months (we have a fenced in back yard so it helps my laziness). Today I had a horrible headache, and DH is at work till in the AM, I ended up dozing off and sleeping for 2 hours this afternoon while DD was watching TV!!!! I have never done that..sorry I just have to vent..and now Im crying because I feel like Im not doing a great job this time. And when I talk to DH about he actually supports me and says to let my body decide what I can and cannt do. He's picked up all the slack and I feel horrible about it

[Bridgett_H]

(((hugs))) I know exactly how you feel! I had my first two when i was really young (18 & 19). I was one of those people that just breezed through it with very little discomfort. Walked out of the hospital wearing my prepregnancy clothes, and never missed a beat.
Fast forward 14 years....a lot has changed. I feel so bad sometimes, that I feel so yucky...there are days I just don't feel like doing anything. Like yours my husband doesn't complain....as a matter of fact, he just got through vacuuming just a little bit ago.
Try not to feel bad, and just give yourself a break. I was feeling so guilty for a while, but I try to just make sure i do the things I honestly feel like doing, and the other stuff, I just know that I honestly don't feel like it.
Just be sure and take care of yourself. Let them help you out....it's one of the few times you have a good reason.

[alinne1026]

I feel the same way and I know it's hard not to get down on yourself about it. The most important thing is that you listen to your body. If your body is telling you not to over-do it, then you really shouldn't feel guilty taking a nap, laying on the couch, etc. I know it isn't pleasant with all they aching, cramping etc. but the good news is that this is a temporary thing. Like you both, I am also lucky that DH has picked up A LOT of the slack. I don't know what I would do without him. Hang in there and, remember, we're here if you are feeling down and just need to vent...

[naznurse]

Hey DDB-I know how you feel-I'm too tired to do a lot of the things I used to do with my kids and I've been feeling a little guilty too. But your DH is right-your body is telling you to slow down a little. It's harder the 2nd time around because you're running after a toddler in addition to everything else so you're gonna need a little rest-and I'll confess I've slept through some of my daughter's t.v. shows while pregnant the last time(and a few times this pregnancy). Don't worry this will all pass and if you need to vent on here it's okay-that's what we're here for.

[mom2lexi]

I am right there with you! While my m/s has finally passed, I am still very achy and it doesn't take much to tire me out. Some days I don't do anything around the house. My DH isn't as understand I guess because he gets mad if I haven't done something. His view is that he's at work all day making money, I should be working at the house. I also feel guilty because I just have no desire to dtd either. It has been a few weeks for us now and I feel bad. It hurts and by the end of the day, I am so exhausted that all I want to do is sleep. Hang in there though, things will get better....

[blue lotus]

I'm feeling the same way, except that this is my first pregnancy and I didn't have the prior good experience to compare. Before I got pregnant, I was working over 80 hours a week, at a high-stress job, with occasional 30-hour shifts with no sleep. We don't take sick days unless we are dying, and we work through holidays. I boasted about how little sleep I needed. During this pregnancy, I have felt like crap the ENTIRE time. The vomiting only stopped recently (well, it actually still happens once a week, but that's a million times better than it was). And I sleep an INSANE amount (of course I also have difficulty staying asleep for more than several hours now, have constant nightmares, and wake up sore). Thankfully, I scheduled this year so that I would be on a sort of break, working at my own pace. But I feel so incompetent. I'm not nearly as productive as I could be. My husband is understanding and tells me not to worry about it, that my body just needs rest now.
I don't know how I can have a second child if pregnancy is this bad I won't be able to have another year off like this, and I can't imagine working my regular job feeling like this. I actually have to go back to that job in the last month of pregnancy (mid-June) because that is when my break year ends. Not sure how that is going to work out (sick days aren't acceptable in my field)

[Wifenmomalwys]

Originally Posted by LuvinFireWife

And when I talk to DH about he actually supports me and says to let my body decide what I can and cannt do. He's picked up all the slack and I feel horrible about it

He is absolutely right! That is great that he is being supportive.

My husband get's annoyed with me I guess b/c since this is our 3rd, he thinks I should be a pro by now?? I really don't know, but it irritates the crap out of me.
But I do understand how you feel. Some days I have good days and then other's are really bad for me.

[tatedivine]

I feel the same too. I am completely exhausted all the time. I just can't do anything, unfortunately no one else is picking up the slack for me, so I have to say that you have a wonderful husband who is completely right. I tell you, I just can't wait to start feeling normal again.