[daisygarten]

DELIVERY:
C-Section or Vaginal (not a choice, obviously lol, just a wish!)? vaginal
Natural or Epidural? natural for as long as possible, then give me the epi!
Home or Hospital?Hospital
Midwife or Ob-Gyn?OB
Baby cleaned up or put on your belly first? Either
Baby rooming in or staying in the nursery?Room In
Stay in hospital as long as possible or go home as soon as possible (if hospital birth)? 1-2 days would be nice, athough if I have to keep my iv in for 24 hrs after birth again, I'm sneaking out

PARENTING (first few months):
Co-sleeping/crib/or bassinet? co sleeping when I'm too tired to be vigilant, pack n play as much as poss. then to crib
Breast or Formula? Breast
Cloth or Disposable diapers? disposible, but interested in the hybrid
Scheduling feedings or feeding on demand? on demand, will help it evolve to a schedule
Baby-wearing or no? yes!
Self-soothing or attachment? both, dh and I hope to blend his self-soothing with my attachment background. should be interesting
Pacifier or no pacifier?no success so far, i would love it for the car

[blue lotus]

Originally Posted by Hollybear

Okay, after reading everyone's responses I feel incredibly stupid!
I am not exactly sure what attachment and self-soothing means.
I'm also not clear on what feeding on demand and schedules are either.

When they are on a schedule, do you wake them up to feed them?

I'm sitting here asking DH, as if he knows LOL

Well I'll tell you what I think they mean

"Attachment parenting" is a whole style of parenting - currently the most famous "attachment parenting" book out there is Dr. Sears' Baby Book. Attachment parenting is about allowing the infant to be as close to the parents as possible (physically and emotionally) in order to support independence later on (babies need security before they can build a sense of self and the confidence to explore their environment). The practical aspects are: baby-wearing (holding the baby or using a sling rather than having the baby in a stroller or crib most of the time), co-sleeping or at least sleeping in the same room, breastfeeding if possible, and not letting an infant "cry it out" alone. Self-soothing would be letting the baby cry it out to some extent while learning to sleep in a crib, for example. For newborns at least, babies don't have a sense of self yet - it's hard to imagine, but a newborn doesn't really get that he is an "individual" who is separate from the things around him (like mom and dad, etc). It's tough to "self-soothe" when you don't have a concept of self. This is why proponents of CIO usually don't encourage it before 6 months - the newborn who is left to CIO learns only that he can't expect help when he is crying, but he has no idea why. There are milder forms of CIO, like the Ferber method, in which you gradually let the baby adjust to being alone in a crib, responding immediately to their cries initially but if they are ok then letting them wait longer each time. Of course when the child is old enough they will need to learn to comfort themselves to some extent - this will happen whether or not you practice attachment or CIO. But the understandings of a toddler and those of a newborn are worlds apart; one is equipped to self-soothe to some extent and the other is not.

About feeding on demand: It means what it sounds like. The baby eats when he/she is hungry. She may want to feed every hour one day, so you let her feed every hour. If she wants to take a 5 hour nap before the next feeding, you let her. Different babies will have their own schedules, which will vary with how old they are, how much they are growing, etc. With scheduled feeding, you get them on a schedule and you stick to it. So yes, that means waking them up for feedings. It also means not feeding them if it isn't time yet. This is tough in a newborn who doesn't understand why you aren't feeding her. Also it seems that a lot of parents plan on using a loose schedule but will adjust for the baby.

[Jule'sMomInOR]

DELIVERY:
C-Section or Vaginal (not a choice, obviously lol, just a wish!)?vaginal
Natural or Epidural? natural
Home or Hospital? hospital
Midwife or Ob-Gyn? OB
Baby cleaned up or put on your belly first? belly first
Baby rooming in or staying in the nursery? rooming in
Stay in hospital as long as possible or go home as soon as possible (if hospital birth)? home

PARENTING (first few months):
Co-sleeping/crib/or bassinet? co-sleeping
Breast or Formula? breast
Cloth or Disposable diapers?mostly disposable, have a few cloth for when I'm feeling ambitious
Scheduling feedings or feeding on demand? on demand
Baby-wearing or no? yes
Self-soothing or attachment? attachment at first
Pacifier or no pacifier? ideally none, probably will use one though

[-LovingLife-]

DELIVERY:
C-Section or Vaginal (not a choice, obviously lol, just a wish!)? Vaginal
Natural or Epidural? Natural
Home or Hospital? Would love home, but will prob be hospital
Midwife or Ob-Gyn? Would love midwife, but will prob be my OB
Baby cleaned up or put on your belly first? On me, then cleaned up, then back to me again
Baby rooming in or staying in the nursery? Rooming in
Stay in hospital as long as possible or go home as soon as possible (if hospital birth)? Home as soon as possible

PARENTING (first few months):
Co-sleeping/crib/or bassinet? Mixture of co-sleeping and crib
Breast or Formula? Breast
Cloth or Disposable diapers? Want cloth, but might have to do disposable
Scheduling feedings or feeding on demand? Feeding on demand
Baby-wearing or no? Baby-wearing
Self-soothing or attachment? Attachment
Pacifier or no pacifier? No paci

[Hollybear]

Originally Posted by blue lotus

Well I'll tell you what I think they mean

"Attachment parenting" is a whole style of parenting - currently the most famous "attachment parenting" book out there is Dr. Sears' Baby Book. Attachment parenting is about allowing the infant to be as close to the parents as possible (physically and emotionally) in order to support independence later on (babies need security before they can build a sense of self and the confidence to explore their environment). The practical aspects are: baby-wearing (holding the baby or using a sling rather than having the baby in a stroller or crib most of the time), co-sleeping or at least sleeping in the same room, breastfeeding if possible, and not letting an infant "cry it out" alone. Self-soothing would be letting the baby cry it out to some extent while learning to sleep in a crib, for example. For newborns at least, babies don't have a sense of self yet - it's hard to imagine, but a newborn doesn't really get that he is an "individual" who is separate from the things around him (like mom and dad, etc). It's tough to "self-soothe" when you don't have a concept of self. This is why proponents of CIO usually don't encourage it before 6 months - the newborn who is left to CIO learns only that he can't expect help when he is crying, but he has no idea why. There are milder forms of CIO, like the Ferber method, in which you gradually let the baby adjust to being alone in a crib, responding immediately to their cries initially but if they are ok then letting them wait longer each time. Of course when the child is old enough they will need to learn to comfort themselves to some extent - this will happen whether or not you practice attachment or CIO. But the understandings of a toddler and those of a newborn are worlds apart; one is equipped to self-soothe to some extent and the other is not.

About feeding on demand: It means what it sounds like. The baby eats when he/she is hungry. She may want to feed every hour one day, so you let her feed every hour. If she wants to take a 5 hour nap before the next feeding, you let her. Different babies will have their own schedules, which will vary with how old they are, how much they are growing, etc. With scheduled feeding, you get them on a schedule and you stick to it. So yes, that means waking them up for feedings. It also means not feeding them if it isn't time yet. This is tough in a newborn who doesn't understand why you aren't feeding her. Also it seems that a lot of parents plan on using a loose schedule but will adjust for the baby.

Thank you So I guess I am more an AP parent than anything since she'll be sleeping right next to us for a while, etc. I also don't think I would do well with a schedule, LOL

[Sapphire2010]

DELIVERY:
C-Section or Vaginal (not a choice, obviously lol, just a wish!)? Hopefully vaginal but possible c-section
Natural or Epidural? Epi
Home or Hospital? Hospital
Midwife or Ob-Gyn? Midwife, it's all we have in england
Baby cleaned up or put on your belly first? Put on belly first
Baby rooming in or staying in the nursery? Rooming in
Stay in hospital as long as possible or go home as soon as possible (if hospital birth)? Go home asap

PARENTING (first few months):
Co-sleeping/crib/or bassinet? They will be in moses baskets in our room
Breast or Formula? Breast hopefully
Cloth or Disposable diapers? Sposies
Scheduling feedings or feeding on demand? Feeding on demand to start with, will eventualyl work on schedule
Baby-wearing or no? No
Self-soothing or attachment? Self-soothing
Pacifier or no pacifier? Pacifier if they need one

[AndiNW]

DELIVERY:
C-Section or Vaginal (not a choice, obviously lol, just a wish!)? Vaginal...although I'm nervous if this baby is larger that DD. The thought of a 10 pounder scares me!
Natural or Epidural? Natural for as long as possible
Home or Hospital? Hospital
Midwife or Ob-Gyn? OB
Baby cleaned up or put on your belly first? Not sure yet
Baby rooming in or staying in the nursery? Rooming in...it's the only option here!
Stay in hospital as long as possible or go home as soon as possible (if hospital birth)? Go home

PARENTING (first few months):
Co-sleeping/crib/or bassinet? Moses basket
Breast or Formula? Breast
Cloth or Disposable diapers? Disposables
Scheduling feedings or feeding on demand? On demand
Baby-wearing or no? Baby-wearing
Self-soothing or attachment? Attachment
Pacifier or no pacifier? I have not problems giving a pacifier if this LO wants one

[Mom-Mom]

Originally Posted by Hollybear

Okay, after reading everyone's responses I feel incredibly stupid!
I am not exactly sure what attachment and self-soothing means.
I'm also not clear on what feeding on demand and schedules are either.

When they are on a schedule, do you wake them up to feed them?

I'm sitting here asking DH, as if he knows LOL

Holly, you are pretty spot-on w/your answers.

Feeding on demand is when you feed the baby when it wants to eat, but eventually they do fall into a schedule. But scheduling feedings first, is when ppl look at the clock & time baby's feedings...and in the middle of the night, they wake baby up every 2 hrs to eat (if they are scheduling feedings every 2 hrs)...when you feed on demand, you dont wake baby up...bc baby will wake up when baby is hungry. But babies eventually form their own schedule, so you were right about that.

Self-soothing is when you teach baby to put him/herself back to sleep, by eventually waiting longer & longer to respond to baby's cries. It is different then letting them cry it out, which is where you let baby cry as long as it takes for them to cry themselves back to sleep.

Attachment parenting i am not 100% sure about...i believe it is where you constantly have baby with/on you; by holding baby, co-sleeping, baby wearing, etc. Someone else can answer that part better then i can.

Dont feel like that though, seems to me you already have a pretty good handle on what to do.

[iluvgummies]

DELIVERY:
C-Section or Vaginal (not a choice, obviously lol, just a wish!)? C/S
Natural or Epidural? I'd say natural, but w/ the C/S that's not really a choice
Home or Hospital? Hospital
Midwife or Ob-Gyn? OB
Baby cleaned up or put on your belly first? Belly first
Baby rooming in or staying in the nursery? Nursery - take my sleep while I can get it.
Stay in hospital as long as possible or go home as soon as possible (if hospital birth)? Home

PARENTING (first few months):
Co-sleeping/crib/or bassinet? Umm, probably the same as last time, which was baby in the boppy on the end of the couch, lol
Breast or Formula? BF
Cloth or Disposable diapers? Disposables
Scheduling feedings or feeding on demand? Combination
Baby-wearing or no? Hoping for baby wearing this time, just never got in the habit of it w/ DS
Self-soothing or attachment? Self-soothing
Pacifier or no pacifier? Not opposed to it, but hoping DD is like DS who never really wanted one.

[Hollybear]

Originally Posted by Mom-Mom

Holly, you are pretty spot-on w/your answers.

Feeding on demand is when you feed the baby when it wants to eat, but eventually they do fall into a schedule. But scheduling feedings first, is when ppl look at the clock & time baby's feedings...and in the middle of the night, they wake baby up every 2 hrs to eat (if they are scheduling feedings every 2 hrs)...when you feed on demand, you dont wake baby up...bc baby will wake up when baby is hungry. But babies eventually form their own schedule, so you were right about that.

Self-soothing is when you teach baby to put him/herself back to sleep, by eventually waiting longer & longer to respond to baby's cries. It is different then letting them cry it out, which is where you let baby cry as long as it takes for them to cry themselves back to sleep.

Attachment parenting i am not 100% sure about...i believe it is where you constantly have baby with/on you; by holding baby, co-sleeping, baby wearing, etc. Someone else can answer that part better then i can.

Dont feel like that though, seems to me you already have a pretty good handle on what to do.

Thanks

There is so much that I didn't realize I didn't know, lol

[Jamiesmommabear]

DELIVERY:
C-Section or Vaginal (not a choice, obviously lol, just a wish!)? Vaginal
Natural or Epidural?I would love to be able to do natural
Home or Hospital?hospital
Midwife or Ob-Gyn?OBGYN
Baby cleaned up or put on your belly first?I want him first
Baby rooming in or staying in the nursery?Staying in my room
Stay in hospital as long as possible or go home as soon as possible (if hospital birth)?hopefully go home

PARENTING (first few months):
Co-sleeping/crib/or bassinet?crib
Breast or Formula?Breast
Cloth or Disposable diapers?Disposable
Scheduling feedings or feeding on demand?On Demand but keeping a schedule if that makes since
Baby-wearing or no?Not fully
Self-soothing or attachment?Attachment
Pacifier or no pacifier?no pacifier for the first couple weeks

[Nishkabibble]

DELIVERY:
C-Section or Vaginal (not a choice, obviously lol, just a wish!)? Hoping to VBAC
Natural or Epidural? Natural
Home or Hospital? Hospital, unfortunately
Midwife or Ob-Gyn? OB, unfortunately
Baby cleaned up or put on your belly first? Belly
Baby rooming in or staying in the nursery? Rooming in
Stay in hospital as long as possible or go home as soon as possible (if hospital birth)? Home ASAP

PARENTING (first few months):
Co-sleeping/crib/or bassinet? co-sleep, either in bed or basinette beside bed
Breast or Formula? Breast
Cloth or Disposable diapers? Gdiapers
Scheduling feedings or feeding on demand? On demand
Baby-wearing or no? Babywearing all the way!
Self-soothing or attachment? Both, I guess
Pacifier or no pacifier? We'll see. Hope to not

[Karlie]

DELIVERY:
C-Section or Vaginal - C Section.
Natural or Epidural?
Home or Hospital?
Midwife or Ob-Gyn? Midwives.
Baby cleaned up or put on your belly first? Skin to skin first with breastfeeding straight away.
Baby rooming in or staying in the nursery? Rooming in
Stay in hospital as long as possible or go home as soon as possible (if hospital birth)? HOME!

PARENTING (first few months):
Co-sleeping/crib/or bassinet? All three!
Breast or Formula? Breast at first but eventually both.
Cloth or Disposable diapers? Mostly cloth but sposies for outings and night
Scheduling feedings or feeding on demand? Demand.
Baby-wearing or no? Probably.
Self-soothing or attachment? Attachment.
Pacifier or no pacifier? No pacifiers.

[NickiRay]

DELIVERY:
C-Section or Vaginal (not a choice, obviously lol, just a wish!)? [B]Vaginal
Natural or Epidural? Epidural baby!!
Home or Hospital? Hospital
Midwife or Ob-Gyn? Ob-Gyn
Baby cleaned up or put on your belly first? Belly first
Baby rooming in or staying in the nursery? Roomin in
Stay in hospital as long as possible or go home as soon as possible (if hospital birth)? Go home ASAP

PARENTING (first few months):
Co-sleeping/crib/or bassinet? Bassinet right next to bed.
Breast or Formula? Breat
Cloth or Disposable diapers? Disposable
Scheduling feedings or feeding on demand? Schedule at first then demand. Always demand when baby wants it.
Baby-wearing or no? Yes; maybe.
Self-soothing or attachment? Self-soothing but no CIO
Pacifier or no pacifier? Pacifier

[tatedivine]

DELIVERY:
C-Section or Vaginal (not a choice, obviously lol, just a wish!)? Vaginal
Natural or Epidural? I'm scared of Epidurals, so natural
Home or Hospital? Hospital
Midwife or Ob-Gyn? I think it will be a mix of both as I'm being Induced
Baby cleaned up or put on your belly first? Belly first
Baby rooming in or staying in the nursery? Rooming in
Stay in hospital as long as possible or go home as soon as possible (if hospital birth)? Definitely having a little holiday in hospital. I think if you go into L&D they give you 3 days

PARENTING (first few months):
Co-sleeping/crib/or bassinet? Straight into own crib
Breast or Formula? Breast
Cloth or Disposable diapers? Disposable to start with but things may change later
Scheduling feedings or feeding on demand? Feeding on demand
Baby-wearing or no? Baby wearing.
Self-soothing or attachment? Attachment
Pacifier or no pacifier? I'm going to try for no pacifier, but I always say that. lol

[newmommy710]

DELIVERY:
C-Section or Vaginal (not a choice, obviously lol, just a wish!)? C-section
Natural or Epidural? Spinal
Home or Hospital? Hospital
Midwife or Ob-Gyn?Ob
Baby cleaned up or put on your belly first? I don't know what they do after a c-section
Baby rooming in or staying in the nursery? I don't know. Maybe he can stay in during the day and nursery at night. Not sure yet.
Stay in hospital as long as possible or go home as soon as possible (if hospital birth)? As long as possible

PARENTING (first few months):
Co-sleeping/crib/or bassinet? co sleeping or bassinet. What is co-sleeping anyway? lol
Breast or Formula? Breast
Cloth or Disposable diapers? Disposable
Scheduling feedings or feeding on demand? Feeding on demand
Baby-wearing or no? No
Self-soothing or attachment? Attachment
Pacifier or no pacifier? Pacifier

[sferle]

DELIVERY:
C-Section or Vaginal (not a choice, obviously lol, just a wish!)? Vaginal
Natural or Epidural?Natural
Home or Hospital?Hospital
Midwife or Ob-Gyn?Midwife
Baby cleaned up or put on your belly first?Belly First
Baby rooming in or staying in the nursery?Rooming
Stay in hospital as long as possible or go home as soon as possible (if hospital birth)?Stayin Hospital

PARENTING (first few months):
Co-sleeping/crib/or bassinet?Playpen
Breast or Formula?Breast
Cloth or Disposable diapers?Disposable
Scheduling feedings or feeding on demand?feed on demand
Baby-wearing or no?No
Self-soothing or attachment?Self Soothing
Pacifier or no pacifier?Pacifier after 3mths