OT- People should NOT be allowed to have children!

~Got Pink~ · #1 March 18th, 2010, 12:46 PM

We took the boys to the park this afternoon. When we got there, there were 3 moms, each had 1 boy and an infant...
The 3 older boys were HORRIBLE from the get-go.
Our kids always take big trucks/cars etc. to the park, for when they get bored of playing on the equipment, they can play with their toys.
My oldest brought his bike and a tonka truck, and Brax brought a weird truck thing lol.

So, these other boys TOOK their bike & trucks without asking and were acting like they were theirs. Their moms didn't say anything. (They were barely watching them, too occupied with the latest drama I assume)

THEN, they were throwing sand at braxton (Whose 2... they're at least 5-6ish). I removed Braxton from the situation...
Then Ryan (3) and BRaxton were playing on the slide etc. and one of the other boys said "Go punch that boy". I heard this from where I was, and their moms were WAY closer. So, I watched.... I saw all 3 of them charge at Ryan (Who is VERY shy, and wouldn't touch any of them) and PUNCH HIM!
I got up and I yelled at them, because obviously, their moms were too worried about who slept with who, to pay any attention. I told them to keep their hands to themselves. Then the mom called them over... and said "If she says anything to you again, you tell her to shut up"

Umm wow! If my kid PUNCHED someone, they'd be going home and into their rooms ASAP... I would NOT be telling them to tell someone to shut up. Way to be good parents!

Ang1885 · #2 March 18th, 2010, 12:52 PM

Are you sure they were mothers and not crazy people randomly sitting near the playground? LOL That sounds horrible! I'm glad you handled the situation though and didn't get in anyone's face like I would want to.

ElizabethS · #3 March 18th, 2010, 12:56 PM

Oh boy. Yes you should have to pass testing to be a parent lol!

~Got Pink~ · #4 March 18th, 2010, 12:56 PM

Forgot to add, one kid also flew down the slide when Braxton was walking by and kicked him over (RIGHT INFRONT OF THE MOTHERS) AND while they were yelling to DH and I to shut up they were laughing....
seriously, my blood was boiling!

Bridgett_H · #5 March 18th, 2010, 01:52 PM

omg...I think I used to live next door to these people.

You handled it much better than i would have!

EllenCarroll · #6 March 18th, 2010, 03:18 PM

HOLY CRAP!!

OMG you handled it much better than I would have. Just reading your post, I had my mouth wide open! I couldnt believe it! WOW... The nerve of those mothers to tell their childrent that!! and condone such horrible behavior!!

emschic · #7 March 18th, 2010, 03:33 PM

WOW.... yeah, I would probably be posting this from jail right now had that been me... I have no patience for crappy parents. Kudos on doing a good job on handling it in a positve fashion....

Arei_720 · #8 March 18th, 2010, 03:36 PM

"Oh, who's goin' to be an ex-con at 21?! Who's gonna be an ex-con? You are! Goochy-goochy-goo"
Unfortunately, these kids will one day be teenagers and then adults... yay for us...

preciousgiftsmama · #9 March 18th, 2010, 03:52 PM

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Originally Posted by emschic

WOW.... yeah, I would probably be posting this from jail right now had that been me.......

I have come close to having the cops called on me for defending my twins when they were young, and when we flew to FL when Julia was 2 y/o, my dh and I were actually taken off the plane by air marshalls at a layover in Chicago because of some super old $%%^^& lady who came over and actually yelled at our 2 y/o baby for being loud on the plane!!

Dh and I dont play with those who mess with our children. We have the best behaved and respectful children anyone could hope to meet and I would never allow my kids to act that way!!

That was horrible behavior on the kids and the parents ends, but you can totally see why the boys behaved as they did! Look at the loser role model mothers they have!! Oh it just makes me mad reading it!

alinne1026 · #10 March 18th, 2010, 06:10 PM

I would like to say I'm shocked but it's a sad but true reality that these "parents" exist. It is so important to me to raise respectful kids. Who talks to adults that way? Oh, that's right...kids whose parents ALLOW them or ENCOURAGE them to talk to adults that way. Makes my blood boil...

There was a little girl at the playground a couple days ago telling people to shut-up. My oldest came running over to me saying that the girl was being naughty and saying swear words. It's sad that this behavior and language is exceptable in some households but I'm proud to be raising kids who know better.

GinaOfAllTrades · #11 March 18th, 2010, 08:39 PM

OMG. I would have totally commented to the mother. May have actually wound up in jail also.

QMama · #12 March 18th, 2010, 09:00 PM

OMG, I would have told those boys and their moms off and probably gotten into a huge argument. And I'm pretty non-confrontational most of the time. Awful parenting and kids who act like that REALLY tick me off, though.

sethsmum · #13 March 19th, 2010, 02:25 AM

I can't stand bad parenting!! Just yesterday I was walking home from work and on the high street this woman was screaming at her daughter and the little girl was bawling her eyes out. She was screaming 'you are a nasty little girl, you're 4 years old, who the f*** do you think you are'. I walked past shaking trying not to say anything. As me and DF say, some people should just be sterilized, its horrible but these crappy parents are raising crappy kids and I hate it

mom2lexi · #14 March 19th, 2010, 05:24 AM

This is awful! My DD knows that if she doesn't play nice, she doesn't get to play!

I think I have told some of you before about my old neighbor. This woman is the true definition of people who should NEVER reproduce! She is a terrible parent. Who am I to judge, right. Well, I am may not be one to judge, but based on her criminal history, someone has the right to!

This woman has been arrested numerous times! Most of her arrests have been driving on a suspended license, but she has some other arrests that are bad. As has the kids dad! He was arrested last year for selling cannabis within 100 feet of a church. He was selling this out of their home, that the kids lived in. The SWAT team showed up, guns drawn and everything. I saw them come around the corner and immediately jumped off the couch and picked up Alexis and ran into our hallway because I feared that bullets would be flying.

The mom (who I call crazy lady) has been arrested not only for the DWLS's, but DUI, not having her kids restrained in car seats (her kids are 9, 5, and 2), soliciting prostitution to a cop (this happened during a traffic stop so it's not like he was undercover or anything,) and just last week she got arrested again for domestic battery and child abuse! The sad thing is that through all of her arrests, she keeps getting her kids back. She is on every government assistance program out there and begs for money around the neighborhood. (Although she isn't across the street from us anymore, she moved to one street behind us, and her boyfriend lives in our neighborhood, so she's always out here.) We finally refused to give her money because we realized she wasn't buying the diapers and milk she claimed she needed the money for. She was buying cigarettes and beer! So, if she asks us now, we offer to give her some diapers and/or milk, but she refuses everytime.

I feel bad for the poor kids! If they were placed in a better home, they may have a chance at a decent life. It's a sad situation! And this really makes my blood boil!

Wifenmomalwys · #15 March 19th, 2010, 10:08 AM

That is so crazy..It's sad how some people parent these days. And like QMama, I am usually non-confrontational, but there are times where I just can't keep the peace any longer.

clouise · #16 March 19th, 2010, 10:28 AM

Yeah get used to it! My older kids are 5 and 4 now, and as they get older it is harder to just follow behind them and monitor what is going on every second. It really is very shocking what some kids are allowed to do. I've ;earned that saying something to them or the parents is usually useless...although I will anyway. We end up just having to leave or move to another area if there are bratty kids there.

I asked some kid who was climbing up the tunnel slide with a MEDAL ROD to stop before someone got hurt the other day and he yelled down "I'm 11, and I can do whatever I want!"

mom2lexi · #17 March 19th, 2010, 01:57 PM

I don't know about ya'll but I am a firm believer in actually disciplining a child. Sending a kid to their room because they did something bad is not good enough. It is rare to find a kid who does not have a game system and/or computer in their room, so all they do is go in their room and play.

When I was a kid, if we did something bad, we got spankings. And believe me, they worked! We do the warning system here. First time DD does something bad, she gets a warning, second time is time out on the couch with no toys, third time is a smack on the leg. We very rarely get to the smack. Time out usually does the trick! Because she knows what comes next. If parents would discipline their children, I think things would be different. So many times, you find people like my neighbor who just don't give a **** and allow their kids to run the streets. (Literally, her son who is 2 crossed the busy street next to my house and was playing by himself in the woods by my house, with no shoes, pants, or shirt. Just a diaper.) It's really sad!

sethsmum · #18 March 19th, 2010, 02:20 PM

mom2lexi, I'm the same. If they say do something bad, I ask them to stop nicely, if they do it again I will ask them to stop firmly. Then if they do it again they go on the naughty step. They go on for the number of minutes of their age. If they do it again, then privileges are taken away. Either its a favourite toy or DVD etc or they aren't allowed to do something. For example Caspar can be a quite naughty sometimes (hes 2 though and very into the terrible 2's) and if hes bad then hes not allowed to go swimming with Daddy which he loves.

These people have bad attitudes themselves and so raise kids with bad attitudes. It worries me that my children have to grow up in the same world asthem

Mom-Mom · #19 March 19th, 2010, 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by mom2lexi

I don't know about ya'll but I am a firm believer in actually disciplining a child. Sending a kid to their room because they did something bad is not good enough. It is rare to find a kid who does not have a game system and/or computer in their room, so all they do is go in their room and play.

When I was a kid, if we did something bad, we got spankings. And believe me, they worked! We do the warning system here. First time DD does something bad, she gets a warning, second time is time out on the couch with no toys, third time is a smack on the leg. We very rarely get to the smack. Time out usually does the trick! Because she knows what comes next. If parents would discipline their children, I think things would be different. So many times, you find people like my neighbor who just don't give a **** and allow their kids to run the streets. (Literally, her son who is 2 crossed the busy street next to my house and was playing by himself in the woods by my house, with no shoes, pants, or shirt. Just a diaper.) It's really sad!

Amen, sister. We got spanked too and like you said, they worked. Dd gets a warning system too...first time she is told no, second time she gets a time-out in her crib, third time she gets a spanking/hand smacked depending on what she is doing. We rarely get to the spanking too, usually just calm down time in her crib is all she needs.

I wont have children who act like that. Like someone said those are the types of kids who end up in & out of jail their whole lives or worse, in jail for life for killing someone. All of my fiances nieces have parents who dont want to be bothered by having to parent, and i dont even let dd play w/her 3 yr old cousins in a different room then i am in. I had to yell at the 4 yr old bc her favorite words are "shut up stupid". Ugh. I told her if Samantha says that, she wont be playing w/her anymore. Of course her mom was right there, didnt say anything. Grrr.

bundle2baby · #20 March 19th, 2010, 04:53 PM

Wow!! The lack of discipline these days is astonishing! I'm not normally a confrontational person either, but becoming a mother changed that. I expect my daughter to be polite and have taught her manners from the beginning. As a result, people tell me my daughter is a sweet girl and joy to be around. Honestly, I was afraid of sending her to public school due (in part) to the lack of parenting these days. Private school isn't perfect, but you can tell there is a lot of parental involvement (at school and home). When we go to the park, we've experienced some out of control kids too. I had to step in once last summer when a boy threw dirt in my daughter's face and the mother watched it happen (and didn't do anything to stop him!).