[Juliebird18]

I didn't think I would be this disappointed. I wasn't expecting a girl but I just really wanted one. Its a boy. I cried. I don't know why I am so upset. I just feel like I don't even know what to do with a boy.

I hope no one will judge me. I know I will love the baby. I can't help how I feel though.

[sunshyne57]

Its ok to be disappointed.....especially when you've had your heart set on a specific gender.

You still have 19-20 weeks or so to get used to the idea of having a boy and I'm sure you will grow very excited about it!

My first was a girl, and when we were told my second was a boy, I had nooo clue what I was going to do with one! I wanted another girl. However, once that little boy was placed in my arms, all those fears vanished. I am so greatful for him and I can't imagine my life without him now!

Congrats on your boy

[Missitta]

I am sorry you are disappointed. To be honest if this one had been a boy I would have been disappointed too.

Congrats on the boy!

[MissyPrincessEha]

It is FINE to feel this way! I have really wanted a girl each time, not as bad or as crazy as this time, but I did. Your right you will fall madly in love when you and your baby lock eyes. Sweetie, little boys are precious. I didn't know how fun they could be until I had my two.

I so totally understand. HUGS.

[MamaAnna]

[Pebbles78]

I think it is totally fine to feel disappointed. I wanted a girl too and a few days ago we found out that it`s a boy. To me it helped to go shopping and look at all those cute clothes. In my circle of friends everybody have girls and I had the same thoughts: what to do with a boy? But it only took me a few days to change my mind and now I am so excited!
I am sure you will be happy in a few days from now!!! Hugs!!!

[*Stacey*]

I can totally relate! I had my 2 girls and then found out I was having a boy. I was terrified, and had a hard time at first. He is now almost 16 months old and I have such a special bond with him, and have such a different relationship with him compared to my girls! I wouldn't change a thing and am seriously hoping that this one is a boy too!


It will get better, I promise!

[Irish_Wristwatch]

((hugs)) im sorry youre feeling disapointed, i think its normal when you had your heart set on a baby girl, im sure with time you will get excited about your little man!!

[Kaema]

Aww hun. Don't get too upset. You cant help your reaction or how you feel. It certainly doesn't mean you won't love your baby. I had my heart set on a girl too and was afraid I would be upset if it was a boy. Sure enough, I've got a boy but surprised myself when I realized I wasn't disappointed at all. We all react differently and even if we are determined to feel one way doesn't mean thats how its going to be. Hang in there, let things sink in and then go from there sweetie.

[Trish36]

Don't be too upset. Boys are so much fun! When I had DS I was terrified too, because he was the first boy in my family in 30 years and we didn't know how different it would be. But boys really do love their mommas. At least he'll be the big brother for any girls that you may have in the future.

[rainbow_brite19]

I'm sorry you are upset. Of course we would never judge you, as you can see I think MOST ladies have a preference one way or the other but it doesn't change the fact that they are all excellent moms who love their babies regardless, and you will too. I really wanted a boy and if it had been a girl, I probably would have felt the same way you do. I'm sure when you get to meet him all your anxieties will disappear

[ZZ0607]

Aw! You'll get used to it eventually, especially when baby gets here and you bond with him day by day. Initial disappointment is totally normal and will pass. You know, I was wanting a boy first and got a girl and had to get used to the idea. I refused to 100% accept it until she was actually born, too! Then when my second was a boy I was terrified I wouldn't be able to parent him; I have no brothers or other male family close by. I was like, "how can I raise a boy to be a man???" Now, though, I just couldn't picture it any other way and there's not any moment I'm at a loss due to gender. There are lots of moments I'm at a loss due to them being kids though! They come up with the wackiest stuff.

[havestar]

I'm sorry to hear you're having GD.

I was also disappointed when I found out I was having boy#3. As time went on, it's been much better, until I found out recently that my friend is having a girl.

Go out and buy some boy clothes. That made me feel better right after. There's a good gender disappointment support forum on in-gender as well.

[amber1]

awww... i am just getting used to the idea of having a little boy. I felt like crying but i didnt only because I thought everyone would judge me. I tried to go out and shop yesterday and walked out with nothing cuz DH was acting like a punk lol. but i think its normal. Im still a little nervous but its been 2 days and I feel like I am starting to accept him being a boy and not a girl. (i can finally say that without getting choked up). It will pass is what I hear. But as for the feelings now, I believe it is definately "normal" I hope you feel better soon

[NCRG2010]

i felt the same. i wanted a girl mainly because my daughter really wanted a sister. but i so love my boys. omg the bond is crazy. you will see how much this little boy will love you. girls tend to cling to their daddys lol

[M-n-MsMama0510]

exact same here, I was in the ER all last night for really bad pains, and they did a ultrasound and I saw it, SO saw it and dr said he was pretty sure its a boy. I dont even plan on posting a thread yet till I know for sure at my 20week appt just incase its a girl, but afterwards I wouldnt talk. I was tired and hungry and just plain upset. Poor SO cried cause he saw how upset I was. He on the other hand is THRILLED. My DS is gonna be pretty sad too I think... he kept wanting a sister. In the back of my mind all I keep thinking is "Maybe it was the cord" since I still have NO feeling its a boy... Ugh @@ Im right with you. I want to cry but I can already feel the sad feeling passing... We'll hang in there together.

[Mommy2Ethan]

I felt the same yesterday, my heart was set on a girl... So i Know Exactly what you feel like.....
But boys are fun, and as long as the baby is healthy thats all that matters!

[TeresaSuperMama]

Sweetie, it's okay and do not feel bad about feeling this way either. It's really normal. I promise you will love that blue bundle of boy when he arrives. I had 5 brothers growing up. My mother did not raise me, my dad did. I really, really wanted a daughter. I craved that mother/daughter relationship that I didn't have growing up. Then I went on to have 3 boys in a row.

I had some really thoughtless friends with only girls that would make these comments that they thought were funny like "oh you just weren't meant to have girls" or "I couldn't handle a boy". Like they got a girl because they wanted one more than me. I mean come on? You don't get to choose what you have. It's just luck of the draw. Anyhow, I cried with my second and my third boy. It wasn't that I didn't want a boy, but I really wanted a girl. Then I had my 2 dds and they were a real treat. It's funny though, Leo my last baby I have enjoyed him so much. He was the first boy that I had that I didn't have those feelings. It was so nice for me being able to enjoy him without thinking gosh I really wanted you to be a girl.

I promise when this baby comes you will love him to pieces. I really want a girl this time around too. I will probably be a little disappointed if it's a boy, but I also know that I will love this baby no matter what and that feeling will go away as you discover the joys each child brings you.

[oriel13]

I was the same last time, we both wanted a boy so badly and I would have been disappointed if he wasn't. Sorry you didn't get what you wanted. Little boys are so much fun though, you and your son will have such an awesome bond!

[whodey1]

I felt the same way the first time around. Now that my little man is 4, I would NEVER have it any other way. He tells me every day that he loves me a thousand million times and we are very close. Little boys are just the sweetest things and they really do love their mommies. It's perfectly normal to have your heart set on one or the other and be disappointed but reassuring to know that it will all work out in the end

Congrats on your little man!