Anyone else have any name naysayers? Vent..

inyourhonor · #1 March 20th, 2010, 04:58 PM

Okay I know the name we've chosen for this baby is very uncommon. But my mom is driving me absolutely insane!

She doesn't like it and she so far is the only one in our families that doesn't. I love my mom to death but she is being very annoying and very pushy on her dislike of the name Bishop. I kindly told her she had her chance to name her kids and this is mine. My baby, my choice! She loves the first name we had picked, Cole. But something in me said that wasn't the right name. I can't settle on a name I don't feel is right!

Both our other boys names I just knew those were the right names and they fit our boys so perfectly. She just needs to give me a break! She didn't even like the name Gage at first, it took her a long time to settle on it and now she loves it. Just seriously, quit complaining! You're not going to change my mind!

I know in time she'll come around but the lady needs to give it up. Its honestly starting to get to the point to where its hurting my feelings. The worst part of it is that we've only known for ONE day that this baby is a boy.

Sorry, just had to get it out.

M-n-MsMama0510 · #2 March 20th, 2010, 05:31 PM

I love the name Bishop, its even on our boy name list along with Myles and a few others. I think I've decided I need to see the baby first to pick, But if you know, you know !! Dont sway and hopefully she will come around sooner then later. I'd just change the subject everytime it comes up with her. I know how annoying it can be tho !!

Pyrodjm · #3 March 20th, 2010, 05:48 PM

This is the reason we don't discuss potential names. My mom can be really nutty about things like this. I really can't take it when she is negative. We announced DD name when she was born and it was a done deal.

I'm sorry you are going through this. I really like the name Bishop!

Shalyn · #4 March 20th, 2010, 05:51 PM

Now I know why some people keep the name a secret until birth!!! I'm sorry your mom is being that way. It really is no one else's business what you name your own baby. She should respect that.

Now if you ask for opinions, then I can understand being honest, but if you are just announcing the name you have already chosen, then people should keep their opinions to themselves!

Ton-Ton · #5 March 20th, 2010, 06:05 PM

I'm sorry your mom's being like that. My mom doesn't really care for the name we picked out - said it reminds her of sheets. But then, she gave her opinion in a laughing comment and hasn't brought it up since.

So here's to either your mom coming around quickly or keeping quiet about it until she does.

inyourhonor · #6 March 20th, 2010, 06:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyrodjm

This is the reason we don't discuss potential names. My mom can be really nutty about things like this. I really can't take it when she is negative. We announced DD name when she was born and it was a done deal.

I'm sorry you are going through this. I really like the name Bishop!

I have this thing where I have to connect to the baby when we know and I know that I'd slip by calling the baby by their name around family. So it wouldn't work that well with me haha.

I guess I'd rather get her complaining out of the way now then when he's born. Parents can be a pain in the ***, I swear haha.

dee.76 · #7 March 20th, 2010, 06:20 PM

We aren't telling any of our family our names until the birth either... Its funny when I named our youngest Bailee... Because I had a C-section my mother jokingly asked me whether I was still drugged out when I chose it... then told me it reminded her of alcohol...But they come around and she absolutely adores our little boy... So try not to stress too much about it... Maybe you should tell her you are still deciding (umming and ahhing) about the name and then BAM surprise her when baby is born ... Meet Bishop!!.. She will be too smitten to even think about the name...

oriel13 · #8 March 20th, 2010, 07:16 PM

This is exactly why I've decided not to share until the baby is born. It would really bother me too, I don't know how you're handling it so well! I really don't want to hear anyone else's opinions and especially not after we've already picked a name. Though the flip side is family constantly asking if we have picked one yet, and when I say no, hearing all the names they think we should pick (my parents want me to use my maiden name in some way and my grandma keeps pushing Jethro if it's a boy) and telling me I better hurry up before the baby gets here.

momma2princesses · #9 March 20th, 2010, 07:35 PM

Ugh...such a pain Marisa! My mom HATED the name Avis (and its her own mothers name! lol) she also hated the name Violette and wanted me to name her Julie instead.

I ignored it. I figured that she wouldnt complain as much if it didnt get a reaction. I used the response of "well. thats one way to think about it...huh?"

lol it drove her crazy and she stopped complaining. This time I cant figure out a girl name for the life of me and I am getting all kinds of opinions now. Thats the problem with people...they love to give opinions on names! Look at when Elizabeth asked about her name choices in the PR

A lot of us responded that Raelee wasnt our style...and she probably just wanted some excitement and support when she asked what we think! Oops! I think its just human nature to voice name opinions. Its just sucky when its our own parents that feel the need to offer their opinions!

My mom said that Violette's name sounded like a horse rink! lol

pthree · #10 March 20th, 2010, 08:05 PM

We aren't finding out the gender, but our boy name is Julian and none of my friends or my mother like it. It gets old when my mom calls to tell me she's "thought of a boy name!!!!!" MOM, we already have a boy name.

Racheljp3 · #11 March 20th, 2010, 08:33 PM

It seems like we are in the same boat!! My Mother hates Audrey also. But then again, It's our baby!! I like Bishop. It's different, but no so "out there" I like names like that!
Good luck and I hope she comes around!

*Stacey* · #12 March 20th, 2010, 08:36 PM

I'm sorry that she's being a pain!

Our families don't bother to ask anymore...we have always kept it a secret and if people ask what we chose we just say you'll find out when s/he arrives!

mb · #13 March 20th, 2010, 09:17 PM

LOL - gotta love parental opinion... I agree with the 'you got to name your's.. now I get to name mine' LOL

When we named our first son for some reason it was really important that my dad approve (don't ask me...) then with our second we didn't name him until he was 4 days old... I didn't much care what anyone thought then... and with this one she's got a name - and I just couldn't care less what anyone says. When my son talks about his sister Kamry it's just so adorable that anyone could say anything and I wouldn't care.

Moms sure have a way of twisting that screwdriver that's ALWAYS lodged in between your shoulders from time to time!

PS - I really like the name Bishop.. I think it's cute.

NCRG2010 · #14 March 21st, 2010, 05:13 AM

we never decide till the baby gets here. there is no way i can listen to all that opinion lol

ZZ0607 · #15 March 21st, 2010, 05:36 AM

My mom was incredulous, but she hasn't said anything else. Maybe she doesn't think we're serious. I'm not sure I've told her the girl name we settled on, but the boy name she was like "huh uh!!" It's Bruce Wayne (then our last name), by the way. It's the only way I'd let DH have Bruce (honestly, it was before I remembered the reference), and I'm still not totally sold. I'm waiting until we find out gender and see baby to really settle on a name.

Bishop is cool. I'd never thought of it as a name, but it's neat. Just be noncommittal with her. I'm sorry she's being so persistent with her criticism. Put it away in your bank for things not to do with your own kids.

farasha · #16 March 21st, 2010, 05:41 AM

I'm sorry! People, even family, don't realize that it's not their business. But this is exactly why no one will know our name till the birth! I can't deal with that!

LuvRBx6 · #17 March 21st, 2010, 05:47 AM

Sometimes a name has to grow on someone... and if she is the only one than I think that is really good... everyone has different tastes and different reasons for naming.

My mom doesn't like the name we have picked for a girl... but she'll get over it. My parents (dad/stepmom) didn't like any of our names, I think. LMAO!!

inyourhonor · #18 March 21st, 2010, 06:02 AM

She apologized this morning! She said she was sorry for going on about it yesterday and said she'd have to let it grow on her. I told her I accept her apology and that I had a feeling it would have to grow on her. I just reminded her that when he was here she'd forget how much she didn't like the name and just love on that little boy

Irish_Wristwatch · #19 March 21st, 2010, 08:12 AM

sorry she was giving you such a hard time, im glad to hear that she apologized for it though. I wouldnt react well to someone giving us a hard time about our name either, thankfully we havent had anything negative said to us yet

Trish36 · #20 March 21st, 2010, 08:37 AM

Glad your mom came around. I don't share the name we pick with family, for that reason exactly. With my first born my mom ruined a few names for me..since then we kept it a secret. Now the boy name Daniel is pretty much okay with everyone, can't go wrong there..so I don't mind sharing it with her, but the middle names and the girl name we will not tell anyone. Once the baby is here they will all find out. And that's how it's always been. Trust me my whole family tries to come up with names and it drives me crazy.