[LillyAinwe]

Did anyone else have it finally 'sink in' after their big U/S?

I just had my 20 week U/S this week, you know, the loooong one. I have had two before this also, but I still didn't feel pregnant. It didn't feel real.

But now, the sense of reality about the whole situation is really starting to sink in. With the looong U/S I saw his heart and it's chambers beating... His Big brain, his long perfect spine, his thick lil limbs with visible bones, and of course his 'not to be overlooked' genderhood.

I finally feel connected to the little guy now. I feel like there is actually a real person growing inside!! Before I was worried that I wasn't going to be able to bond or something. But now, I am so happy now that I feel the reality of it! I even went out today and bought my first baby item! (a little onesie, cuz the BTDT moms say you can never have enough!)

It makes me wonder how the ladies who don't want to know the gender are able to bond (I am sure that they do though!). For me, it wasn't until I knew who was in there that I was able to connect. Our little man! <3

[TeresaSuperMama]

I think for me when I started feeling baby kick is when it really sunk in. Something about them moving around inside of you makes you know you have a real live person in there.

[♥womanintheshoe♥]

For me the Big u/s is when it really feels "real". Seeing baby as a baby and not a blob at 6 weeks or so is amazing and makes me feel that I am carrying a real person. I usually don't know the gender (still struggling with that ) and bonded wonderfully. I always buy something soon after the u/s - swaddling blankets or something - to celebrate the life seen.

Another thing that makes it more real for me at this time is watching my belly move. After seeing limbs on the screen it is easier to me to envision baby rolling and kicking and I love playing "Guess Which Body Part?" as I watch the antics from within. ♥

[MamaAnna]

Not really. It's hard to even really think about the pregnancy when I've had a sick, teething baby.

[crazichickey]

I can totally relate. I had my big u/s today and got to see everything more detailed. It was amazing!!!! I guess now that I know the gender it is great to call her by her name.

[MissingRyder10]

Its still hard to believe that i actually got a life inside of me growing sometimes,i'm glad to know the sex of the baby now so we can call it him

[Cheryl_W]

I haven't had my 20 week u/s yet (it's on Wednesday next week) but I hope I feel like you do afterwards... TBH, I feel like everyone else, from my mom to DH has bonded more with this baby than I have. I don't feel comfortable talking to my tummy, I feel weird like I'm talking to someone who isn't there... I'm getting kicked pretty much constantly and have been for weeks, and yet I'm still able to ignore it/pretend it's gas sometimes even though I know deep down it isn't.

IDK what it is?? We tried so long and so hard for this baby, and I guarded myself SO much from getting attached at the beginning because women with PCOS have such a high loss rate, maybe I just never got over that? It just still doesn't feel any more real being 20 weeks tomorrow, big belly, big kicks than it did 16 weeks ago staring at those two pink lines, or at my 5 week u/s, or at my 11 week u/s, or at my monthly appointments with the doppler...

I feel bad about it, I feel HORRIBLE about it - but I just can't seem to get attached to this baby like everyone else around me has

So yeah - I really, really hope that after the u/s it feels more real, because after trying so hard and needing fertility meds - feeling like this sucks.

[amber1]

Im not sure it has sunk in. Some days I think, because it took sooo long to conceive that maybe I am just "making it all up" in my head. Sounds reallllly stupid I know considering Ive had 3 ultrasounds with the little guy in there tonnnssss of pics and everything else. It just is still so hard to believe. I had just gotten to the point of, "its just not going to happen for us". And GOD showed me different. I'm getting emotional now lololol

[mommy_2_ava_1109]

My ultrasound yesterday really got me feeling the 'realness' of it. I'm so in love with this little boy that I haven't even met. Just seeing his boy parts yesterday got me so emotional. When I first got pregnant, I wasn't even willing to entertain the thought of a boy, but I let that possibility grow on me over a few weeks time, and now I'm thrilled! It's gonna be so great having a boy and a girl. I feel so blessed.

[rainbow_brite19]

It has started to sink in for me, finally. I think it's the combination of the big u/s, finding out it's a boy, and feeling him kick for the first few times. I am still nervous about every little thing, because that's just who I am, but at least I am starting to actually believe that there is a living being inside me and one day in the not so distant future I get to hold him in my arms. It's incredible, and I feel blessed.

However, I have not gone shopping AT ALL and I am beginning to think it's a little weird. I just don't know what or how much to get, considering I don't think I am having a baby shower (my few friends and family are scattered all over New England, no one is going to throw me one) so I can't really have a registry. But I know my mom and MIL are going to buy some stuff...but I can't outright ask them what, lol. Also we are moving in a couple of months so baby can actually have a bedroom, so I think maybe I will just wait until then. Is that crazy? I see all you ladies picking out your nursery themes and I own ONE onesie.

[ZZ0607]

Originally Posted by M♥O♥M

Another thing that makes it more real for me at this time is watching my belly move. After seeing limbs on the screen it is easier to me to envision baby rolling and kicking and I love playing "Guess Which Body Part?" as I watch the antics from within. ♥

This. Although, it never fully sinks in until the baby is actually born. But that's what helps the most; seeing the face and feeling/seeing them move inside. I'm not sure knowing or not knowing the sex would help or prevent bonding; I've never tried. I'm just one who can't stand not to have information if it's there to be had. I ruined my own 18th surprise birthday party because of that.

[LillyAinwe]

Originally Posted by Cheryl_W

I haven't had my 20 week u/s yet (it's on Wednesday next week) but I hope I feel like you do afterwards... TBH, I feel like everyone else, from my mom to DH has bonded more with this baby than I have. I don't feel comfortable talking to my tummy, I feel weird like I'm talking to someone who isn't there... I'm getting kicked pretty much constantly and have been for weeks, and yet I'm still able to ignore it/pretend it's gas sometimes even though I know deep down it isn't.

IDK what it is?? We tried so long and so hard for this baby, and I guarded myself SO much from getting attached at the beginning because women with PCOS have such a high loss rate, maybe I just never got over that? It just still doesn't feel any more real being 20 weeks tomorrow, big belly, big kicks than it did 16 weeks ago staring at those two pink lines, or at my 5 week u/s, or at my 11 week u/s, or at my monthly appointments with the doppler...

I feel bad about it, I feel HORRIBLE about it - but I just can't seem to get attached to this baby like everyone else around me has

So yeah - I really, really hope that after the u/s it feels more real, because after trying so hard and needing fertility meds - feeling like this sucks.

Don't feel bad! <3 This is how I felt too before the big U/S. The realness of it didn't start to sink in until I had it, and even now I don't feel the realness all the time. But the fact that I DID feel it for a few days makes me feel much better. I'm sure from here on out, it will slowly start to feel more and more real.

[kawohilani]

It started feeling really real after the big ultrasound. And I am constantly feeling him move, which is just so awesome. He could kick me all day nonstop and I'd be perfectly ok with that. Until of course I'm 9 months and he's kicking me in the ribs. lol

[lala2007]

It has sunk in for me big time the kicks and seeing the ultrasound!

[dee.76]

I agree with quite a lot of what a few of you said.. I am very much the same.. Although I do feel like I have bonded with this little one... I am always thinkning the worst!.. As in, something will go wrong etc etc.. It also took dh and I a long time ttc to be blessed with this little one, I guess I am just expecting something to go wrong.. Our u/s is on monday... Maybe its just a lot of fear.. Even though I feel it move lots!!...

[Newb_Mommy]

It's definitely more real for me now than it was even a month ago. I think a combination of the u/s, knowing the gender, and feeling the movement makes it that way. Being able to see/feel what he's doing in there (and being able to call him a he instead of it) gives him a little bit of a personality and gives me the feeling that there's actually a little person in there. It still feels surreal at times, especially when I don't feel very pregnant at the moment and the baby isn't active. But the times when I really notice my bulging belly (and all the aches and pains) and he's kicking up a storm in there its very real and I'm actually starting to feel a connection to him. I do sometimes worry that I'm not as attached or connected as I should be, but I try to remind myself I still have plenty of time to spend with him in my belly to bond. I still have trouble believing that theres going to be an actual baby here in my arms by August, but I think I'm starting to be able to wrap my mind around that.

[Magicaledelishus]

That's a hard question.
Even though my life is literally consumed with the baby, and everything to do with him, I still doubt I'm pregnant. I think of my belly as me just getting fat (I'm showing quite a bit, and I've only gained a few lbs, 3 so far) and that we better keep all the receipts because I can't imagine us having this baby, etc. And then other days I just put my hands to my belly and feel him kicking like crazy and smile and know that he's going to come in August for sure. It's so weird. Now that I dont feel like absolute crap in 2nd tri, I feel less pregnant in a lot of ways and so that contributes I'm sure...
Who knows lol