[lala2007]

I just don't get my mom at all. This is my first pregnancy. I waited until I graduated college and she just acts so strange. It's like everything has to be about her and no one else. Even more now because she met this guy and now they are planning their wedding. She keeps moving the dates. First it was July of next year, than May of next year, than November of this year. I asked her what is the big rush?

On top of that in my family it is traditional for the mom to give her daughter a baby shower. Okay well my mom was all cheerios and strawberries about it. I went to baby shower stuff.com and picked out the ladybug theme I wanted and she told me I will pay half one month and pay half the next month. Next she tells me my baby shower will be in June sometime because we have a lot of family activities in July. So i was cool with that so I asked her recently when do you want to rder the stuff, she treated me like I was crazy! Also she my mom is the one who said we are going to have to rent a place because of the people who I would like to be there. Why not do this now and let my best friend help? She wants to do everything at the last minute but plan her wedding now and just treat my baby coming into the world like its another day. I am just really sick of it.

Since she has met this guy she has just changed. I feel selfish for saying this but I wanted her to be there for me at this time in my life and she is not. I have just been so stressed out lately and it is just not that, it's how she treats me too. Just sick of it.

Sorry so long and for the rambling.

[Trish36]

I'm sorry your mom is not being supportive. HUGS!!! Maybe you could have a chat with her and tell her how you feel. She's probably stressed out over her wedding as well.

[crazichickey]

I am sorry you are frustrated with your Mom. When I was 16 and my Mom met my step dad, she was the same way. I don't know why they act like that. Your Mom wants to be happy and you understand that, but that doesn't mean you aren't going through something wonderful too.

Hopefully she will come around!!!

I'm sorry your mom is not being there like you need her to be. I'd go ahead and ask your best friend to plan the shower and just let you mom "help".

[Ton-Ton]

*Hugs* I'm sorry your mom is not being very supportive. I'd say she probably has a lot on her mind right now. Would it be too much to break tradition and ask your best friend to help throw the shower? From what it sounds like, I think it would work out a bit better that way.

[lala2007]

Originally Posted by Trish36

I'm sorry your mom is not being supportive. HUGS!!! Maybe you could have a chat with her and tell her how you feel. She's probably stressed out over her wedding as well.

Thank you. I have tried just talking to her and she always takes it the wrong way.

Originally Posted by crazichickey

I am sorry you are frustrated with your Mom. When I was 16 and my Mom met my step dad, she was the same way. I don't know why they act like that. Your Mom wants to be happy and you understand that, but that doesn't mean you aren't going through something wonderful too.

Hopefully she will come around!!!

Exactly! You know exactly what I mean.

Originally Posted by chispaza

I'm sorry your mom is not being there like you need her to be. I'd go ahead and ask your best friend to plan the shower and just let you mom "help".

Thank you, I think I will do that because she really wants to help.

Originally Posted by Ton-Ton

*Hugs* I'm sorry your mom is not being very supportive. I'd say she probably has a lot on her mind right now. Would it be too much to break tradition and ask your best friend to help throw the shower? From what it sounds like, I think it would work out a bit better that way.

Thank you so much.

[forest]

((((((HUGS))))))) I'm sorry your Mom is not being supportive. It does sound like she is in her own little world. I think it is a great idea to let your friend plan the shower and have your Mom help. Otherwise it sounds like it is going to be very last minute.

[Lv2Mommy]

The other girls have great suggestions as far as asking your friend to an it. I'm sure your Mom just has a lot on her mind right now, but it stinks that she's missing out on enjoying your special time too.

[lala2007]

Originally Posted by forest

((((((HUGS))))))) I'm sorry your Mom is not being supportive. It does sound like she is in her own little world. I think it is a great idea to let your friend plan the shower and have your Mom help. Otherwise it sounds like it is going to be very last minute.

Thank you so much

Originally Posted by Lv2Mommy

The other girls have great suggestions as far as asking your friend to an it. I'm sure your Mom just has a lot on her mind right now, but it stinks that she's missing out on enjoying your special time too.

Thank you

[Calendula]

Originally Posted by chispaza

I'm sorry your mom is not being there like you need her to be. I'd go ahead and ask your best friend to plan the shower and just let you mom "help".

I would just tell your mom that you are worried that it was too much for her to be planning a big shower and her wedding, and your friend really wanted to help.

[lala2007]

Originally Posted by Calendula

I would just tell your mom that you are worried that it was too much for her to be planning a big shower and her wedding, and your friend really wanted to help.

Thank you. That is exactly what I did tonight. It's better to talk to her along so we went and got something to eat and I told her that my friend would like to help her. She told me that would be fine and also about the buildings she was checking into for rental. I am glad we talked about it again.