[krsnow]

All of a sudden for the past 2 nights, my LO wakes up crying and it's hard to calm him down, he wont even take a pacifier. I pick him up and rock him, then he takes the paci and clams down, and appears to fall asleep in my arms. As soon as I put him back in his crib, he freaks out. Eventually I may get him to sleep, but then he wakes up again a few hours later. I did give him a bottle at 2:00am and he still continued this afterward so I don't think it is hunger. I just don't know what to do. I have thought about CIO, but what if something is really wrong? Maybe his stomach is upset, or teething is bothering him? Or could it be separation anxiety?

Any advice is greatly appreciated!!

[crystaljean81]

Lyla has just started doing this also. She falls dead asleep when she takes her last bottle (always has!) but then as soon as we put her down she wakes up, screams bloody murder, and stands up! Last night I left her in her room and sat right outside her door instead of picking her back up and she only cried for about 5 mins and went to sleep and slept all night. The crying started about the middle of the week and a tooth popped through yesterday. I'm thinking it started because of the tooth and became a habit.
I think I'm going to just have to let her cry for a little bit. It breaks my heart, but she has to learn to calm down and go to sleep. We'll see what happens if it doesn't stop in a few minutes!!!
Don't know if that helps, but at least you're not alone!

[Trish36]

I would say it's teething. Miranda was doing something similar for the past couple of weeks where she would just cry out of the blue and didn't want to drink her bottles. If you think about tooth pain it kind of comes and goes, so that is probably what is happening as the teet are trying to come through the gums. Hope it doesn't last long!!

[hilachu]

Liam did the same, thought it was teeth
ended up an ear infection
good luck!

[crystaljean81]

We had the same thing again tonight: Lyla's sound asleep after her bottle, I lay her in her crib, she wakes up and screams! Lasted about 10 minutes tonight. It's brutal to hear her cry like that. I hope this passes soon.

[krsnow]

Originally Posted by crystaljean81

We had the same thing again tonight: Lyla's sound asleep after her bottle, I lay her in her crib, she wakes up and screams! Lasted about 10 minutes tonight. It's brutal to hear her cry like that. I hope this passes soon.

I had the same problem tonight too. I was out with friends (which never happens) so my MIL was babysitting and put him to bed earlier than usual, at 6:30. he woke up when I got home around 8:30 and it took 2 hours to finally get him back to sleep. He just freaks out every time I put him in his crib. I tried to let him cry, but It didn't last more than 7 minutes. He sounded so hysterical I just couldn't let it go on any longer. I think that made him pretty tired though, because right afterward I rocked him for about 10 min and he was finally in a deep sleep.

What doesn't make sense is if I Lie him down on the changing table, he doesnt cry. but his eyes are closed. How does he know that it's the changing table and not the crib?

Originally Posted by hilachu

Liam did the same, thought it was teeth
ended up an ear infection
good luck!

My friend mentioned it could be an ear infection, but I don't see him pulling his ears and he doesn't act up during the day. I might call his Ped. tomorrow anyway just to ask. I need to figure something out because I am exhausted.

[Trish36]

Yes it could be an ear infection. Sometimes they don't get the 'typical' symptoms. Better get it checked out.

[mommydiva]

Rosie is doing the same thing to lately. Last night was a but better and she didn't wake up till around 3. She is eating though so partly for her its hunger. Must be a growth spurt or something. Mixed in with teeth. I noticed her gums are really white again. So I hope they poke thru soon. Hang in there it will pass. If you are concerned about ear infection get it checked out. Sometimes they show signs sometimes not.

[krsnow]

Joey woke up at 4:00am and it was the same thing all over again. I tried rocking him and putting him back in his crib a bunch of times, then I got fed up and decided to let him cry. I let him cry for 25 minutes then I couldn't take it anymore so I picked him up, rocked him, and he finally feel into a deep sleep. He then slept until 9am - so now his schedule is all messed up. I called the Ped and we have an appt. at 1:45 today. They want to check him for an ear infection. I will let you guys know what happens. If he does have an infection I am going to feel horrible for letting him cry, that is the first time I have tried the "CIO method"

[Shalyn]

I'd say teething or ear infection.

[krsnow]

Ok I saw the Ped. today. He said there is no ear infection, so it is all because I am enforcing night waking by feeding him and picking him up when he cries. He said not to feed him during the night and to let him cry, no matter how long the crying lasts. Tonight is going to be a hard one.

Also the Ped said I am feeding him too many times during the day. I do 3 solid meals, then space out his bottles so he is eating every 2.5 - 3 hours. The Ped said to stop that & just do 3 meals plus bottles along with them. I just created a new post asking what everyone's feeding schedule is. There's no way my LO will drink a whole bottle with a solid meal so I'm not sure how to do this.

[Trish36]

Just remember the pedi is giving you suggestions, doesn't mean you have to follow it to 100%. You know your baby best. If you don't want to let him CIO then don't torture yourself and the baby just because the dr. said to do it. KWIM! It's easy for someone to say 'do this' or 'do that', in the end it's your baby and you do what you think is right.
And Miranda would not drink a bottle after she's had veggies and fruits. I have to wait at least 30 minutes before she'll take a bottle.

[krsnow]

Thanks for all the advice ladies! I let Joey cry tonight and he fell asleep in about 20 minutes. It was hard but I feel like it's the only option right now. I thought about going out to get a no cry solution book but I'm just too exhausted to read another book and experiment. Hopefully he sleeps thru the night and tomorrow night goes well.

CrystalJean - How did Lyla do tonight?

[Shalyn]

It is very easy for the doc to say that..............mine has told me the same thing. I'd say if he is falling asleep after 20 min, it's all good. Jackson will scream bloody murder if I let him cio and he will do it for an hour so I just go get him because I can't take it anymore.

[krislati]

I had to do the CIO. I was having to rock Tommy in his bouncer every night to sleep. The minute it stopped bouncing he was back up crying. So I started going back to our original bedtime routine, bath, bottle and bed. I will lay him in his crib awake and let him cry. It never took longer than 15 min to get him to stop. The first night was the worst, now he only fusses for about a min and it's not even a full on cry. It took about 6 days for him to realize this is the way he is going to sleep. I found that he is sleeping through the night again too.

How is he doing now? Has it gotten any better?

[TeresaSuperMama]

Originally Posted by hilachu

Liam did the same, thought it was teeth
ended up an ear infection
good luck!

Was thinking the same thing. It could be an ear infection. The one time Natalie got really crabby like that it was an ear infection. I'd get it looked at just to be on the safe side.

[krsnow]

Monday night he did fine, like I said he only cried for 20 minutes. Then he woke again around 12am and 4am, and only cried for a few minutes. Last night was another story though. He cried for an hour at midnight, and an hour from 3-4am. I'm so frustrated now, I thought they were supposed to cry less each night until they learn.

I hope you guys don't think I'm horrible for letting him cry, I know a lot of people disagree with it. I never thought I would do it, but I can't rock him the entire night and I think the longer I wait to do this the worse it will get.

[TeresaSuperMama]

Originally Posted by krsnow

Monday night he did fine, like I said he only cried for 20 minutes. Then he woke again around 12am and 4am, and only cried for a few minutes. Last night was another story though. He cried for an hour at midnight, and an hour from 3-4am. I'm so frustrated now, I thought they were supposed to cry less each night until they learn.

I hope you guys don't think I'm horrible for letting him cry, I know a lot of people disagree with it. I never thought I would do it, but I can't rock him the entire night and I think the longer I wait to do this the worse it will get.

I don't think you are awful, but I would try giving him some tylenol or motrin and see if it makes a difference. Even if it's not an ear infection it could be teething. I've done CIO with one of my kids and he needed it, but it just kind of depends on the kid.

I also don't get my parenting advice from my doctor. It annoys me when they give out sleeping advice because having seen more than one doctor a lot of that is just their personal opinion. If you go see a different one you might get a different opinion on it. How much food they need sure, but how to handle crying at night that is really your call and I wouldn't make my decision on that based on what my doctor says. (Sorry I replied before seeing your doctor update.)

[Luvgreen19]

Originally Posted by krsnow

Monday night he did fine, like I said he only cried for 20 minutes. Then he woke again around 12am and 4am, and only cried for a few minutes. Last night was another story though. He cried for an hour at midnight, and an hour from 3-4am. I'm so frustrated now, I thought they were supposed to cry less each night until they learn.

I hope you guys don't think I'm horrible for letting him cry, I know a lot of people disagree with it. I never thought I would do it, but I can't rock him the entire night and I think the longer I wait to do this the worse it will get.

Noone thinks you're awful! You have to do what will help your kid. I swore up and down that I would never do CIO, and I tried everything under the sun to avoid it, but finally had to do it. It took 4 nights but it finally worked. Don't give up!!

[rainbow_brite19]

Originally Posted by TeresaSuperMama

I also don't get my parenting advice from my doctor. It annoys me when they give out sleeping advice because having seen more than one doctor a lot of that is just their personal opinion. If you go see a different one you might get a different opinion on it. How much food they need sure, but how to handle crying at night that is really your call and I wouldn't make my decision on that based on what my doctor says.

I agree. I take everything my peds say with a grain of salt (we go to a group practice). Not saying that you are awful, because honestly it sounds like CIO works with your LO, as 20 minutes isn't very long of a time to cry at all, but like Teresa said, it depends on the kid. My Jackson would cry until he vomited and choked, and I know this. That is just him though, he's very sensitive and clingy and really good at fighting sleep even while he's exhausted. One of my peds tried to tell me that he doesn't need to eat at night and letting him CIO is the only way he will learn, but Jackson is not their son and they don't understand how it is to be in my home night after night. I just kind of smile and tell them we are working on it. Ultimately it is your decision to do what works for your family.