[MelKD]

I have a couple of friends, each of whom I've known for over 15 years, that had babies 1 day apart last year - one on May 13, and one on May 14. One of them even asked me about a month ago to confirm my address for a birthday party invitation. So here it is, birthday weekend, and on Facebook, they've made posts about their babies' first birthday parties tomorrow, and we never got invitations to either party. Granted, I would have had to choose which party to go to, or cut one short to go to the other, but they're not friends with each other, so I know they didn't NOT invite us based on that particular conflict. I'm choosing to put it on the fact that Josh is laid up right now, and maybe they thought that we wouldn't come anyways, based on that. But still, if it had been me, I would have at least mailed an invitation, regardless of that, that way if we wanted to come, and get him out of the house for a bit, the option would be there.

Am I wrong to be upset? And if not, should I approach the issue with both of them, or just let it go? I still plan to invite them to both of my kids' parties, but I just don't understand why we didn't get invited to theirs.

BTW, I'm not one of those people that is "open" with my feelings, like... I'm not going to go to either of them and openly tell them it hurt my feelings. I would chalk it up like I didn't know, like, "Hey, wasn't Carlie's birthday last week? Are you going to have a party?" and kind of let them pick it up from there with an excuse. Does that make sense? lol

I would let it be but only because I dont like confrontation. I would be upset that I didnt get an invite but I wouldn't go all crazy. Maybe they both decided to have small family parties?

[AmandaEliz]

Yeah, my feelings would be hurt, too. I would probably say something non-accusatory like you mentioned in your first post. I know a lot of people just have small family 1st b-day parties, but if one (or both) asked for your address, I can't blame you for wondering why you didn't get an invite.

[Arei_720]

Why would the one friend ask for your address so she can send an invite and then not send it? Maybe it was lost in the mail? If there's a chance that that's what happened, then I'd bring it up. Otherwise, she might assume you got it and didn't bother to RSVP.

[mommytokem]

I wouldn't bring it up but that's just how I am.

[iluvgummies]

There is one couple in dh's group of friends who have done something like this on a number of occasions. Their boys will be 6 this month & we have not been invited to the party...but two of our mutual friends have. Last year, all the friends in the group were invited. The year before, none of us. DH & I don't take it personal, we invite them to our kids' bdays & baptisms. I figure they just forget sometimes.
I do have to agree, though, that it seems a bit odd that the one would ask for your address & not send an invite. Maybe it got lost in the mail???

[TarrahLovesHuLo]

Do you know for sure if it's something more then just a family party? Maybe the initial idea was to invite friends, and then they decided not to complicate it, and just invite family. I know a ton of people that have ended up that way with the 1st b-day party. They go on and on about plans, and in the end just ended up with an intimate gathering of family and best friend/godparents.

Personally I would just leave it, but if you really feel like approaching it, you have an "in" with the whole address request thing for the invite. You never know, maybe the invite got lost or redirected to the wrong place if she didn't get your addy correct. Maybe she's the one wondering why you didn't give an RSVP.

[nevergivingup]

My feelings would be very hurt by this, and I probably would say something, but that's how I am. Its probably mostly a misunderstanding maybe?