[lala2007]

Say you are a single mom and you meet an awesome guy. You fall in love and get married and he is really the only father figure your child has. Would you feel comfortable letting your child call him dad or no? Thanks

[krislati]

If I were married to him and he accepted my child as his own, yes. Now if the father was involved, No I wouldn't expect my child to call him daddy.

[Irish_Wristwatch]

yes, if he treated my child like his own then yes, I wouldnt expect or tell my child to call him daddy but if thats what my child chose to do then it would be fine with me

[mommydiva]

I second what Kristy said.

Its so hard cause the reality of it is the real father could come back and want something to do with the child. and I have seen many call their step dad "dad" because they felt like that is who their dad is when they are around early on. And still have a relationship with their real dad and call him dad as well.

There is no black and white with it..lol

[Luvgreen19]

I agree with everyone else.

[mshah]

if the child is old enough, I think it's up to them to decide on what they're comfortable with. If they're still too young it's a tough call. I think like what was stated earlier as what if the real father came back into their life then what. Hmmmm I suppose even if the real father came back into the child's life the child would call them by their real name, and the new father figure as dad. I have a friend who's done that - her step father is "dad" and the real one who left when she was young then magically reappeared years later by his first name.

[lala2007]

Thanks ladies I agree with you all. Miranda that is exactly what happen with my cousin. Her mothers husband was the only dad she knew. Her mother told her about her father but the husband was the dad. I am just trying to figure out how I would go about it.