Just upset

mommydiva · #1 May 19th, 2011, 12:54 PM

Had my drs apt today. First upset I gained like 10 freaking pounds since my last apt. ***. Baby wise all else is good. They got my nutritional labs back all good in that area too.
Went to go schedule my ultrasound today and I left basically in tears. First I have to wait till June 8th. 2nd no kids allowed so DH would miss it since we don't know anybody here and we don't have her registered on post for care. So I was pretty bummed. I mean I get it policy is policy but she would be held so she wouldn't be in the way.
Then I text DH since he is in the field to tell him the news and he is bummed as well but then informs me he is heading to Alaska in a few weeks for like a month or more. So regardless unless they let me go before 20 weeks which the stupid witch made a point to say they can't not even a day or two before. he would miss it. and unless I can get her into post care I will miss it as well.
I normally don't care when he leaves. Its part of the job it is what it is. But I am just so over it all wish we never moved here and can't stop crying over it. And its all so petty to be crying over at the same time.

krislati · #2 May 19th, 2011, 12:57 PM

Ahhh...I'm sorry. I would cry too and I am not even pregnant. Is there someone else you can talk to besides the receptionist? Maybe the dr can be a little more understanding, they have to understand that it is a military base and most people are far away from any family that can help. Hugs...I hope you get something worked out.

birdblue · #3 May 19th, 2011, 01:02 PM

Oh sweetie i am so sorry! *hugs*

krystal g · #4 May 19th, 2011, 01:59 PM

If I were you, I would try to talk to the Dr. directly. I know all places are different, but I had mine done last year (military hospital) at 18 weeks because I wanted to get it done before DH went TDY for 6 weeks and my Dr. scheduled it no problem. He put the orders in for anatomy scan at 18 weeks and that was that. As far as no kids allowed, that's how it is here. A suggestion: does your DH have a coworker/friend that he is comfortable with, preferably one that has kids? Last year when I was getting ultrasounds, I saw this scenario several times. Mom, Dad and kid are in the waiting room with Dad's co-worker and the co-worker hangs out in the waiting room with toys and snacks while you two go in. I don't know what kind of job your DH does, but the military is pretty family friendly and bosses and co-workers are understanding and usually help each other out. Not exactly leaving her with a babysitter, and maybe not the ideal situation, but it works.

I hope you can figure something out.

I<3HelloKitty · #5 May 19th, 2011, 02:03 PM

Ugh, I'm sorry to hear that you're in such a rough situation. I hope you're able to get something worked out.

mommydiva · #6 May 19th, 2011, 02:46 PM

Yeah I am calling and trying to get it changed to when my cousin is here. More so because he is leaving for a month anyways. So if possible I want to get it changed. Not so much worried about him finding the time he is the "boss" so he can come and go as he pleases..lol And I know they are family friendly but at the same time DH won't pull any guys from work to watch her because the job comes first..lol Its how he is and they are so swamped at work that having him take off is like WOW..lol I am hoping they let me change it because well I don't see a few days before 20 weeks being a big deal.
I understand the policy but at the same time it made no sense why she was allowed to be in there the first U/S. But yeah either way it is what it is and so goes life..lol

Talked to my parents and they are thinking about me coming there while he is gone. So also if I can't get it changed them my mom will be here and she can watch Rosie. But if I don't get it changed well he will miss it anyways.

Rochelle7 · #7 May 19th, 2011, 04:01 PM

GL hun! Sorry you're having to deal with this and hopefully everything works out so he can be there.

Luvgreen19 · #8 May 19th, 2011, 05:26 PM

Why do they have to make things so difficult for you? Policies need to be bent occasionally and this is definitely one of those times. Best of luck hun, I'd be past upset too.

mommydiva · #9 May 19th, 2011, 06:02 PM

LOL because its the Military way. Lets make things as complicated and stressful as we can..lol

I think I am more upset about him going to Alaska now then I am about the U/S which monday we will get her enrolled into CYS so she can go to hourly if not I found a possible back up. But gonna keep trying to get it switched. Might have to walk back down there tomorrow since they never returned my call.