Spanking

birdblue · #1 May 20th, 2011, 11:45 PM

Do you think you will spank your little one? If you already have any children do you spank them? If you don't/won't use spanking as a form of punishment/correction what will you use?

BSandDsMommy · #2 May 21st, 2011, 08:40 AM

I'm not sure, I will say we have spanked ds1, he is horrible at biting (has bit and broke the skin on me, my niece, and dh) but we have figured out that spanking doesn't work for him, he responds better to time out...I really try not to spank and really I don't consider it spanking b/c he thinks it's funny and a game lol so it's pointless here...I was spanked as a child and it always got my attention, but with my sister, it made her more mad and she'd lash out again so I think every child is different, but time out seems to work and I'll continue to stick with it, ds2 is too young but will try time out with him also when that time comes

I<3HelloKitty · #3 May 21st, 2011, 09:24 AM

I was spanked as a child, and I don't really have a problem with people who do, but I think there are more effective methods of discipline. I will probably use time out with my kids.

Irish_Wristwatch · #4 May 21st, 2011, 09:49 AM

Im not sure, Ross is far to young to tell what discipline strategy will work best for our family. Though I will say that i will try other methods before going only to spanking as a last resort, if at all

Trish36 · #5 May 21st, 2011, 05:25 PM

I can't say that I've never spanked or that I will never do it, but 99% of the time we use either time-out or a level system for discipline. But I would never spank a child who isn't old enough to understand that he/she did something wrong.

krislati · #6 May 21st, 2011, 05:26 PM

I use time outs.

Juliebird18 · #7 May 21st, 2011, 10:55 PM

I was spanked and I HATED it. I suppose that is the point but I think there are other ways to get your point across.

mrsjl · #8 May 22nd, 2011, 06:24 AM

I have no problem giving a smack on the butt if I feel the need, but it's never a "take off your pants and lean over my knee while I wail on you" and it isn't the only form of discipline I use. in fact, it is very rarely used in this house and only works in certain situations.

also, I don't spank the baby

sunshyne57 · #9 May 22nd, 2011, 05:35 PM

I don't spank my children. We do time-outs here.

mommydiva · #10 May 23rd, 2011, 06:56 AM

I am sure we will do a quick swat as needed. But we also both agree that there are other methods as well as if we are to using spanking we have to still explain the situation as to why its being done and such.

I believe not every method works with every kid so its a learning process no matter what method we use.

noworries · #11 May 23rd, 2011, 07:39 AM

I don't agree with spanking but I can't say that it's not the first disciplinary action that crosses my mind when I am at the end of my rope. I was spanked and I don't think it messed me up or anything, I just don't think it's effective discipline (discipline is to teach, and I don't think you are teaching anything positive with spanking). That being said, I know that not everyone shares those beliefs and if someone else chooses to spank, that's their decision and I don't judge that.

Lonomia · #12 May 23rd, 2011, 12:05 PM

I don't do spanking because I think its mostly an out for anger. I rely on natural consequences, removal of privileges, and direct communication with Thuya. I give him time outs when he does something that hurts others (like his bro) but I don't use them for anything else. I use time outs more for myself because I get really frustrated sometimes and the last thing I want is to take it out on the boys.

noworries · #13 May 23rd, 2011, 01:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Lonomia

I don't do spanking because I think its mostly an out for anger. I rely on natural consequences, removal of privileges, and direct communication with Thuya. I give him time outs when he does something that hurts others (like his bro) but I don't use them for anything else. I use time outs more for myself because I get really frustrated sometimes and the last thing I want is to take it out on the boys.

I agree, for me, I want to spank when I am angry and I don't think any discipline should be done out of anger. And I use timeouts more for me too, sometimes we just need a break from each other to calm down.

On a side note, how do you pronounce Thuya....I have always wondered that and never asked.

rainbow_brite19 · #14 May 23rd, 2011, 04:47 PM

I don't plan on spanking Jackson but I will never say never.

Lonomia · #15 May 23rd, 2011, 07:00 PM

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Originally Posted by noworries

I agree, for me, I want to spank when I am angry and I don't think any discipline should be done out of anger. And I use timeouts more for me too, sometimes we just need a break from each other to calm down.

On a side note, how do you pronounce Thuya....I have always wondered that and never asked.

I think that we think alike in many ways! It sounds pretty similar to the way its spelt, like THOO-ya. We have been calling him "Thu" a lot more lately.

mrsjl · #16 May 23rd, 2011, 07:06 PM

now I feel like a jerk because I said I "have no problem" with a smack on the butt.

I hope you all know that I love my children and I don't hit or beat them, and any "smack on the butt" they may get is just one, quick "lovetap" upon their clothed tushy and it is not done out of anger that I can't control. and I said before that it is very rarely done.

I swear, I love my babies and cherish them every second of my life. they are well taken care of, and they are secure, healthy, happy kids.

Lonomia · #17 May 23rd, 2011, 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by mrsjl

now I feel like a jerk because I said I "have no problem" with a smack on the butt.

I hope you all know that I love my children and I don't hit or beat them, and any "smack on the butt" they may get is just one, quick "lovetap" upon their clothed tushy and it is not done out of anger that I can't control. and I said before that it is very rarely done.

I swear, I love my babies and cherish them every second of my life. they are well taken care of, and they are secure, healthy, happy kids.

I didn't even bat an eyelash at what you said, so don't worry! I know that you are a great Mom.

rainbow_brite19 · #18 May 24th, 2011, 04:28 AM

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Originally Posted by mrsjl

now I feel like a jerk because I said I "have no problem" with a smack on the butt.

I hope you all know that I love my children and I don't hit or beat them, and any "smack on the butt" they may get is just one, quick "lovetap" upon their clothed tushy and it is not done out of anger that I can't control. and I said before that it is very rarely done.

I swear, I love my babies and cherish them every second of my life. they are well taken care of, and they are secure, healthy, happy kids.

Oh Lori, no one doubts that your children are well loved! You are a fantastic mother.

noworries · #19 May 24th, 2011, 07:41 AM

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Originally Posted by mrsjl

now I feel like a jerk because I said I "have no problem" with a smack on the butt.

I hope you all know that I love my children and I don't hit or beat them, and any "smack on the butt" they may get is just one, quick "lovetap" upon their clothed tushy and it is not done out of anger that I can't control. and I said before that it is very rarely done.

I swear, I love my babies and cherish them every second of my life. they are well taken care of, and they are secure, healthy, happy kids.

I also didn't think for one second that you don't love your kids. We simply have different views on discipline, nothing wrong with that. When I said that spanking is done out of anger, I was speaking for myself personally, that's all. I wasn't meaning to make anyone feel bad so don't feel like a jerk for stating what works for you.

mrsjl · #20 May 24th, 2011, 08:33 AM

okay, thanks guys. I felt horrible for a second, but I can count on one hand the amount of times I have had to spank her. it definitely is NOT the only way we discipline, but I can't say it hasn't been done and I can't say for sure it won't ever happen again.