[krislati]

Do you argue in front of your kids?

[noworries]

No.

[mrsjl]

DH and I don't really fight, but we have our disagreements. it is never dragged out or anything, we quickly come to a solution and get over it. we don't curse or swear, get physical, or call each other names. and we hardly ever disagree anyway.

so in short, yes, I guess you can say we have "healthy" arguments in front of the kids.

I have to add though, if it were anything serious we had to talk about it would be done in private, and quietly.

[Irish_Wristwatch]

i guess the easy answer is yes, but they arent real fights, they are the you were supposed to wash those dishes or i want chicken for diner type fights, if it was something serious we would discuss it later

[mommydiva]

Arguments we do have in front of DD. They are more like disagreements but they do get heated. We both like to debate..lol Fights we generally don't have but when we do they tend to happen after DD is already in bed. But we don't want to fight in front of her but arguments and disagreements we do want her to be able to see because I have seen what happens when parents don't at least have some form of disagreement in front of their kids and its not healthy.

We both used to fight a lot though and we see the affect it has on our dog. Every time I raise my voice she runs and hides. And it was a huge wake up call when we realized that we said if we ever have kids we can't let that happen and screw them up like we did the dog. I mean certain ringtones will set the dog off and she will go hide.

[mrsjl]

Originally Posted by Irish_Wristwatch

i guess the easy answer is yes, but they arent real fights, they are the you were supposed to wash those dishes or i want chicken for diner type fights, if it was something serious we would discuss it later

those are the types of arguments we have too lol

[mshah]

Absolutely not. We also never argue or disagree in front of any family. It is all done in private. Prior to meeting dh, it was normal for me to see family argue/disagree in front of each other, as well as show pda. Since meeting dh he has changed my mind, and I find that not showing any pda (other than kind words and smiles) and never disagreeing with each other maintains such a high level of respect with both of our families (as well as not discussing our problems with our families). It never gives anyone anything to talk about, nothing to judge poorly on, and I really appreciate it. I know alot of ppl must think the no pda thing is weird, and I would have agreed 12 years ago...but after living it and seeing the results I'm a full believer, lol!

[krislati]

While we do have our disagreements in front of the kids, we never have full out arguments in front of them. Which rarely happens anyway.


Miranda~~what you said makes perfect sense. I wish we were more like that, our families always know what is going on in our relationship and it gives them more room to "judge" us. Which drives me crazy but we are the ones giving them the ammo, we really need to keep things to ourselves.