Elli grew her Wings - mention of what happened, read cautiously

inyourhonor · #1 June 27th, 2011, 05:43 AM

Elli passed away yesterday in her mama's arms. This is sitting so heavily on my heart I can't imagine how her family feels.

Jess updated our November 2008 PR that Elli had passed and what caused it. She wanted us to share but to not become afraid of it. Which is understandable. I am going to copy and paste what she wrote and link back if you'd like to put something for her there.

She is such a sweet person, she didn't deserve this. Nobody deserves this.

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UPDATE #2 (3:42am 6/27)
My sweet baby girl earned her Angel wings at 3:10pm on 6/26/11, in my loving arms with daddy laying his protective hands over her tiny body. She fought so hard and I am so proud of her. She was born on 9/13, and she will forever be 9 months and 13 days old.

I know a lot of people through JM and FB have been wondering what caused the head injury. And although I am tentative to write about it, because I don't want to scare anybody, I feel like it will answer *some* questions. For those who have been cross-posting to other boards, please copy and paste or link to this to let people know who may be wondering.

Bottom line...she should still be with us. It was just a normal fall from a standing position. All 29 inches of her. She had crawled over to my husband who was sitting on the couch. I was sitting on the floor holding Addi and Livi was sitting next to Nate on the couch. We were engaging in our normal bedtime routine with the big girls. Anyway, Elli pulled up to her knees using Nate's knees as assistance. So then Nate lifted her to her feet and was supporting her under her arms.

She saw a pair of bunny ears on the floor from Easter that the big girls still like to play with. So Nate supported her by the rib cage with his knees while he picked up the bunny ears to put on his head. He was wiggling them at Elli saying "honey, look at daddy. Look at daddy, baby" She reached up to grab them and slipped out from Nate's knees striking her head on the CARPETED and PADDED floor. We were both RIGHT THERE. It wasn't an accident where we stepped away for a second and something bad happened or she got into something. My husband was PLAYING with her and making her LAUGH!!!

I don't know why such a fall was so deadly. Kids fall backwards all the time (which is why I'm so afraid of writing this because I don't want to instill fear in anyone else). But it was like a 1 in a million fall. My older kids have taken worse tumbles than that and they're here, healthy and thriving.

I don't know if it was the way she arched her back to try to be able to reach as high as possible that caused her to fall backwards with her head being the first thing that hit instead of butt or shoulders or what.

That't it. A normal fall. From standing height. 29 inches. And it killed my baby. My world is forever changed.

http://www.justmommies.com/forums/f5...-1st-post.html (My little Elli (UPDATE #2 1st post))

HippieLove · #2 June 27th, 2011, 05:59 AM

lurking from June 2010... I just can't believe it... my heart hurts and I have tears

its not fair... Oh gosh Jess, I am keeping you, your loved ones and precious baby in my thoughts, sending all my love and prayers... I'm so sorry, I wish there were words, I wish it wasn't true...

krislati · #3 June 27th, 2011, 06:01 AM

This just breaks my heart. My thoughts and prayers go out to her family, I couldn't imagine the pain they are in. It just breaks my heart.

Crimson · #4 June 27th, 2011, 06:03 AM

No no no!!!

I am crying for her, it is so unfair when a child loses their life.

Their family is most definately in my thoughts. My heart aches for that family.

KMH · #5 June 27th, 2011, 06:28 AM

That is so sad...tears and prayers for that family.

I have been hugging Claire a LOT since I first read about this...she's probably thinking I am smothering her a little, but I can't help myself.

noworries · #6 June 27th, 2011, 07:11 AM

My heart breaks for this family and what they are going through right now.

Trish36 · #7 June 27th, 2011, 08:30 AM

Oh man....this is a mother's worst nightmare. I can't stop crying. Miranda falls down all the time and I worry that Isabelle is being too rough with her. Who would think that something like that could lead to such heartache.
The poor family!!!!

Jeanie915 · #8 June 27th, 2011, 08:44 AM

My heart is broken for this family. I can't imagine.....

mrsjl · #9 June 27th, 2011, 08:55 AM

this is totally not fair! lots of kids bump their heads harder than that and are fine. I can just see it all playing out, and it is so scary because it was just a normal evening and then out of nowhere... I just can't wrap my head around it.

just this saturday Nathan tripped over my foot and smacked his head on the NON-carpeted floor. he cried so hard he couldn't breathe, and I was so afraid. if I had known Elli's story at the time, I probably would have lost it. I'm going to be paranoid for the rest of my life over this.

Elli should be here, on earth, with her family. I am so so sad for them.

birdblue · #10 June 27th, 2011, 09:00 AM

My heart breaks for this family.

Just a little over a week ago Sam fell off the bed, face first. Thank god he's okay aside from a little carpet burn on his nose...to think a fall as simple as that could take him away from me terrifies me. I'm holding him a little tighter now.

M-n-MsMama0510 · #11 June 27th, 2011, 10:21 AM

Its so horrible

I often think about how Mason is rough with Mya. Now I have to add this fear to my list. I cried reading her story on how they would soon have to make the decision, I just couldnt do it. Shes a strong Momma and my heart n prayers go out to her and her family. Its so tragic

mommydiva · #12 June 27th, 2011, 11:55 AM

How very sad and heartbreaking. I can't even begin to imagine what they are going through and how they will get passed this. Many prayers for them.

mshah · #13 June 27th, 2011, 01:24 PM

It's just not fair how something like this can happen! How is this even possible?!! I'm just in such disbelief that something so normal can become something so tragic.

KMH · #14 June 27th, 2011, 03:19 PM

You know what really leaves an impression? She just lost a child, and she's comforting everyone else...telling them not to be scared or worry! She has more strength than I can even imagine.

Lisigirl13 · #15 June 27th, 2011, 04:15 PM

This is heartbreaking and I can't possibly imagine what she is going through
moments like this make me grateful to have melanie and make me want to hold her even longer.

I don't understand why this happens.....and It's not fair for life to scar families this way.

May that little angel rest in peace and my heart goes out to the family

Rochelle7 · #16 June 27th, 2011, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by KMH

You know what really leaves an impression? She just lost a child, and she's comforting everyone else...telling them not to be scared or worry! She has more strength than I can even imagine.

I was thinking this as well. I was praying all day yesterday for a miracle for them and now that I find out the story I almost can't believe such a small incident could take their poor baby away. I pray they can find peace and that the father doesn't blame himself. It's so tragic.

Luvgreen19 · #17 June 27th, 2011, 05:17 PM

Rest in Peace Elli. I hope your family can in time find peace here on earth until you are reunited again.

dee.76 · #18 June 27th, 2011, 05:24 PM

This is just so heartbreaking.. I have no words to describe it... They have been in my prayers and in my thoughts since hearing about this devastating incident...

I think about Gabe and how many times he has bumped his head.. HARD!... and have left a bruise on his head etc.. and sometimes he doesnt even cry anymore!!... I couldn't even imagine how I would begin to cope...

Sending LOTS of strength and prayers to the family...

lala2007 · #19 June 27th, 2011, 06:40 PM

This is too heartbreaking. I am so sorry

. My prayers are with the family. This really scares me.

krsnow · #20 June 27th, 2011, 07:12 PM

My LO too has had many falls on our wood floors. This is so scary and you wouldn't think that this could happen on padded carpet. I feel so horrible for this family, I can't imagine what they are going through right now.