[Juliebird18]

Yesterday morning my brother's girlfriend had an ultrasound. She was almost a week past due and they said her fluids were low. They decided to send her to the hospital and induce labor.

I wish I could be there but I live 3,000 miles away.

So anyway, after brother told me he said he had to go because he had to get ready but he would call me. This was noon and she was scheduled at 6pm. He didn't call back and would not answer my texts.

Finally, at 9pm, I reached him and they just started the process. They said it would take 12 hours to soften her cervix.

So today I called him at 10am to see how things were. He said everything was fine. then "oh %^$. what the &*^%! I have to go." He abruptly hung up.

I did not hear from him again until about 4pm when I texted him and asked what was going on. He said, "We are about to get down to business"

It's now 11:21pm and I have not heard a word despite texts and phone calls. They haven't called my mom or anyone I know. We are all so worried.

My mom finally called the hospital. They said they couldn't say anything but after asking the patients name, they said well no news is good news. So basically they told us everything was ok.

I am kinda pissed. I know they had tons of down time. I was there just last year!!!!!!!!!

I also know that I did not want to talk to anyone, but I was having a really difficult time. Still, DH texted family and kept them updated.

I am going to back off and give them space but would you be upset and hurt?

[Rochelle7]

If this is their first it may be overwhelming too much for them to deal with updates. Still though, I don't believe you are being a complete brat. He could probably update via one text every 3 hrs or so. A simple "Everything's fine" would suffice. But then again everyone handles traumatic situations differently and his reaction to all this could be total seclusion from interacting with the family.

If I were you (which I have no siblings so I don't really know what those relationships are like) but I would inwardly be mad at him but never bring it up. You don't want to be a kill-joy. I'm not saying you were intending to stir up any drama with him but just in case, I thought I'd bring you back down to Earth. It's easy to get hurt and offended with loved ones over these things but more than likely he just doesn't care right now about anyone in the world except his gal and their baby.

((hugs)) I know this is hard. Please update when you get word.

[mommydiva]

I think I would be annoyed and hurt but at the same time on the outside it looks like a lot of down time when reality is no one knows what it going on, on their end ya know.

I would go with the no news is good news approach and let them contact you guys but if you haven't heard from them in say a day or whatnot then I would call or text and say hey whats going on we are worried. if no reply well just let it be.

I do understand being hurt too.

[Trish36]

Well, not knowing what is going on I wouldn't jump to conclusions. For all you know they had to rush her for an emergency c-section (god forbid) and things just went crazy and your brother just hasn't had the time to think of anything or anyone else. I'm sure that once things settle down he'll let you all know. I would just back off and let them do it on their own time. After all it is their first baby and you know how overwhelming things can get.
Now if the baby was born and you don't hear from them in a while, I would be upset too, but what can you do right.

[Juliebird18]

My brother finally texted me back and said, "Kayla was in hard labor for many hours and they finally cut her up like a Thanksgiving turkey. Long story short, everyone is great including our daughter Sophie."

So then I called him. He told me how they were sitting around for hours playing cards. Then she went into hard labor for about 4 hours but come on, you couldn't send me a message before hand.

Then he says the baby is in the NICU but don't worry she will be out Sunday and everything is fine.

I tried to find out how much the baby weighed, what was wrong with her, how his girlfriend is doing. Talking to him is like talking to a brick wall. Even though I want to ask a million questions, I am going to let things settle down and maybe next week I can have a real conversation with one of them.

[amhk]

Not to sound sexist, but sometimes it seems like guys have a hard time communicating. At least my DH doesn't always understand that I want as much information as possible. It's like pulling teeth trying to get information sometimes
Anyway, congratulations on your new niece!

[Calendula]

You're not being a complete brat, I would be going crazy with anticipation and worry, even if I didn't think I really needed to worry. He might be super busy. My poor DH was absolutely kept busy and thrashed from exhaustion because he was in the shower with me for hours and hours working the shower head massager for my back labor.

I hope you hear soon, and it is a little early but congratulations on the new family member.