So....where to begin....
Monday: About Me
I was born and raised in a smallish town in Northern MN (Bemidji-Home of Paul Bunyan and Babe the Blue Ox). My parents had been married for 8 years before they started having kids. I am the oldest of 4 and we are each about 2 years apart from one another. We lived (my parents still do) 10 miles out of town on a plot of 28 acres of open and wooded land. No neighbor hood friends and being out down the block for me, as there were not many kids around and the houses were pretty spaced out. I spend a lot of time in the woods as a kid, which probably explains my love of the outdoors now. When it came to school I was the "smart" one. It was a badge I carried from early elementary school all the way through senior high. I was much more mature than most other kids my age, both mentally and physically which made Middle school complete Hell for me. I ws the easy target to pick on, since I didn't want to accept the fact that I was a girl, and didn't really fight back all that much. My self esteem, while I tried not to let on about it, was pretty much in the gutter. My uncle when I was about 12 years old made the comment "you better stay active or you will end up looking just like your grandma". Now, my grandma at the time was so obese she had to use a wheelchair to get around. Not what you say to a 12yr old girl with confidence issues. That comment has haunted me my entire life. but back to school, I think the reason I was able to hide the confidence thing was that I was a good kid and I threw everything into my academics, I graduated 6th in my class of 330 and school and smarts where who I was to the outside world. I really looked forward to moving to the Twin Cities area for college, going to the University of MN where there were 60,000+ students on campus. I was looking forward to finding myself but instead, I found classmates from home all too close to me, and felt trapped in the "smart" bubble again, which wasn't going so well, as I was finding college to much more challenging. I ended up struggling with depression and the start of an eating disorder. In my first year and a half of college I had dropped 60+lbs and it wasn't the healthy way at all....it was way too easy to just not eat anything during the day and only a little at dinner. I had a friend call this out to me, which scared the crap out of me. I didn't even realize that was happening. It was about this same point in time that I joined Christian Student Fellowship (a campus group) and my life kind of turned around. I found people that seemed to honestly care about the real me, and felt like I finally found a place that I belonged. I give credit to CSF for saving my life. It was also about this time that I started to date guys. Now, I have never been asked out in person. Every guy I ever went on a date with started as an Online meeting (which sometimes I think is kind of pathetic) . Out of the 8 or 9 guys I met, I consider myself to have really ever been in relationships with 3 of them. First was Josh=a country boy who grew up in the Metro. This was my first love. He picked me up in his lifted up truck and was wearing a black cowboy hat.....at that point he melted my heat. We didn't really date all that long-4 1/2 months. He was mostly a true gentleman the entire time and introduced me to a lot of things that I loved (but have not really done since, 4wheeling, mud trucking, Monster Trucks, Rodeo). In the end he split with me, claiming "I can't see being with you in 30 years" which at the time tore my heart apart. I sometimes wonder where he ended up in life, and how his parents are doing. The second was a guy named Jim. He was about 7 years older than me and had been in the Military. This "relationship" only really lasted a month and he broke up with me over email (which I was going to do the next time we saw each other)...he was kind of a slime ball. Shortly after him, Jason and I reconnected....which is a good lead in to tomorrow......
(hopefully I don't bore you all with my not too exciting of a life)......
Tuesday: (about me and DH)
Okay....so as I said yesterday, I have only dated guys I have meet online....same goes for DH. I started talking with Jason near the very end of my first relationship (the cowboy) just in general friendly chat. I used to randomly chat with people from all over the world so this was nothing new. We talked quite frequently over instant message for about a month and a half and then he asked if I would be interested in meeting in person. Now, at this point I was just out of my first relationship and I knew for my own sake and for any future relationship I was not ready for anything to develop for several months, so I turned him down and tried to explain that I was not in the right place in my life to meet. We continued to chat for a week or two and then he stopped coming online. After about 3 months of him not being online, I deleted him from my contact list and figured I would not talk to him again. Fast forward to about 6 months after we had last chatted. Something made me log into the site we had met each other on (collegeclub, which doesn't exist anymore) while at work and Jason just happened to send me a message in the 10 minutes I was logged in.....We picked conversation up from there right where we had left off 6 months ago and began to chat daily on instant messenger. We talked for about a month before he asked again if we could meet and this time I said yes.
We dated for 2 years (well 2 weeks shy of 2 years) doing all the things (or most anyway) that normal couples do...but spiced it up in the first 6 months by taking Ballroom Dance lessons instead of going out to movies and clubs and stuff.....that was a ton of fun for sure....I graduated from college in May 2004 and Jason from U of Phoenix online that July. I road tripped with his family to his graduation ceremony in Phoenix (from MN) and then we went on a 2wk camping trip in Rocky Mountain National park, CO. It was at the top of the Continental divide, with his family around that he proposed.....I was completely shocked!!!! I figured we would come back from the trip and then have a talk about where we were headed and what we both wanted for the future of our relationship, and well, he beat me to it
It was an amazing moment that is for sure...We spent the next year planning our October Wedding (2005). After getting married we enjoyed each other's company for the next years and tried to get ourselves into a better financial situation to be able to grow our family. It was a long road, as we made some poor financial choices along our path, but we worked, and are still working through them.
In a way we are kind of a fairy tale couple. We never really fight, we disagree on things but both try to talk it out and not let our emotions take over. We have been through a lot as a couple over the last year and a half that has made us stronger (Jason just had his 3rd back surgery in 18 months)
anyway....not sure what else to write.....like I kinda said before....we are kinda boring....but I like it that way
I will answer whatever questions anyone has though....so if I left out details you might want....let me know
Day 3: (about babies)
Well, you ladies know quite a bit about little man Wyatt
He is our first little angel (and of course right now only). We TTC for almost a year when I got pregnant in Aug 2009, only to miscarry Labor day wknd (6.5wks). It was a hard wknd as we were camping and celebrating Jason's grandmother's birthday. We wondered how long it would take us to get pregnant again, since I have PCOS and a little bit of a thyroid issue....we were told to give it a month break from TTC and then start back up for a couple of months and if not successful to come back to start talking about introducing an RE into the picture. Well, I kinda screwed up on the temping...and we ended up not waiting a cycle, and got pregnant again in October with Wyatt.....I had an overall pretty good pregnancy, gaining a ton of fluid and extra weight (not so great, still have a huge chunk to lose) and toward then end my BP started to spike a bit....Wyatt came 2 wks early on his own...coming in at 10lbs 4.6oz and 21inches via c/s after pushing for 3.5hrs with no success. he is a crazy smart, happy boy and we couldn't be more proud of our little man......at 1 he is trying to say lots of words (mom, dadd, gramma, grampa, ball, banket, baba (bottle), elmo, cracker...etc) and is mostly walking now instead of crawling...and Loves Chicken fingers
I am so late this week on MOTW! I will be back to reply after I get it read.
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