[Rochelle7]

Hi I'm asking this question bc I am currently trying to get my photos organized. What I'm coming across are a lot of pics of friends with whom I've broken things off with for them seriously wronging me. I have a few reactions to this. First reaction is to throw it all out. Anything of them, I just want gone from my life. Then, a bit of logistics starts taking over and I think, "Well, even though they did a lot to hurt you, there were still a few good times and these memories brought you to where you are today". Finally, they end up in their own separate pile or folder. And it's not like I'm going to purposefully go through them and re-spark emotions that I don't like feeling, so then it becomes hoarding to me.

I just thought it might help to know what others do in this situation. Obviously family is a bit different. When family hurts us, we still keep a few things around of them bc it's our lineage/genealogy in the very least.

Thanks for your help.

[mommydiva]

For me it really depends on how bad I was hurt or how toxic the person is. I have deleted a lot of pictures of certain time frames in my life and the people who were around at that time. Because I don't need any reminders of that time even though there were some great pictures during that time. While others with the same person have been left alone like if it was a concert pic or something like that. Because it was maybe a different time period or special event.

[krislati]

Well, I keep all pictures. I can't bring myself to throw them away. They are my past and sometimes I like to reflect on that. But with that said, I haven't had anyone hurt me that bad, so I don't know what I would do if that were the case.

[krystal g]

Out with them. If I'm done, I'm done and I don't need a reminder.

[Rochelle7]

Thanks for the responses

I'm still unsure of what to do. I've received such varied responses from ppl both on here and IRL. I just want to do the best thing for my emotional health as I'm a very sensitive and obsessive person by nature.

I really think I should get rid of 3/4 of pics they appear in and then figure out a way to allow them to appear in albums without it interfering with the actual fond memories of my life. Life isn't all peaches and roses and I understand that but I don't want to live my life dwelling on the negative. Pictures are merely pictures. I just don't know where to draw the line with certain things and this is one of them.

Thanks for reading

[~*~AIMEE~*~]

That is a tough question. I seem to have forgiven all of the people in my life through the years, and I am glad to still have pictures and memories of them even if I didn't rekindle the friendship. I agree totally with the comment that each of those people make you who you are today. But with that being said, I don't know the extent these people hurt you, and how recently these things occured. I would say if they are recent, give it some time...but if they happened many years ago and they still hurt you to look at them, I say toss them.

[I<3HelloKitty]

If you're never going to look at them again, I'd get rid of them so they're not just taking up space. Another option is to scan them and just store them in a folder on your computer or a CD somewhere. Then if you ever did decide you wanted them you could just print them out.

[Rochelle7]

Thanks

I decided that I'm going to keep only pictures they appear in that would ruin the integrity of the picture otherwise. They are in some of my DD1's bday party pics so I'll throw those in the album but any "friend-huggy" or "just them" pics are going in the trash. Too bad, so sad.

[Juliebird18]

I keep all photos. I think it is because I never had any baby photos. My dad was abusive and took them all from my mom and locked them up.

I came across pics of an ex recently but I just can't throw them out!