Distant relatives

preciousgiftsmama · #1 August 4th, 2011, 10:51 PM

How close are you to family members who live far away?

We are having serious issues right now with my dh's family, and his 2 sisters live in OH (we live in WA) and they just told him that they cannot be a part of dh & I's family since we live too far away

His one sister has never met Ty and has only seen Julia twice ever and that was when she was a baby and we traveled to OH. Would have been same for his other sister except she came out last Feb to meet Ty and see Julia. (btw I prefer it this way but it upsets dh).

I wondered if anyone elses family seems to have a problem being a part of your family if they live far away?

#2 August 4th, 2011, 11:01 PM

We live in PA... part of DH's family lives in TX and the other half in ME. We see both halfs all the time. They are either here or we are there. I have an aunt in HI, see's seen C twice. Distance is no match for my family.

#3 August 5th, 2011, 05:04 AM

We live in Indiana but I have 1 aunt/uncle and 4 cousins in Arkansas then my other aunt just moved back there to be with her dd who has health issues.
We all actually keep in touch on facebook more then anything.

I also have an aunt/uncle in Missouri and we talk on facebook the most too but my mom does talk on the phone to all of them since she doesnt do facebook.

We're actually very close to those out of state but talking online daily/weekly it's like they live down the road.

preciousgiftsmama · #4 August 5th, 2011, 06:39 AM

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Originally Posted by KaiX2Momma

We all actually keep in touch on facebook more then anything.

All dh's nutty family has FB, but there is no way I would ever let them be my friend on FB. Dh does not have a FB and does not want one. I just feel bad for dh that is family is so mean, personally I dont like a one of them.

#5 August 5th, 2011, 06:44 AM

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Originally Posted by preciousgiftsmama

All dh's nutty family has FB, but there is no way I would ever let them be my friend on FB. Dh does not have a FB and does not want one. I just feel bad for dh that is family is so mean, personally I dont like a one of them.

I think it's different because it's my family on my facebook not dh's. I only have dh's sister and half sister on facebook. The rest are my family. I should have said dh has family in florida, I've never met and he hasnt seen since he was like 10? So when I reverse the question, we have dh's family we dont talk to but my family I do. Dh doesnt have fb either. He thinks it's dumb, full of drama, and he wants no part of it. Plus hes a very private man so it's not like he's going to get on fb and say "About to head to bed, been a long day". LOL

Daffodil · #6 August 5th, 2011, 07:44 AM

Sorry, I can't respond to this post, you live too far away from me.

mommytokem · #7 August 5th, 2011, 07:52 AM

We are now in PA and the rest of our family is in MI we will see what happens. I was already not invited to my future sil's wedding shower because they knew I wouldn't be able to make it. so far that's my biggest complaint, I could have still sent her something.

jessanddane · #8 August 5th, 2011, 10:01 AM

All of dh's family is in Utah and Cali. I'm friends with some of them on Facebook, but not his loony tunes mom. Most of them are pretty wacko and they don't even call dh on holidays or his birthday. He doesn't have Facebook either and refuses to use it.

Jule'sMomInOR · #9 August 5th, 2011, 10:21 AM

I live in OR and my family lives in FL. DH's live in SD or Alaska. We still manage to keep in touch and see each other every now and then. Your DH's family sound like a PITA.

sfarrow3 · #10 August 5th, 2011, 10:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Daffodil

Sorry, I can't respond to this post, you live too far away from me.

LMAO!!!! Youre crazy!

preciousgiftsmama · #11 August 5th, 2011, 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Daffodil

Sorry, I can't respond to this post, you live too far away from me.

Makes sence to me!!

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Originally Posted by Jule'sMomInOR

Your DH's family sound like a PITA.

They are and they got worse once his wonderful mother, who held the family together, passed away in 2008.

Hopefully his issues with them will soon pass and we will just continue living our seperate lives....happily in my book

I dont need looneys around!

Arei_720 · #12 August 6th, 2011, 09:23 AM

Most of my immediate family is in Cali and my DH's extended family is in Texas. They're all on our facebooks and I also keep in touch with my siblings via my sporadic playing of WoW. And I video chat with them every, so often so they can see and talk to the babies and vice versa.

shockandawe · #13 August 6th, 2011, 11:22 AM

My DH's family is screwy like that too. My MIL (lives 2 hours away) was all up in my grill while I was pregnant visiting every couple of weeks and making a big deal about talking to my big belly. After Maggie was born I pretty much have to sit her in a chair every 3 or 4 months when we arrange a visit and put the child in her hands like she's otherwise on fire.

BIL lives 4.5 hours away, and sent DH a note a month after Maggie was born to tell him that he didn't want to fake any effort at coming out to visit (even though they had actually been in town doing other stuff), and said that he's just not good with kids, so why try? The man is a substitute teacher for elementary and junior school kids. Suddenly, out of nowhere he's asked to come by this week and visit. They need a place to stay in town. And I expect that he is going to enjoy the opportunity to rub DH's face in the fact that he's currently unemployed. The timing is just too coincidental. BIL is a very jealous little brother and has little man syndrome.

SIL lives 5 or 6 hours away, and sent a small homemade gift down for Maggie for Christmas and sent us an email for her birthday. ummm. I give her 3 kids $50 each for every birthday, and make sure they get nice christmas gifts too. They too have been just 45 minutes away from the house for other business, and even though they've already travelled so far for that other business, felt it was just too far away to come by for a short visit.

I make a mental note of everything. Siblings suck. Whether they are your own or someone else's it seems. Sorry your's stink too. Sounds like you're all better off without them anyway.

Wifenmomalwys · #14 August 6th, 2011, 12:16 PM

That is so messed up. There is always skype if they even wanted to be apart of yalls lives. But it sounds like they don't. They are the ones missing out. Not you guys.

ATM, we are about 2 hours from our families. But with us being military, we tend to move around

When we are not as close, we still keep in touch.

sethsmum · #15 August 8th, 2011, 03:43 AM

My immediate family are all in Manchester now and DF's gran lives in Bradford still. My Grandad is near Brighton. We speak on the phone sometimes but thats it really. We see everyone a few times a year, mainly at family events like birthdays.