[lala2007]

First loves are hard to get over. My first love text me on my birthday telling me he still loves me and wants to come see me. We started talking when I was about 13 all the way to I was about 16 or 17. He was there for me through some really tough times,even went out of town with me and my family. I still love him too but he has a girlfriend and I want it to stay that way. I know how it feels when your boyfriend is fooling around with his ex. Also even though we were not together at the time he slept with my cousin. He apologized when he told me he still loves me but you can only take stuff like that with a grain of salt. He will always have a special place but spending time is a no no.

Have any of you dealt with this?

[noworries]

I'm married to my first love.

Sounds like he needs to leave you alone and just focus on his girlfriend.

[lala2007]

The exact way I feel and I think that is so beautiful. I didn't have that much luck!

[Rochelle7]

Originally Posted by noworries

I'm married to my first love.

Sounds like he needs to leave you alone and just focus on his girlfriend.

Same here, my highschool sweetheart

Your ex sounds a tad scatterbrained. Maybe he's bored w/ GF?

[Luvgreen19]

I don't buy the whole "he still loves you" thing. You've grown and changed and become a woman. You're not 17 anymore, and most likely he doesn't really know you anymore, you know?
I'm not saying that he doesn't still care about you or anything like that, just that it's fairly inconceivable for him to still love you after all this time. Like Rebecca said, it kind of sounds like he might be bored with his current gf, which is so unfair to her and to you too.

[lala2007]

This is why I love my Agust ladies! Always being honest with me and telling it like it is. He defitenly does not know the adult Joy not even my ex. I changed a lot when I became pregnant with my daughter and that's something my ex couldn't handle. I think he is just bored of his gf. They have been together for 2 years and he is 21. I hated it when a guy I was talking to told me he still cared a lot about his ex and when McKenzie's dad would talk about his ex and text her behind my back. Its not right.

[inyourhonor]

I also married my first love.

I agree with Lisa, he probably loves the you that you were back when you were 17. You've grown and matured. I wouldn't give him a second thought. The right guy is out there waiting to love you and lady bug

[mommydiva]

Yup I have to agree with the other ladies here.

Its so rare that people actually end up with their first loves.

I married my high school sweetheart but its also been tough because as we have gotten older there are some changes that have occurred that most people would not stick around for. People grow, people change. So that first love is so rare to actually work out. And the ones who go back to their first loves find themselves going wait what because they are no longer the same people

[lala2007]

Originally Posted by inyourhonor

I also married my first love.

I agree with Lisa, he probably loves the you that you were back when you were 17. You've grown and matured. I wouldn't give him a second thought. The right guy is out there waiting to love you and lady bug

Thank you Marisa. I agree. I feel like I will never meet the guy that will love me and ladybug it feels like. A tall tale lol

Originally Posted by mommydiva

Yup I have to agree with the other ladies here.

Its so rare that people actually end up with their first loves.

I married my high school sweetheart but its also been tough because as we have gotten older there are some changes that have occurred that most people would not stick around for. People grow, people change. So that first love is so rare to actually work out. And the ones who go back to their first loves find themselves going wait what because they are no longer the same people

You are right. People deftinetly change. I know him and I will never work out even if he was single!

[mrsjl]

I know what you mean, about not forgetting your first love. I will always have a special place in my heart for my first love, but that is as far as it goes. I am happily married, and I can look back at my time with my ex and remember everything, good and bad, but it's a closed chapter of our lives. I am still acquainted with him, his sister is my best friend and we've known eachother for 10 years and he lives around the corner from me with his girlfriend (we were all friends in high school) and their baby. although our lives still overlap in many ways, the part that used to be "us" the way we were back then is completely gone. we are both so totally different than we used to be, not the same people at all.

I agree with everything the other ladies have said about him being bored and missing the way you used to be, not who you are today. he doesn't even know you anymore. he is being totally unfair to his gf.

[Juliebird18]

Even though my first love was a total douche, I will still always have a place for him in my heart. We are both married to other people now and I am so glad it did not work out with him, but I still think about him sometimes.

He will send me a message a couple of times a year just to say hello (I always let him know how awesome I am doing). I think a lot of our relationship was unresolved, maybe its like that for you and your ex, but it is best to just say hello and move on.

[KMH]

I am also married to my first love

It's probably easier for him to do the whole "grass is greener" thing and think about how things would be so great if he were with you. He's thinking about what you had when you guys were young and carefree, but he doesn't realize that adult relationships take work and all have a certain amount of stress. I feel kind of sorry for him, because his current attitude will never lead him to true happiness.

[austlanabmv]

You and ladybug will find you perfect someone ..it is not a tall tale .. i was separated from my ex for 6 years a single mom with 3 kids and i found my perfect match.... if i found mine with 3 kiddos it will not be hard to find yours with just one... looking back almost 3 years ago i would have never dreamed i would be married and have 4 children and own a home and have a great best friend to spend my life with ..... he is out there somewhere... if the ex will talk to you behind the GF back he will do the same to you ... so even if he is ever single RUN... my husband was talking to someone when he met me he made sure they were no longer talking before he persued something with me .... there are good guys out there...

[krystal g]

Eh, my first love was pretty much a douche too. No love lost there. But I can still look back with a bit of fondness...a bit.

I agree with the other ladies, sounds like he's bored and just testing the waters with you. I would leave the past in the past.

[rainbow_brite19]

The other ladies gave you awesome advice already. I, too, think he sounds bored. He doesn't really know the real you and he's not being fair to his current GF. And I agree with Cassandra- you WILL find that someone! You are a great catch, and I know someone will be perfect for you and Kenzie someday!

As for my first real love, he is indeed my fiance and son's father. However, we broke up for about 3 years before getting back together, so it has been a long road getting to this point. Wouldn't have it any other way though, we needed that time to grow. He was always a very close friend in the meantime.

[lala2007]

Thank you all so much. You always give me a positive out look on everything. Thank you so much. God wants me to be patient. I have really enjoyed reading about your first loves even if some were douches!