I feel so dejected

Juliebird18 · #1 September 20th, 2011, 07:45 PM

I was uninvited to one of my best friend's wedding.

She was in my wedding 3 years ago. She flew across the country to visit when my son was born.

I never received a paper invitation but she told me I was invited. We talked about it a bunch. I went to a dress fitting with her when I was in town last month and she said she would understand if I couldn't make it but she would send me an invitation either way. I told her I didn't know if I could go because money was tight but I really wanted to so I would try.

So...I still hadn't received my invitation but I was looking at flights and found a super cheap one. I bought it. When I still didn't get my invitation I asked her about it.

Apparently she "procrastinated" and didn't tell me. She decided to do me a favor by not inviting me so I wouldn't have to deal with the hassle of going.

We did not have a falling out. As far as I knew, we were still good friends. I guess I was wrong.

Now I have to cancel the flight and pay a $100 fee. She says she is sorry. She feels like a jerk and wishes she knew how to fix the situation. Um....HELLO?????

I don't have many friends and can't really afford to lose any but in my book, this has ruined our friendship.

Luvgreen19 · #2 September 20th, 2011, 07:57 PM

She knows you bought the flight and the words, "You're coming, so of course I'll find a seat for you, you're my best friend and I am so excited you can make it" did not come out of her mouth?
Yeah.. I don't know if I'd be able to sustain that friendship either

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I'm so sorry hun, that is really crappy.

Rochelle7 · #3 September 20th, 2011, 08:22 PM

I agree with Lisa... That was more than crappy. You have every right to be 'done'. I would feel the same way.

mrsjl · #4 September 20th, 2011, 09:06 PM

WHAT?! you told her that you already booked your flight and there was NOTHING she could do for her best friend?! HELLO! she is the master of the whole event, it is HER day! SHE controls everything. this is unacceptable. I hope you say something to her, it doesn't have to be done in a "mean" way (or it can be, if you want

) but you should just bring it to her attention that she is being a complete ********* and you deserve much, much better in a "best" friend.

momma2princesses · #5 September 20th, 2011, 10:19 PM

wow. that is just evil!

birdblue · #6 September 20th, 2011, 11:09 PM

Wow.

I agree with everything everyone has already said.

Just...Wow.

Sorry hun!!! *hugs*

mommydiva · #7 September 21st, 2011, 06:19 AM

Wow yeah I would be so hurt and upset.
I would be over the friendship for a very long time if not forever.

I am sorry.

KMH · #8 September 21st, 2011, 06:28 AM

You deserve so much better from a friend...she is being a complete Bridezilla and just a plain ol' witch

krislati · #9 September 21st, 2011, 06:40 AM

I agree with everyone else, I'd rather have one less friend than one like that. I can't believe she didn't make sure there was room for you. Hugs...

Trish36 · #10 September 21st, 2011, 06:47 AM

Nothing much to say but WOW! Totally agree with everyone else. She is not being a very good friend. Maybe her family or DF didn't want you there???? But you know what...if you guys were good friends she would make sure there was space for you, especially if you've already booked the flight.

sunshyne57 · #11 September 21st, 2011, 06:57 AM

Wow! You already BUY your flight, and her words are that she wishes that she could fix the situation? Considering that you said that money was tight, you would think that she would welcome you with open arms. And now you are out $100. Wow.

What a horrible friend. She doesn't deserve you. I hope she feels REALLY bad.

rainbow_brite19 · #12 September 21st, 2011, 05:57 PM

That is beyond witchy. She TOLD you that you were invited, you didn't just assume. So you go out of your way to buy the ticket and she tells you that you can't come? Unbelievable, seriously. I would be extremely angry. She doesn't deserve you as a friend.

Juliebird18 · #13 September 21st, 2011, 07:17 PM

Thanks for your support ladies. I am still so hurt and so angry. I want to tell her off but at the same time, I just don't want to bother with her anymore. Hopefully I will feel better about it in the next few days.

inyourhonor · #14 September 22nd, 2011, 04:59 AM

Wow, just wow. I'm so sorry she did that too, that's not a true friend. I would cut my losses as well. It will bite her in the butt one day. Some people never cease to amaze me.

Find the peace however you need to, tell her off or wash your hands completely, but do what feels best for you!

*hugs*

I<3HelloKitty · #15 September 22nd, 2011, 10:41 AM

I'm so sorry. I'd be beside myself too.

krsnow · #16 September 22nd, 2011, 11:13 AM

I can't believe her! I would definitely write her off as a friend. If it was me, I would probably put her on the spot by questioning her on why she cant make room for you at her wedding, then I would tell her off. She deserves a little extra stress before her big day after what she did to you.

n.m.hood · #17 September 22nd, 2011, 05:49 PM

That's just awful.

I really can't say that I understand this. Not at all. Everyone can shift the numbers around if there are last minute additions. Some people RSVP'd to my wedding and then didn't show up. Some came that weren't invited. That's just how weddings are. So, if she thought that you weren't coming, and then found out that you were, she should have just found a way to make it work. SO weird. I'm really really sorry. I don't have many friends, either, and this would be crushing. Big hugs.