arrgh...mother in laws....arrrgh

shockandawe · #1 September 21st, 2011, 10:42 AM

That's all. Mine is a frustration and a half lately. Had to vent it somewhere and couldn't use my FB...lol

Thanks for the venting space.

*BabyMaMa* · #2 September 21st, 2011, 12:11 PM

Hugs! Sorry...what's going on?!?

shockandawe · #3 September 21st, 2011, 12:55 PM

Well, here's the background: Their reverend is being moved on to a new post after her service concludes this coming Sunday, and my MIL has been pushing us to attend one of their church services since Maggie was born because she wants to show her off to all their church friends.

With the reverend moving on (who is a really nice lady for sure), they are doing a big party thing after her service on Sunday, and so MIL's been pestering the whole dang family to go. She's convinced my SIL who lives like 4 hours away to make the trek in for it, and she's been pushing us who live 2.5 hours away. Well, DH never came right out and said "no" (he has mommy issues), and so she started working on me today. When I told her that it wasn't happening, we have too much to do to get this house on the market quickly, she landed every possible guilt trip she could think of on me. And because I'm not interested in creating more waves, I just sit by and silently take it. This isn't how I'm built...I want to tell her how I really feel about her pushing it like she does, and that guilt trips do nothing to make me want to play nicer.

The woman has been pushing her church on me since DH and I met, and every once in a while, it gets under my skin. Not just any church...it has to be "her" church. KWIM? She can't seem to grasp that we have our own religious network and that it works for us.

AmandaEliz · #4 September 21st, 2011, 03:17 PM

That sucks... I'm right there with you. Guilt trips are the worst!!! Grrrrrrrrrr.

sfarrow3 · #5 September 22nd, 2011, 09:19 AM

O' heck NAW!! ha ha...I hate guilt trips and also when MILs think that thier way is the best way. Why in the world would you travel 2.5 hours for that? If she wants to see Maggie she can see her on YOUR time and if the church ladies want to see Maggie that's what pictures are for...just sayin

shockandawe · #6 September 22nd, 2011, 09:52 AM

There was a passive aggressive smart *** comment on her facebook this morning too...something about how "some people are entitled to make their own decisions...right or wrong." Apparently she's already on him about us moving further away too. We're talking half an hour. Not like the other side of the country.

LOL. I had to ask DH why she insists on fighting when she's already lost the battle. Kinda reminds me of a bug caught in a jar. I also warned him if he didn't start standing up to her and making firm decisions up front with her, the next time I got a guilt trip he'd be dealing with the repercussions. I don't take guilt trips from my own mom.

shockandawe · #7 September 22nd, 2011, 11:06 AM

Good grief. Now they've decided they aren't coming for Thanksgiving dinner. These people...

Mandy, are we sure that we don't somehow share inlaws? LOL