[krislati]

Older childrren in the delivery room? Would the gender of the older kids matter?

[mrsjl]

I don't like anyone in the delivery room aside from the medical staff and my husband. NO ONE else. next time I will have a doula though.

[Irish_Wristwatch]

if they wanted to be there then I would allow it, but I think i would like them to stay up by my head

[sunshyne57]

I don't mind visitors in the early stages, but when it starts to get painful, I don't like anyone there except my husband, and my sister. I only say my sister because she's a nurse and totally understands what I need. She knows when to be quiet, and when to make me laugh. She's great!

[birdblue]

I have mixed feelings on this.

[hilachu]

dont want to traumatize the kids
only the DH, me and drs/nurses
my aunt was pissed because she wanted to be in the room to take pictures
im sorry its a private moment for just me and DH no one else, even kids

[mrsjl]

I think it is a special, private thing. only DH and I were there when the baby was made, nobody was there snapping pictures or cheering us on, so I feel it should be a special and intimate time when the baby is born as well. that is totally just me though, and I definitely don't judge those who choose to have others present.

in fact, and this may sound weird considering everything I just stated above, but I would love to be present at the births of my grandchildren. I hope my kids want me there, but if they don't then I am not going to give them grief over it. I especially understand if my future daughter-in-law doesn't want me there, because while it is my grandchild, it is HER body, ya know? but maybe my daughter won't mind me being there for her. who knows.

[lala2007]

Hmm if I do get married and have another baby I would probably leave Kenzie home with my mom or with her grandparents on her dad's side. I don't want to scare her.

[Jeanie915]

Personally I don't think the delivery room is a place for kids of any age. Younger kids could be traumatized by seeing their mother in so much pain. Just my opinion though. But, during the early stages of labor when it's just you laying in bed with contractions is a different story. I don't see a problem with that. I just don't think a kid should be present during the actual delivery.

[Juliebird18]

I prefer just me, DH and the midwife or dr. I hate being in pain in front of people and looking a mess. It is a private moment for me and I just don't need anyone around to witness it.

[KatieHeitman]

I don't like anyone in the delivery room except medical staff and DH, and my sister. I probably wouldn't mind my MIL either.

[noworries]

I think its a great way to teach our children that birth is a natural thing that you don't need to be scared of. My daughter was sleeping when isaac was born or she would have been there for his birth. My mom would have been there to take care of her.

[M-n-MsMama0510]

I wouldnt have my children in the room WHILE delivering but laboring would be ok. Other then that I really dont mind whos in there. My babies births are more of a celebration instead of a close moment between SO & I.

[inyourhonor]

I had planned on Gage being there when Dane was born. He actually hung out with me in the living room while I labored in the birthing tub. He then went to my moms.

I don't see anything wrong with it if they are of willing participants by wanting to be there. Gage worried too much about me being in pain so it was best for him to not be there when I was in labor.

[mommydiva]

Early stages if during the day I don't think is a big deal but during the hard part and pushing I am not for it. But thats more just because of personal comfort levels then anything else.