[.Jessica.]

I need your thoughts, suggestions, help whatever you want to call it I need your input on my life right now haha.

So here is the dilemma, my husband has the crappiest job ever. He basically makes enough to pay our (one) house payment and our car payment. thats it and they dont even pay taxes out of it so we have to somehow come up with taxes. Everything else? well lets just say we owe alot of family members money.
Good news the problem is we have to decide betweent 2 jobs. And we are having the hardest time doing so. here is why pros and cons of both

JOB 1-
The pay is AMAZING!! Like in the 6 digits (which is really good for us) we could be completely out of debt in like a year. it has full beneifts, vacations, good insurance and awesome bonuses. The job pays for all costs (food, travel, board etc.)
Cons- the hours suck. there are two schedules he can choose from be gone for 10 days home for 7 or be gone 20 home for 10 and if he did the 20 day he would make even more. Also he could get stranded in the location due to blizzards. There is no cell service but they do have internet. Which is another con, because we have had trouble in the past with problems with porn. ugh. Also the people that he would be working with arent the greatest in religion...if you know what i mean.

JOB 2-
the pay is MUCH better than his job now but about half as job 1. We would be able to pay our bills and live comfortably with some money left over for debt etc. it has full benefits, great insurance, not so good vacation (you have to take it when no one else wants it. until you work your way up the ladder) the hours are good for me and the kids he would be home during the day..work 3am-11am
Cons- we would have to MOVE 14 hours away. somewhere ive never been, seen and know nothing about. I will have no friends or family. Also I would have to move us by myself while 6 months pregnant. Also it will cost us about 2000 dollars to move. and we dont have that kind of money yet.

So your probably saying thats an easy decision just go for job 1 but the problem is we havent heard back from the boss saying he has the job yet (just my BIL who works there and he said his boss said my husband has the job) And the other job (job2) is calling and saying he has to choose like now cause they have someone else who wants the job. WHAT DO WE DO?????

if you read all that thanks so much you ladies are great.

[mrsjl]

what does your gut say?

[Luvgreen19]

Is there anyway your DH can call job one and ask when they will be able to let him know?
Is the perks of more money worth DH being gone for up to 20 days at a time?
I have to admit the idea of being able to be debt free in a year is tempting. Would this job allow him to eventually not work all those crazy days away or at the very least set him up in his field for a different job down the road with better hours?

If it was temporary (and the porn thing wasn't an issue) I'd take job 1. You can do anything for awhile and being able to get out of debt would be so nice.
Plus you wouldn't have to move and moving terrifies me .

[.Jessica.]

My gut believe it or not say to move... but I dont WANT to.

He cant call cause they dont have cell phone service up there. I wish he could just call it would help so much.
I dont think I could handle the 20 days gone but I could do the 10 days gone.
And my DH had a plan to work there for a few years and get a good savings so he could quit and go to school and we could just live off the savings until he is done and then he could work where he really wanted.
I hate the big decisions in life.

[mrsjl]

I honestly can't help you decide. there are a lot of pros to the first one, but a major con too.

please let me know what you decide!

[sunshyne57]

Oh man, that's tough!

Is there one that he is favouring over the other?

I would be so tempted with the first one, although I wouldn't like hearing that the job is his through your brother-in-law. I'm sure he's not making it up, but I would be leery about it until I heard it from the bosses mouth.

14 hours away is HUGE. I don't think I would want to move that far away either. Then on the other hand, your kids would see their dad more, you would see your husband more, and there's a greater chance that he will be there with you when you have the baby. The no cell phone service thing would make me so nervous.

I'm not much help either, but I think if it were ME, I would go with the second option, especially since they want him to accept like yesterday.

Although your husbands plan of only staying there for a few years to save up enough money sounds wonderful too, if you would all be able to hang on for that long. It would be so nice to not have to worry if your bills are going to be paid month to month or not!

Ahhhh I'm torn for you. I just don't know. Sorry haha

[birdblue]

Gosh! What a tough decision....i would say to follow your gut, and go with #2, but it seems your husband prefers #1?

let us know what you decide!

I'm glad things are looking up for your family!!!

[KMH]

That is tough! I'm glad that you have options and that things are looking up either way.

I guess I'd lean towards #2. Sure you can do the other one for a while...but your kids are only young once. If he will miss most of their infant/toddler years, that would be tough on all of you! I am a military wife, so I guess my perspective on moving is different. We have been married 10.5 years and this is our 8th address...we currently live about 22 hours from our families. It is hard at first, but you adapt, make friends, and form your own little family. Start by finding a church and meeting your neighbors, and your circle will expand from there.

Good luck with whatever you decide!

[Juliebird18]

If he doesnt want either job as his life long career and plans to go to school then job one makes the most sense imo.

[M-n-MsMama0510]

I vote option 3!!! Forget 1 and 2 and look for something else all together lol in reality tho, I'd go with number 1 I think... :-/

[Jeanie915]

If it were me choosing I would say #2. It seems like you're going to have to sacrifice either way. Either with dh being gone or moving. Which can you live with? But would the extra money from #1 decrease some stress and make your lives a little easier? It's all about what is more important and what you can live with. Good luck. Please KUP.

[mommydiva]

Sure the money is nice, however the job is still pending in that you haven't exactly heard back from them. So to me I would take job 2.

However if job 1 is a real chance then I would probably go that way to get out of debt and have a nice chunk up of savings for fun and emergency built up.

For the porn issue could you set up a monitor program they have where you can monitor on yours but the program be on his. As far as the religious aspect I would be inclined to trust your husband to make the best choices. I know its not always ideal to be around those who don't share the same values and can be very hard at time with a personal fight. But it could be one of those things where you guys will be set for awhile. However if you both dont' feel comfortable with taking job 1 then do job 2 like I said money is nice but it often doesn't come without sacrifices.

[lala2007]

/T/*hat is really tough and I am sorry you and your family have to make such a tough decision. Pray about it. Deep down you both know which one will be good for the family. I am leaning towards job#2.

[Celine]

Tough choices. Personally, I would not want DH to be away for 10 or 20 days. Are you able to do everything by yourself w/o DH for that long? I know others can do it w/ SO in the military but I still think it's hard to do.

I would pick #2, b/c of the 10 - 20 days away from you w/ job #1. Hope you and DH can decide on the perfect job. Good luck.

[laisydaisymama]

My automatic answer is #2, a bird in the hand is worth 2 in the bush, and that's the job offer you have now, and it's a good one. take it and run with it!

[noworries]

I would hate having my husband gone for 10-20 days at a time so as much as it would suck to move, job #2 would be my preference.

[.Jessica.]

we have decided...we are going with number 2. mostly due to the fact that 2 men died last week on job numer 1. no amount of money is worth losing my dh. So he is leaving in a week eek.

[krislati]

Congratulations! I hope everything goes smoothly for you guys!