At different parts of the day I often find myself wondering what other parents do in similiar situations.

For example: We do extended rearfacing with Caleb. Yesterday we were driving for a few hours and Grace wanted a snack. I handed her some goldfish and of course Caleb saw them and wanted some. I was wondering..parents who are ERF, do you feed your toddler in the car? I gave him some fish but every second I was like, "Caleb, say Mama" because I was so scared he was going to choke.

If you could ask another parent a question about normal day activities what would you ask?

[Ally-Mac]

I feed her - snack type food. The food pouches are good too. She would scream bloody murder if I didn't. I keep a constant watch on her though.

the question I would ask is do you let your toddler cry? Sydney cries about everything - wants to be picked up, wants to be put down, wants a snack, wants her book cabinet open so she can get her books, wants to get over the gate, etc etc. It goes on and on. I can't run to her at every moment. I find I have to let her cry sometimes. I know some people are completely against crying but there is NO WAY I can get to her at every minute she cries. Lately, I find myself almost laughing because again she is crying for something. How do you deal with your toddler when they cry because they want something?

[sfarrow3]

Normally I don't feed London in the carseat, but there have been times when I had no choice. So really it just depends. Ally regarding crying London is always crying or whinning about something and I will let her cry. I'm not completely against crying with London because I know London. Heck sometimes both kids are crying at the same time about something or fighting...lol If she is hurting or in distress that is different. So basically for me it just depends on the situation.

My question is for ladies who have more than one child. How do you juggle the needs of both kids? For example Caden is 4 and has different needs than London. I try my best to spend one on one time with Caden, but it is so hard because normally they are both together.

[Daffodil]

I do let her eat snacks in the carseat sometimes...I try not to but if she is throwing a fit to eat something and I have to go I do. We have a mirror so I can see her.

She cries about everything sometimes too!! I really cannot wait until that stops but then I'm sure her asking and arguing about everything won't be fun either. So yeah, I'm not too intimidated about her crying/screeching/whatever.

[shockandawe]

I let her have snacks in the car seat occasionally, and watch her like a hawk the best I can. I have good hearing. I'm lucky like that.

I let her cry if I have to. I usually try to correct her and tell her Hey, not acceptable. That usually stops it mid wail depending on how bad it is. I've also used time outs, but she has to go in her crib for those to keep her contained...that's not working so well lately either - she's taken to chewing on the crib when she gets mad she's been put there for time out. So much for keeping it pristine for baby number 2!

I'd ask how they manage to inspire their kids to have more independence when they are this age? I find Maggie is pretty comfortable letting us do most things for her no matter how much we try to foster more independence. She's not determined to do anything on her own except talk for the most part. Not interested in the potty as anything more than a hat. She'll feed herself with utensils for a bit, then try to use her hands again - she's more than happy to let me take over the spoon though. She doesn't even proactively stand up so I can pull up her pants. Doesn't have to walk around in the stores - quite happy being pushed in a stroller. Still happy to be carried around whenever it's most convenient. She just seems "meh" about doing stuff on her own. Maybe I'm asking for trouble wishing she'd want to walk more or do more on her own though.

[Lilly Bella]

yes because she sits next to riley and in front of sierra.