Sleepovers for the LOs?

Celine · #1 January 27th, 2012, 03:50 PM

Have any of you had your LO sleep over at somebody else's house (w/o you)? If yes, how did it go?
If no, would you like to for some alone time w/ SO/DH?

We have not had Sophia sleep over w/o us. But we are working on it. We are sleeping over the inlaws once a month or so w/ Sophia, so that she gets used to grandma and grandpa and vice versa. The grandparents are still a little nervous about having her but they also would like to have her over w/o us one night.

Jule'sMomInOR · #2 January 27th, 2012, 04:21 PM

I have thought about it but considering she wakes up to nurse about 4X per night, I don't think it would go well. I would do this after she starts consistently STTN, which at this rate is going to be a couple more years.

Even then, our family is far away so it would only be once in a rare while. DH mentioned possibly doing this in December when we're visiting family and I told him I doubt we'll be ready but we'll see. Even then, I'd only want to leave her for one night and see how that goes and then think about a weekend.

Trish36 · #3 January 27th, 2012, 04:58 PM

not yet.

M-n-MsMama0510 · #4 January 27th, 2012, 05:01 PM

All the time lol I have no worries really & I trust everyone I've left her with. Its good for us.

shockandawe · #5 January 27th, 2012, 05:33 PM

Several times with my mom. I have no issue with it. I trust them implicitly. It's been a long while because my mom's health wasn't so good, but yes, I would definitely do it.

But the list of people I'd leave her with is pretty short, and it's only ever been for a night. I haven't been able to work myself up to leaving her longer...and DH and I have promised each other one vacation a year without kid(s)...we're way behind on making that a reality.

sfarrow3 · #6 January 27th, 2012, 05:36 PM

Ummm... Negative! Lol my oldest has spent the night with his granny (mil) on time and I was in the hospital having his sister...lol... I don't know if I'll ever be ok with sleepovers.... Maybe when their teenagers???? Lol

Quote:

Originally Posted by shockandawe

Several times with my mom. I have no issue with it. I trust them implicitly. It's been a long while because my mom's health wasn't so good, but yes, I would definitely do it.

But the list of people I'd leave her with is pretty short, and it's only ever been for a night. I haven't been able to work myself up to leaving her longer...and DH and I have promised each other one vacation a year without kid(s)...we're way behind on making that a reality.

Maybe if I did it more it would get easier and easier. How in the heck are we going to go on any type of weekend getaway????? Lol

noworries · #7 January 27th, 2012, 07:06 PM

No. Once he's not breastfeeding anymore he might stay the night with either my parents or my in-laws so we can have a date night and stay out late, etc.

TxgirlinKy · #8 January 28th, 2012, 04:58 AM

Yep...anytime that they will take him

We have done a couple of weekends out and pretty much anytime we want to go to a special event that keeps us out past his bedtime. He actually sleeps better for everyone else than he does for us. I have to travel a lot for my job anyway so I had to get used to it early on.

MamaAnna · #9 January 28th, 2012, 05:35 AM

No, I want my kids with me and not with somebody else. My oldest wasn't allowed to stay over at my mom's until she was 5-6 years old and has only slept at a cousin's once when she was older than that. Then it was only because DH had surgery that day. I'd love a date with DH, but I love having my kids around more. He understands that and feels the same way.

mommydiva · #10 January 28th, 2012, 08:10 AM

If we lived local to my parents we would. But since we don't then it don't happen. My list would be very short at the moment that I would allow.

mrsjl · #11 January 28th, 2012, 09:03 AM

this might get long.

I don't like leaving my kids with anyone. the first time my daughter slept over somewhere without us was when she was 21 months old and DH and I got married. it was HARD to leave her. over the next year, she stayed over a few times. not many. not even a year after her first sleepover, the baby was born. she stayed away from home for 3 nights while we were in the hospital. when we went to pick her up, MIL mentioned that she cried herself to sleep. it was all I could do to keep it together. I said "she cried herself to sleep? why didn't you tell us? Chris could have gone home with her, we didn't want her to be upset" and then MIL tried to brush it off, saying she only cried for a few minutes. all of her sleepovers up to the birth of our son had been at my in-laws. she hasn't slept over there alone since.

since then, she has had a sleepover at my cousin's house (my cousin has a little girl just a year older than Rebecca) and I trusted her to stay there completely, they already have a little girl and I like the way they raise her so I knew it would be fine. she has also stayed one night at DH's grandparents house because she begged to go, and she was almost 4 so I knew she would be okay and I told them to tell me if she was even a little upset and I would come get her. Nathan has been away over night one time, and Rebecca was with him. they stayed with my parents, and DH and I were at a friend's house just 5 minutes away. the main reason we let them stay was because neither child had ever slept over there before, and I knew they had been waiting a long time (4 years!) for a sleepover. plus, we were just down the road.

I am comfortable letting her sleep over at my in-law's again, she has been great with being away from home. any sleepover without us though (anywhere) will be a one night thing, not three.

I'd like to add, don't get the wrong idea about my in-laws, they didn't not call to be mean, they knew we were in the hospital with the baby so they just dealt with it.

Irish_Wristwatch · #12 January 29th, 2012, 05:46 PM

No, i dont even like leaving my kids to run to the store i couldnt imagine being away from them all night

CutlassDiva · #13 January 29th, 2012, 07:10 PM

Wyatt spend the night at a good friend of mines house once....he had a great time and her two kids loved having a little guy in the house to play with...

I<3HelloKitty · #14 January 29th, 2012, 07:31 PM

Ellie has spent the night at our house with my mother so that we could help BIL move and a couple times she has spent the night at DH's parents so that he and I could go out with friends or have some time alone. We are still breastfeeding, but she does ok without me overnight and she just gets cows milk in a bottle if she wakes up in the night with them and then she goes right back to sleep.

shockandawe · #15 January 30th, 2012, 05:46 AM

I understand how hard it is to leave them, and I struggle with more than 1 night too...But I also feel that once in a while some space like that makes us better parents, and helps to keep us grounded. And helps to give her the freedom to get a little special loving time in with Grandma and Grandpa. I have such a special bond with my Grandma, and I so want that for her too.

.Jessica. · #16 January 30th, 2012, 07:44 AM

nope.

mrsjl · #17 January 30th, 2012, 07:55 AM

my one worry about not letting me kids go very far without me is that one day when THEY have kids I won't ever get to spend one-on-one time with my grandchildren. I am such a hypocrite, I want my kids all to myself but when they have kids, I want them to share them with me. ha.

Irish_Wristwatch · #18 January 30th, 2012, 07:58 AM

lol Lori im the same way, id be devastated if my kids dont let me keep my grandkids alone.

Celine · #19 January 30th, 2012, 10:09 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mrsjl

my one worry about not letting me kids go very far without me is that one day when THEY have kids I won't ever get to spend one-on-one time with my grandchildren. I am such a hypocrite, I want my kids all to myself but when they have kids, I want them to share them with me. ha.

I wasn't thinking that far but you make a good point. It is nice for the grandparents to get to know their grandchildren (if they live close by of course- my parents live in England - makes it hard to get to know them).

I didn't want to leave Sophia w/ my parents-in-law or anybody when Sophia was under 1 years old. But now that Sophia can do more I am much more comfortable. I totally understand not wanting to leave your child w/ somebody. The worry just doesn't go away.

sfarrow3 · #20 January 30th, 2012, 10:20 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mrsjl

my one worry about not letting me kids go very far without me is that one day when THEY have kids I won't ever get to spend one-on-one time with my grandchildren. I am such a hypocrite, I want my kids all to myself but when they have kids, I want them to share them with me. ha.

You do make a great point. I never thought about it from a grandparent's perspective.