[audiesmommy]

has anyone had trouble leaving there children. me and my df have not bin out together since befor she was born. we will go out and leave her with each other but nether of us feel comfortable leaving her with anyone else. i feel like are relationship it taking a hit bye us not having dinner or something alone, but im so afraid to leave her any ideas on how to make this easier? shes are only child and it s18m is it just because its are first? then again i grew up never having a sitter.

[I<3HelloKitty]

Do you have any family nearby that could watch her? I've pretty much only ever left her with her grandparents or her aunt, though for a while, one day a week while I was at work, I had to leave her with a friend of my SIL. After a while she started going to a home daycare, but yes, at first it was really hard to trust someone else to watch her.

[audiesmommy]

my mom is 2 states away and hasint bin in my life since i was 10, my dad and step mom have 4 kids between the ages of 3 and 13 at his house plus hes 62 so i feel bad putting another child on them for any time but they offer alot. my inlaws drive us crazy they allways want to take her but me and my df dont think that they wont fallow are rules with her like timeout and stuff. my sister i love her to death but shes not to good with babys she great with kids if audie was 3 or 4 i would have no issue with her taking her but for now i dn. i have a few friends with kids but they all work and im there babysitter so i feel bad putting a child on them after they worked. plus what if audie crys for me and im not there or if she gets realy hurt. im a vary over paranoid person my poor df heres the weridist things from me i wake up and check to make sure noone had taken my daughter like 3 times a night. i no i sound crazy lol. i do leave her at the gym daycare but they have a camra so i can check up on her while working out and she loves it there and is so good and dosint even care when i drop her off so i no she will be ok but still ugh!

[I<3HelloKitty]

If your dad offers and you trust him to take care of her, I'd take advantage of that, if even for a short time once in a while. Grandparents love spending time with their grandbabies and I love the bond that Ellie has with hers because she spends time with them. If you have a cell phone, just make sure they have the number or leave the number of the restaurant if you're going to dinner. Then if there's an emergency, they can call you. I really do believe it's important to have time with your SO just the two of you, even if it's rare.