Am I a mean mom for this?

krsnow · #1 May 5th, 2012, 12:18 PM

I have had a hard time switching my LO from a bottle to a sippy for milk. I have tried twice in the past and gave up after 2 days because I was worried he wasn't getting enough fluids. He literally takes 1 sip and then refuses to drink anymore. On wed, my LO got sick with a fever & vomiting. I had him on a limited diet of course, with no milk. He improved a lot yesterday, and is completely back to normal today. Since he survived just fine with water and little bits of pedialyte, I decided to try taking away his bottles again. I was thinking that the 2 days of him being sick with no bottles was kind of a head start and that I should continue, but does this make me a mean mom? Since he was sick and all, I feel bad because I know how much he wants that bottle. I gave him milk in a sippy this morning for the first time since being sick and he got really upset, cried and whined a lot and is refusing to drink it. I am starting to wonder if he even cares about drinking milk or if he just wants to suck on his bottle. Any advice would be appreciated!

audiesmommy · #2 May 5th, 2012, 01:00 PM

when audie was a few days over 1 years old i went threw the same thing! she wouldnt drink formula out of a cup!. for me it was a matter of finding the right cup for her. i wont use the cups with the smushy tops because i thnk they are to much like a bottle after buying a few cups. my freind gave her a cheep one ( take a toss cups) she loves it. i just took the bottle then and got them out of my house and never looked back 2 or 3 days of whinnyness and it was gone. you are not a bad mom at all for this i have had so many freinds do what you are doing.

now she will drink out of whatever cup but has her favs. he wont not drink if hes that thirsy he will drink. audie hates drinking water she will give me so many problems but if shes that thirsty she will. i hope thats help a little

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HeartHelloKitty · #3 May 5th, 2012, 01:42 PM

We ended up using the take and toss cups too. We started out with the straws rather than the sippy spouts. Maybe give that a try?

shockandawe · #4 May 6th, 2012, 09:02 AM

No this doesn't make you a mean mom, it makes you a smart mom!

He'll figure this out if you give him the chance. Trust yourself, and take the opportunities when they present themselves. He can get dairy in a hundred ways. It doesn't always have to be from milk. A few days of dealing with this will not hurt him, and he will eventually come around.

KMH · #5 May 6th, 2012, 09:10 AM

When I took Claire's bottles away, she whined and didn't drink much milk for a couple of days. She gradually got used to it and now drinks milk from her sippys just fine. He'll get used to this new "normal," so I'd take advantage of this opportunity!

mommydiva · #6 May 6th, 2012, 05:39 PM

He will get used to it. I wouldn't give in to giving the bottle back. You may have to supplement dairy in other forms but eventually if that is all that is offered he will come around and take it.

sfarrow3 · #7 May 7th, 2012, 08:08 AM

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Originally Posted by mommydiva

He will get used to it. I wouldn't give in to giving the bottle back. You may have to supplement dairy in other forms but eventually if that is all that is offered he will come around and take it.

Ditto!

krsnow · #8 May 7th, 2012, 12:56 PM

Thanks for all the advice, I really need to stay strong with this. This is day 3 of him whining and having temper tantrums because of no bottle and he may have taken 2 sips this entire day. This is actually day 5 of no milk because he had the flu for 2 days. I just wish I knew how much longer this is going to take, I can't listen to the whining any more!! A friend of mine told me she just took away milk completely for about 2 months and afterwards her son would finally drink out of the cup, but he doesn' drink it every day. She feels that the calcium should come from other sources anyway. I understand this but I know my LO isn't going to eat the right amount of other sources, so I really want him to have his milk!

KatieHeitman · #9 May 7th, 2012, 04:53 PM

It took both my boys about a week to get used to their sippy cups. DS1 liked the ones with straws and after a few weeks we got rid of the straw sippy cups.

HeartHelloKitty · #10 May 8th, 2012, 05:54 AM

We used the straw cups for a really long time but now we have the spout ones. Our challenge right now is learning to drink from a cup with no lid.

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krsnow · #11 May 9th, 2012, 11:40 AM

It is now day 5 of no bottle, and day 7 of no milk (since he was sick with the flu for 2 days I took away is milk & started offering the sippy of milk on Saturday morning). He is still not drinking!! I thought I was going to have good luck with the straw cups because he seems to like holding them and playing with the straw as opposed to the regular sippy cup that he wont even touch unless he sees water in it. Yesterday he held the straw cup for a long time while watching tv, then later I opened it to find that he didn't drink anything out of it. I am just getting fed up with the whole thing. I am trying my best to supplement with lots of yogurt & cheese but I really don't know if he is getting enough milk replacements.

shockandawe · #12 May 9th, 2012, 12:20 PM

Try giving him his milk at mealtimes in a big kid cup. Skip the sippy part, and give it to him with no lid. Maybe that will work. Means a bigger mess, but gets you moved on from where you were!

krsnow · #13 May 11th, 2012, 11:36 AM

Well I'm embarrassed to tell you all this, but today is day 7 of no bottle and I gave in this morning and gave my LO a bottle. He woke up at 5:30 this morning and was crabby & crying and there was nothing that I or DH could do to make him happy. He acted like he was hungry but when we tried to feed him he would flip out and have a melt down. I just keep thinking that the cold turkey thing isn't working for him. I have no idea what to do to fix this. For now I am planning on only giving him a bottle in the mornings since that is when he wants it the most. He doesn't really act up at lunch or dinner so I am going to continue pushing the sippy cup at those times. Today at lunch he took 3 sips out of a straw cup with milk and that was it. So Im guessing I will have to get used to supplementing with other sources of calcium during the day and can only count on him drinking 8 oz of milk every morning. I don't think he is ever going to come around and drink milk out of a cup.

Please let me know if you think I screwed up big time on this, should I have given it a few more days?? It has been 7 days with no bottle, and actually 9 days of no milk (because he was sick with flu for 2 days).

Thanks for your advice! Be honest, I wont be offended

austlanabmv · #14 May 12th, 2012, 05:49 AM

I guess I have no wonderful advice on this topic. Wyatt drinks his bottle at bed time and first thing in the morning. Sometimes I make him a sippy cup of milk earlier if I remember. Wyatt will drink from a sippy cup and from my cup though. You will eventually be able to get it from him. Just depends how much it bothers you really? Every child is different, when he is grown no one will be able to tell who got rid of the bottle at 2 rather than 1 .