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This morning while I was showering and getting ready to go with some friends to a bridal show, I realized for the first time in the recent past at least (we're talking practically since high school) I feel like I have a social life (even more so than high school. In high school it was just my church youth group. Though there was a brief amount of time in my adult life when we had one other couple friend in town that we would hang out with).
On Wednesdays we have a couple (actually the couple that's getting married that I'm going to the bridal show for) that comes over for dinner. And then we also have other times that we get together with them, or other friends, to eat at other times or just to hang out and talk or go see movies.
And I realized this morning, if you have kids it's gotta be harder to get out and do things like this. So, how do you do it? Does it just require a lot more planning? Do you just bring the kids along? Or does it all just go away and you don't bother most of the time if at all?
All our friends are really excited and rooting for us to have a baby. But I just wonder how much we'll be able to still do things once we have one.
we dont have a baby yet, but one of my best friends has a 19 month old son and they are still as social as ever. they just bring ryan with them if there isn't going to be any drinking or as long as we don't plan on going anywhere that he wouldnt be allowed (a casino for example)...we will do the same with brylie. they leave ryan with one of his grandmas every friday night in the summer and they play coed bar volleyball and then go out and it's their one night a week for them. i guess we are lucky that sam's parents live 5 miles away and are dying for the first night we let her spend the night, and both of their families live within 15 minutes of them, so we have easy access to free babysitting.
i definitely think since your friends are so supportive of you guys having a baby they will be fine with you bringing the LO along! It adds dynamic to the group! and who can resist a cute little baby to hold while you watch a movie together
December 9, 2013
5:20PM 8lb3oz 20.5"
Hospital water birth
I have to say I really don't have a balance I did when Caleb was younger, but he is three now which means he is far more hyper and much less likely to be able to sit still for dinner for long or much else and he does throw some pretty fierce tantrums, me an my best friend used to go shopping together, and we have not done that for about a year, partly because Caleb is so crazy and partly because she has two little ones of her own, i do find it hard to have time with friends at this stage.
Sorry to be a downer, it's totally worth it though, I get so busy with him that i rarely miss the things I had to change, and I am sure when he is older and this baby is older that I will get some of my social life back.
Things do change, but that's part of life. And IMO, it changes for the best. Jason and I used to go out quite a bit with some friends of ours, but now that we have kids, we don't seem them as often. I have one friend who has a son the same age as Wyatt, and we used to get together until I had Carlie. Now we see each other about every other month. For us, though, going out with friends isn't as much of a priority. Jason works fulltime, and when he's home, he prefers to just be home with the kids and spend time with them. We still have friends and we still go out with and without the kids, but just not as often. Fortunately for us, we have family and they are always willing to watch the kids. My parents pratically beg us to go out. And honestly, when we do have a night without the kids, we just want to spend quality time just the two of us so we can reconnect and focus on our marriage.