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September 1st, 2010, 09:41 AM
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If you are WTTC, what are you waiting on? Are you waiting on testing or a diagnosis, waiting to be emotionally ready, timing, etc?

I'm WTTC until next year. I'm not at all emotionally ready to add another child to our family or to go down the scary pregnancy path. Even though I was able to have Grace, I feel that it's still possible that she was a fluke. I still only made it to 34 weeks and my body had started shutting down on my several weeks before that.
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September 1st, 2010, 10:04 AM
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I'm WTTC on 2 things :

* Emotional readiness. I've had 3 losses, and all of my pregnancies ended before I even reached the time of my first due date which is November 9th. I need time to grieve, really reflect on what has happened and I'm just not ready. 3 losses in a 6-month timespan is too much for me. So I'm waiting at least until April 2d 2011

* Diagnosis. I know it can take awhile to get an actual diagnosis, despite having a lot of test results already showing that something is wrong. I want to have a well-thought-out treatment plan, all-cards-on-table pregnancy next time. As much as possible anyway.


How did you know that you were ready to TTC again after Sophie, or was Grace a wonderful surprise?
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September 1st, 2010, 10:25 AM
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I'm waiting, not by choice ...I need to get retested for lupus anticoag 12 weeks after my first test, so i'm thinking the begining of November...I'm also still having problems with my bleeding artery in my uterus...who knows when that's going to heal...I'm actually not sure I can TTC ever again...Even if the artery heals, I guess I should give it a little time before I get pregnant again...I'm hoping that i'll be able to TTC in December.
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September 1st, 2010, 12:10 PM
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I'm WTTC on 2 things :

* Emotional readiness. I've had 3 losses, and all of my pregnancies ended before I even reached the time of my first due date which is November 9th. I need time to grieve, really reflect on what has happened and I'm just not ready. 3 losses in a 6-month timespan is too much for me. So I'm waiting at least until April 2d 2011

* Diagnosis. I know it can take awhile to get an actual diagnosis, despite having a lot of test results already showing that something is wrong. I want to have a well-thought-out treatment plan, all-cards-on-table pregnancy next time. As much as possible anyway.


How did you know that you were ready to TTC again after Sophie, or was Grace a wonderful surprise?

Well, Sophie was my 2nd loss, and we got pregnant again 4 months later. That also ended in MC. I think I wanted to try that 3rd time to prove that I could have a baby. When that failed, I quit in my heart. DH deployed soon after for 15 months to Iraq, so it wasn't an option to TTC anyways. But I was convinced I would never, ever put myself through the fear of pregnancy again.

When DH came home from deployment he wanted to start trying again right away, but I just couldn't. 3 months later he finally wore me down and I agreed to NTNP. I just couldn't go through the charting, obsessing, etc again. 2 weeks after I agreed to NTNP, I got pregnant with Grace.

That time off from worrying about babies really did help me heal. I also lost that obsession to PROVE to myself that I could do it. I was a little more easy going in my pregnancy with Grace, which might have helped. But it was also the first pregnancy that I was on baby asprin and progesterone, and I'm convinced that's why I was able to keep her in for 34 weeks.

Big hugs Lex, and you too Megan! I know how heartbreaking and scary of a journey it is. All I can tell you is that when you give your heart time to heal a little, you'll be able to think more clearly about trying again. It's definitely not something you have to figure out now. I love you guys!
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September 2nd, 2010, 06:33 AM
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Lex,

For me, after losing Gwen, I was convinced I was done forever. After about 3 months (about the time I found JM) I decided I felt strong enough to try again. After the loss of Aiden, we waited a year (til I could get insurance) and started testing. After the testing, I thought we had found our cause, ttc again, conceived Jillian, only to lose her right away. At that point my OB told me that he wanted me to try clomid, so we didn't even wait a single cycle after her loss to try again.
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September 7th, 2010, 11:21 AM
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I am waiting and praying that DH will have a change of heart. I desperately want another baby, however DH just won't entertain the idea. He is more scared than me to go through another loss. I don't want to put my family through the pain again .
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September 7th, 2010, 12:16 PM
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I'm having a similar problem Jessi. I know how heartbreaking it can be to not have your husband on board. Big hugs to you!
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January 26th, 2011, 08:09 PM
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We are wttc per doctors order for a year due to 3 losses in 8 months. Want to but I think maybe we shall listen to the doctor to prevent another devastating end to a pregnancy.
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January 27th, 2011, 07:51 AM
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mommysbabybear sometimes waiting can be so healing. I didn't believe it, but its been 11 months since our last loss and honestly I am in such a better place than I was last time we had a loss and then TTCAL. I think a break is good for the body and the soul. I hope you can find out what is going on and have a successful pregnancy next time.
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