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My mom is the most important person in my life, sans DH and I value her opinion more than most anyone's. The problem is, she HATES the name we have picked out for this baby if it's a boy. Now I'm not one to name my child just to please others and while it does bother me that she doesn't like the name, it doesn't bother me near enough to not name him that. At the end of the day, he's my child and it's my decision so whether or not she likes it enough doesn't matter.
What I want to know is is it as horrible as she says it is or is she just stuck in the 80's? I suppose you'll have to hear the name to answer lol! It's Gideon Archer Ray Hemphill. DH and I both like the name Gideon and feel like it's a strong masculine name that will grow well. Originally, he was just going to have Ray as a middle name in honor of DHs late grandfather, but I particularly hate it so suggested Archer.
What do you ladies think, y'all always have good sound advice so I know I can trust ya
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The hard fact about the baby's name is that you are making this choice for a person who cannot choose for themselves, your baby. I believe that it is your choice to make that decision with your husband, not your mother's choice. However because you are so close to her and she will around your child for his whole life you might want to consider her feelings on this. If the issue is that her name style is stuck in 80's then you can disreguard her issue as a style issue.
In my case my relationship with my mother is very strained. Even though I am not close to her, I won't do something rude like name my baby Mark Story which me and my Dh think is a beautiful, family name because it is the name of my great grandfather who molested my mother.
I guess what I am saying is that you are making the choice for your baby's name that they will use forever so even though technically nobody else has a say you should concider other's feeling in your decision making.
Personally I really like the name you have pick and I could see my DH liking it as well.
I think you need to think about which one would be harder for you. For me personally...if I knew my mother HATED the name then it would be hard for me. But on the other hand I would be upset that we would have to change a name that both me and DH love. I would give your mom time to get used to it. Its not a classic normal name, so it may take some time. But I would stick to my guns and stay with the name you love! Once she hold Gideon, she will be in love. PLUS...it may be a girl, so I would wait until you find the gender and stick to your guns!!!
ps...when we told my In-Laws they didn't like the names but they weren't normal/traditional but now they like them or at least there cool with them Keep you head Up
I agree with Nicole. My mom doesn't like one of the girls names we have picked out for the twins but.... I can't care... All I can care about is naming my child the best name I can. Names determine personality and you know (because he/she is inside of you and comes from you) who this child will be. If you think that should be your child's name, then that's what it should be! Your mother will get over it and love her grandchild no matter what he/she is named, but you only get one chance to name him/her correctly and with something you like.
I love the name btw..
Good luck.
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I've actually never heard it before but I love unique names! It's definitely a good strong name for a baby boy =)
The only problem with unique names is that most people need to let it grow on them. I think with time she may get used to the name after a while. But then again my mother and I are very close and originally our girl name was going to be Madison Everlee but my mom hated Everlee and suggested Ever which I ended up liking better
I guess it's up to what you can deal with, but I really think it could grown on her!
I agree with all that was said. Especially Nichole. You are right, I'm naming a person that can't name himself.
I know that given time she will come around and will end up loving the name. I just wanted to know if it wsa a name worth coming around to. I've never known a Gideon before so I don't know how it looks on a person.
Thanks for the input!
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Kat, mom to handsome Gideon, wife to hunky sailor Heath, welcomed baby Ariella Elise into the world on July 6
When we told my parents that we were thinking of Asher for our 2nd son, all they could say was how much they hated it. It was horrible. I know they will hate the girl's name we have picked out so I am just not going to tell them.
I say go with what you want and don't let other people tell you what to name him/her. Better yet, just don't tell anyone what you have picked out. You'll have far less people to poo on your parade if you wait until after they are born to share the name. That is our plan this time around. I LOVE the girl's name we have picked out and I just don't want to hear other people's negativity.
I LOVE the name Gideon. It was actually on my list, but DH nixed it just for his personal taste. I don't think it's 80's at all and I think it is a very strong name that speaks intelligence and ability
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Like you said, bottom line is it's your baby and you get to name him. I am sure she will come around anyways once she get's use to it. My mother made it hard for me for all of my kids but now she can't imagine them with any other name and loves their names. Oh and to also add, yes she hates the names I have picked for this baby whether it be a boy or girl, but I was expecting it. She was making all these suggestions, it's like she wants to name the baby. She hated the name my brother and his wife picked for their baby too but now she is fine with it.
I think it's really cool and really unique!!! I loved my mom lots too but she was horrified when she found out we weren't going to circ our son....and even though it was hard for me to know she was upset about it - i knew that i was making the right choice for our family - and no matter what she would still love our son, even if she didn't agree wit hour choice. And she did love our son soooo much - and after our initial talk about it - and her trying to recruit my sister to sway me - when i stood my ground she didn't bring it up ever again. Not only do i feel proud of myself, I felt more confident about the decision i made because it was for our family not for her, or another individual. I think you and your hubby need to go with what YOU like and what YOU want - it's your baby. She got to pick your name - now you get to pick your kiddo's - and she'll love that baby all the same! I know it's hard to stick up to the mama - but you can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I agree with the pp....I just wanted to say that I LOVE the name Gideon, particularly with the middle names you picked out! It is so unique and flows perfectly together!
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I love the name you picked out! Of course, I've always loved the story of Gideon in the Bible and it's been on my faves list since I was a girl.
About your mom's opinion; my mom did not like the name we picked out for my son but she had the good grace not to say anything. When he was about a year old we were shocked when she said "You know, I really didn't like R's name at first and now I just love it! I can't imagine a better name for him." I could have said almost the exact same thing about my niece Noelani. I just hated it then, but now(even though I still don't 'like' it)it really suits my niece. Of course, I'm happy I never said anything to my brother and his wife about the name.
So yeah, it's your choice and I'm sure that everyone will not only get used to it, but will eventually come to appreciate and maybe even love your choice!
I think it does sound like a nice, strong name, but I think you also have to take into account ANY names that he may be called in school by other kids that are trying to be mean.....
I am a teacher, and I had a student named Gideon and all the other kids called him "Giddy Up"
I know that's something you can't avoid, but it's the FIRST thing that crossed my mind when I saw the name......
If it's any consolation, my mom doesn't like our second girl name "Leilani"......she said it sounds like a stripper name
I was SO OFFENDED when she told me that, that I sarcastically told me that if that's how she felt then she could buy a pole to keep at her house.....my mom immediately shut her mouth b/c she knew she had ticked me off.....
I agree with the girls, she had her chance to name her babies and you should too! I personally like the name you picked, I love boys names that end in 'n'. And Gideon is unique. This is why I have not told anyone (except you ladies here our name choices because I just can't take the critics. And once the baby is here and named, there is not much anyone can say about it even if they don't like it! That's how I see it.
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I think it does sound like a nice, strong name, but I think you also have to take into account ANY names that he may be called in school by other kids that are trying to be mean.....
I am a teacher, and I had a student named Gideon and all the other kids called him "Giddy Up"
I know that's something you can't avoid, but it's the FIRST thing that crossed my mind when I saw the name......
If it's any consolation, my mom doesn't like our second girl name "Leilani"......she said it sounds like a stripper name
I was SO OFFENDED when she told me that, that I sarcastically told me that if that's how she felt then she could buy a pole to keep at her house.....my mom immediately shut her mouth b/c she knew she had ticked me off.....
Good luck hunnie
My daughter's name is Kaia Leilani and my hubby's friends(more than one) said it sounded like a "black stripper" I have no idea what that means at all! I was offended and then I remembered the source(no offense meant to anyone, this is a direct quote) Leilani is a Hawaiian name, don't know how it gets construed as stripper? It means heavenly flower for goodness sake!
I personally don't care for it..but its your baby not mine. I do like to go for names you wouldn't hear every time you go to the store or every time you turn around someone else has that same name. The only Gideon I have ever heard of is on Criminal Minds. I'd say go for it if that is what you want. Its YOUR baby!
Go for what and your DH like best! It doesn't really matter what other people think. I know its annoying when peopke don't like it...we all seek approval. I personally wouldn't use Gideon myself, its not my style. But I think it is very masculine, I imagine a fighter/strong guy!
I don't get the stripper thing either!! We actually picked that name because DH's sisters' names are Lilah and Meilani...so it's a combo of the two....I think it is a BEAUTIFUL name and my Mama knows that if we end up with TWO girls, that there is NOTHING she can do to change my mind about Leilani...I LOVE IT!!!
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My daughter's name is Kaia Leilani and my hubby's friends(more than one) said it sounded like a "black stripper" I have no idea what that means at all! I was offended and then I remembered the source(no offense meant to anyone, this is a direct quote) Leilani is a Hawaiian name, don't know how it gets construed as stripper? It means heavenly flower for goodness sake!
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