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I went out to eat tonight with my childhood best friend (A), her sister (L) and a few friends of theres. While we were there A's sister, L asked to hold Gideon. I said sure! L and I used to work together so we knew each other "pretty" well. Gideon was grabbing on everything in sight and trying to put it in his mouth (as do the large majority of 5mo olds). L says, "Oh poor baby! He's so hungry". (He wasn't. I fed him in the car before we went into the restaurant.) She then proceeds to slice off the crust from a piece of pizza and PUT IT IN MY CHILD'S HAND TO GNAW ON. I grabbed it out of his hand and said "L, he isn't even 5 months old yet. He can't have that"!!!!!!
L: "Oh, yes he can! It won't hurt him".
Me: "I don't want that in my child's mouth. So don't give it to him!"
(Up until this point it's very light hearted and no one is talking loudly or anything like that)
Then....... She tries to give him mac & cheese. That's when I start getting upset. I say (again) "L, he isn't hungry for one. Secondly, he doesn't eat that stuff HE'S 4.5 MONTHS OLD!!!!"
L & A: "Your child is going to be so spoiled."
Me: "1.His stomach is not mature enough to handle that stuff. 2. We are establishing healthy eating habits and giving pizza to an infant is not healthy. 3. I am his mother and I decide what he will and will not eat"
IT GETS WORSE
L orders a Sprite ("for the baby", she says).
Me: "He's not drinking Sprite"
L, ignoring me, get some Sprite in the straw and puts it in my child's ****ing mouth. I am beyond livid now. I grab the straw, throw it down, grab my child, say "you can pay for my meal, I am leaving" and do just that. WHO in their right mind would go to that extreme??? What kind of people are they??????? I'm just so mad right now. There was butter, garlic, pepper and who knows what else on that pizza crust. I don't want my infant having those things. I was shaking when I got into my car I was so mad.
She said that her daughter started eating chocolate ice cream when she was 4 months. I didn't say (but desperately wanted to) "Your daughter is obese, just like EVERY SINGLE OTHER PERSON IN YOUR FAMILY". She has 3 brothers and 2 sisters and not a single one of them weighs less than 350 pounds. Honest to God. Her dad died last year from complications of being enormously overweight. Obesity is a problem in America and they wonder why I'm not giving my child pizza? Give me a freaking break.
ETA: ALSO, she told me that if I am pregnant now something WILL be wrong with my child because she had a friend who had kids "too close to each other" and her second was born at 25 weeks with cerebral palsy because of it. I don't even think I need to tell you what is wrong with this statement...
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Last edited by kemper2.0; February 4th, 2011 at 08:55 PM.
Oh girl! Im vivid reading this. You have are a better person than me, I would have probably punched her in the face!! URGHH, Im so angry for you!! Did they call you or text you after you left??
OMG, Kat! You are so RIGHT in doing what you did to protect Gideon. Holy cow, he could have gotten sick from that stuff! People like that wonder why they are so fat, gee I wonder, and they don't give it a second thought to spread the disease. Granted, I'm overweight, but... I KNOW HOW I GOT HERE and I don't want my kids to see food as I do! God.
Good for you for standing up for the health of your family. They sound like ignorant people.
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NOPE! Haven't heard from then since! and probably won't because they aren't the type of people to admit when they are wrong and apologize. Not that they are even smart enough to know they did anything wrong.
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Kat, mom to handsome Gideon, wife to hunky sailor Heath, welcomed baby Ariella Elise into the world on July 6
Oh my goodness!!!!! I am LIVID for you!! The second you asked her nicely to not give him pizza crust (which, by the way, what!?!), she should have known better than to even consider giving him ANYTHING else.
I can't believe she gave him Sprite! Gah! That's just crazy.
Omg!!!!! I want to type a response but i know JM will replace it with "****************"! W-T-H! I for one am very proud of the way you reacted a lot of people would have stayed seated. Talk about a thick headed girl sheesh!
OMG!!! I can't believe they ignored your MANY requests for them not to offer Gideon anything!! You're his mama... what you say GOES. I'm proud of you for putting your foot down. The nerve of some people
Ok, first of all, BESIDES the fact that any one of those foods could have an allergic component in it for a baby, HE COULD CHOKE ON ANY OF THEM AS WELL!!!! Hello?!?! He doesn't have teeth! He doesn't have a mature chewing pattern yet!! There are so many things wrong with that whole story I can't even begin to comprehend. You are beyond right for getting the heck out of there when you did. I am so sorry there are such stupid people in the world. You should not have had to deal with that, and YOU are the one who should be making all the choices about what goes into his body, not them.
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OMG I am speechless! That is insane. Let alone the fact that it is soooo wrong for the baby to have that kind of food this young, that shouldnt even matter. You are his mother and you said NO! End of story! I can't believe they disrespected you like that. And what they said about getting pregnant now, I can't believe that people actually believe that stuff and that someone would have the nerve to say that to someone who is trying to get pregnant and may even be pregnant already. Truthfully I think you are better off without these 2 in your life. Honestly, my blood is boiling just reading your story!!
Yay for you for making your point clear, standing your ground, and leaving them with the bill! They sound like ignorant and incredibly insensitive people. If someone says things like "something will be wrong with your baby" to you and refuses to listen to you about your own child then I wouldn't be around them.
What an awful dinner! I'm so sorry but you did the right thing.
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Oh my goodness!!!!! I am LIVID for you!! The second you asked her nicely to not give him pizza crust (which, by the way, what!?!), she should have known better than to even consider giving him ANYTHING else. 
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Yay for you for making your point clear, standing your ground, and leaving them with the bill! They sound like ignorant and incredibly insensitive people. If someone says things like "something will be wrong with your baby" to you and refuses to listen to you about your own child then I wouldn't be around them.
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