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Ryker lost 4 pounds between January and April. I told ya'll about that. Well, the last 4 weeks we've been trying to offer him all sorts of things. Lots of things he can carry. I used all of your ideas. He's just totally uninterested. He eats better at daycare, we think because he's watching the other kids eat. Here, he'll barely eat a bite.
So today he went back for his one month checkup to see if he's gained any. He hasn't gained even an ounce. Still 23 pounds 11 ounces exactly. She labeled him failure to thrive in his chart. Wants us to offer him pediasure a few times a day. (Which is one thing we haven't been doing). She gave him a med we're to give him just after daycare that is supposed to increase his appetite, and she wants us to force him to sit in his high chair for dinner. (Another thing we've not been doing)
She wants to see him again in 2 weeks and reassess. She's thinking of sending him to a gastrointestinal doc and doing lots more tests.
We used the med for the first time this evening and he ate like a champ. Way more than we've ever seen him eat. Probably, 1/2 a cup of baked chicken, a couple tablespoons of rice, a cheese stick, a pudding, and half a banana.
Here's my thoughts. I just don't feel like this is a medical problem. He runs and plays ALLLLLLL day long. It's not like he doesn't have tons of energy. He doesn't look skinny. I still feel like he's just not a big eater (which I want to encourage), and I feel like he's just too busy. If it's something he really loves he'll eat it. If it's new or he's not that into it, he'd rather be destroying something. I can get him to eat string cheese and pudding no problem.
I feel like I'd really prefer not to pursue a medical problem. I feel like we need to continue to work on encouraging him to eat. I'd like to start offering the pediasure a few times a day, and I'm going to make him sit at the table with us. Really press him to focus on eating with us.
I don't know. What are your thoughts? Am I being irresponsible by not dragging him to a dr to do bloodwork and xrays?
good old FTT..... I wouldnt feel bad not getting the test done right away... I would try making him sit in the highchair to eat, as well as leaving out snacks.... I would try the drink of a bit to see if that helps. If you are not apposed to the meds and the work that is good. I personally would try the meds for a month (since he looks and acts healthy) ... if the increased food intake = increased weight than I wouldnt be so conserned with the absorbtion of the food (hope that made some sense)
I also agree that being so active can cause them to stall out it weight.... Gavin gained 4oz between almost 7 months -1 year.... since a year I think he has gained 6 pounds.... they all grow in their own time. if it make syou feel any better he stills weighs more than Gavin
I think you are very reasonable. I was even surprised that children get medicine to increase their appetite, but .. hey, it worked for you today!
I think the idea of eating as a family should help! We eat breakfast and dinner at table together and Milan is eager to try new things because he sees us eating them. One thing that helps Milan eat on his bad days is some type of sauce on his food. He likes that little extra something.
I would also not worry too much about his evening meals as you know he eats well all day long at day care. Have him sit with you, offer foods, and make sure you load him up with healthy things like pediasure ( or milk ), fruit, yogurt. He will definitely get the rest of nutrients at day care.
Where does he eat his breakfast? Try offering oatmeal ( I mix Milan's plain oatmeal with yogurt and he thinks he eats yogurt and LOVES it ), eggs, whole wheat toast with jam.. things that will give him a good start.
Food resistance is not an easy battle and as a parent it is very hard to fight with it. Hugs to you and hang in there. I am sure this is just a bad phase.
Eh Drake is a skinny kiddo and he is the exact same way regarding food. He tends to only eat what he wants. So no I don't think it is bad at all not to run him in for bloodwork etc especially when everything else seems fine. He may all of a sudden become ravenous in a few weeks Drake's appetite changes pretty frequently.
You know Ryker the best. If you really feel that this is more of a behavior issue (wanting to play instead of eat), then go with your gut and wait on the tests. Is he allowed to just "eat and run" at daycare or do they make him sit and eat at a table? My bet is that he has to eat at a table (that's how they eat in Betsy's room) and so that should be something that is reinforced at home (I know easier said than done!). Good luck!!!
Hmmmm, I realize he lost weight and then hasn't gained, but 23 lbs, 11 oz still seems like a good size to me, bigger than Teresa!
I think I'd have a hard time giving my kid meds to increase appetite when he seems to be healthy other than not eating much. Most kids are picky and don't eat that much-yes they are growing, but they are small. They are supposed to eat small amounts of food!!! If he lacked energy, was extremely pale, etc then I'd be worried, but from what you've told us, he sounds like a totally normal toddler!
I agree with the other mamas. I think it's a little hasty to be putting him on an appetite enhancer if he seems otherwise healthy. Personally, I think it's more important to encourage them to listen to their bodies when it comes to eating. I think having him take medicine to eat now could have potential long term effects. Does the doctor seem to have any other reasons to be concerned about health issues? Or is he otherwise healthy?
As far as the sitting at the table/high chair and eating, if you try it and it works, that's great! But if it doesn't, I wouldn't be too concerned. Statistically toddlers eat better on the go.
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We talked about it last night. I'm not going to do any extra testing or anything. I don't even think I'll take him back in to be reweighed. He runs around like a madman and has super healthy looking skin/eyes/hair.
I'm going to be enforcing the sit and eat thing. And doing the pediasure. I think we'll go through this bottle of meds to increase his appetite and then not get any more. It's an allergy medicine, so I'm not thrown off by it being super bad.
Thanks girls for your input. I feel less like psycho anti dr mom.
So did the doc only classify him as failure to thrive because of the weight loss? Chase is only 24 lbs and is around the 10th percentile for weight. He is also super active and his doctor thinks that is why he doesn't weigh much. I hope the pedisure helps him and I think you are just fine doing what you think is best.
i agree with your gut and the other ladies on this .. i would just work on meal time habits and snacks. If it's just his weight and he's active .. i wouldn't call it failure to thrive -- he's developmentally on track, active, feeling good. Is he growing height wise? Every kid is different. And i agree that putting him on meds might really mess up the gut instinct of listening to his body when he's hungry and full and that relationship to food. With the kids, sure i listen to what the doc's have to say .. but i also follow my gut (what i know about my kiddo's and what seems right and wrong for them and their needs) and it's worked out.
I ditto the other ladies. You know Ryker the best. The weight loss doesn't seem that significant, but maybe it is? Hes right at the same weight as Kierson and he looks MUCH bigger than Kierson. Anyhow, all you can do for now is keep trying! Good luck mama!