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Eh, I know in my brain I'm supposed to be thrilled that Ryker adores his daycare lady. She's like a grandma to him that he can be with every day. It's great great!
And it kinda sucks. He runs to her from me every morning. Asks to be picked up and kisses her. Just thrilled to be there. Goes and gets in his chair for his breakfast. I wave and say bye and he gives me a glance and a wave and a bye bye, and is just as happy as can be that I'm leaving. All looking forward to his breakfast and being there. Wah! I secretly want him to be devastated that I'm abandoning him! He should at least be bummed! I'm ridiculous. I should be so happy that he loves her. But, But, But, He should only love me!
Awww, I'm sorry this has you feeling down! How is he when you pick him up? Is he just as excited to see you then? My guess is he has a lot of fun there-kids, different toys, etc. I'm sure he has just as much fun with you at home!
It is a good thing he likes it there, even though it hurts your feelings some!
Teresa and Lukas both have ladies at the Y that are their favorites. Teresa especially will RUN to go and give her hugs/have her pick her up when we go there. But if I peek in on her (the pool has windows that look into the child care), if she sees me, she runs to the window and waves and when I go back she squeals MOMMYYYYYY! So I know she's still excited to see me too.
Girl you are not 'abandoning' him......he knows it. Hes just there to have fun and the way he acts when you drop him off shows he does. Your lucky cause its much more heart renching when you have to leave em at day care and they want no part of it. Your his mommy and he's your baby(.)
Ok I'm sure that didn't make your feel any better cause we all want our babies to think we are their one and only.
I hear you It goes in phases, though, the separation anxiety. Max has spells where all he wants is his daycare friends/teachers. And then he'll have a few weeks where he screams and cries when I leave him. It's not easy either way, is it?
And, when I pick Max up, he'll give me a huge smile and a Mommy! And then take off in the other direction to play with his friends. He has no desire to go home with me, and usually cries when I make him leave. Stinker!
I've had mornings where Betsy will run away from me and go to the daycare teacher immediately upon entry into the room. I've actually had days where she has taken my hand and POINTED TO THE DOOR, suggesting that it was time for me to leave. And let's not forget the days where she throws the tantrum in the parking lot because she doesn't want to leave.
It hurts and sometimes it makes me feel like I'm the worst mother in the world because my kid would rather stay and play than come home with me. But I try to remind myself that it's better for her to run and play than it is to have the epic meltdowns and separation anxiety (which has happened as well). It's for the best and we have to remember, the teachers might be cool, but we're MOMMY, and that trumps EVERYTHING!
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Let me tell you from experience that it is not fun to have it the other way either. My DD has a fit everytime I leave her at daycare and it feels horrible. I usually wait around the few minutes it takes her to settle down (outside the door where she can't see me but I can still peek in at her) just so I can feel better about leaving. She goes in phases but I definitely prefer when she seems happy to be there.
I'm sure he is happy to see you at the end of the day and that is what matters. He knows who his mama is.