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September 12th, 2008, 10:07 PM
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Well.. sometimes I hate the Navy..

I told ya'll about how my DH got cross rated and would need to go to school in Florida for a little while. Well he got his orders today..

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they are unaccompanied orders.. Which means that I don't go with him.. turns out the school is only 10-12 weeks long and they have to be at least 14 weeks to get accompanied/PCS orders. He leaves November 17th.

So my husband is going to Pensacola Florida for 3 months and I'll be here in Virginia by myself. So that means TTC will get put on hold as will all the tests and everything we are going through at the moment. I'm completely heartbroken. We were sure that school would be long enough that I would come, but I guess not. Not only will he be gone for 3 months, but he'll miss Christmas, his birthday, New Years and Valentines Day.

I'm a military wife, I'm used to being alone, dealing with deployments and underways and all that. But God this one is hitting me hard. I don't want to put TTC on hold. I just got my first appointment with the RE, Jeff is starting the process with the urologist, now that has to stop until we're at our next duty station. I know we're not going to get pregnant before then, Jeff's d*mn near sterile I really don't want to stay here by myself, I hate the new neighbors, yeah we have 3 guns and 2 dogs so I should feel safe but ugh, its not the same. I don't want him to be gone for Christmas and everything else. He's never been gone for anything major, he's always made it home.. I'm not even gonna get to see him on his birthday

ugh.. sometimes... being a military wife... sucks .
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September 12th, 2008, 10:58 PM
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I'm so sorry April!
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September 13th, 2008, 01:18 AM
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im sorry april i am not a military wife, but one of my very good friends is and i know how hard it is on her when her dh is gone - but they are actively trying NOT to have another baby so they don't go through what you're going through. my t&p are with you..i cant imagine how you must be feeling <hugs>
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September 13th, 2008, 06:38 AM
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So sorry to hear that sweetie. I know what you are going through though. My uncle was sent to Korea on an unaccompanied for a year...two weeks after adopting his first child. I saw, first hand, the hardship it placed on them. You just have to be strong to get through it. I know you are!
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September 13th, 2008, 06:51 AM
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So sorry sweetie
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September 13th, 2008, 07:35 AM
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i'm sorry April.
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September 13th, 2008, 07:59 AM
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Oh hunny...I can't even imagine. My heart is breaking for you right now, because I know how much you were looking forward to moving, and I know how badly you and DH have been trying to concieve. I'm here for you night or day hun...just PM me if you need to chat/vent.

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September 13th, 2008, 08:08 AM
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I'm so sorry, April.
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September 13th, 2008, 08:10 AM
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I couldn't even imagine what you are going through right now, I'm so sorry April.
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September 13th, 2008, 08:50 AM
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Oh I am so sorry! I wish there was more I could say/do for you
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September 13th, 2008, 08:52 AM
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I am so so sorry April.. I wish I could say or do something that would help make it even a teeny bit better.
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September 13th, 2008, 10:32 AM
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I'm sorry April. I can't imagine not seeing Jason for 3 months at a time.


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September 13th, 2008, 10:42 AM
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I am so sorry, April. That really stinks. I hope that the time passes quickly for you two... *HUGGLES*

Maybe you will get your little miracle before he leaves... I so hope for you.
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September 13th, 2008, 10:43 AM
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thanks girls. It means a lot to get support. I know we'll be fine, it's not like we have never been apart for awhile before.. It's just the crappy timing thats getting me down. I just have to remember that he'll be gone for 3 months and when he gets back we'll be moving and he'll be on permanent shore duty for the rest of his career.
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September 13th, 2008, 12:03 PM
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Aww April, I'm so sorry! I know I don't have any idea what it's like to be a military wife (an my hat is off to those of you who are- you amaze me!) I wish I knew what to say or do to make you feel better, but just know that we're all here for you no matter what! If you need anything, please know I'm only a PM away! Lots of
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September 13th, 2008, 12:07 PM
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April I'm so sorry that this is happening. I hate the military sometimes too! I think once he gets there maybe you'll be able to come visit him a lot. Is he staying in dorms or hotel on base? They give him time off for Christmas don't they? I hope things work out. I think I would be there every chance I got. How far is the drive?
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September 13th, 2008, 03:57 PM
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Yeah he should get a little while off for Christmas stand down.. We're thinking of flying him up here for that time if we can. He more than likely will be staying in the barracks while down there. It's about a 14.5 hour drive down to Pensacola, so not something I can do often, esp with our 2 dogs.
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September 13th, 2008, 04:25 PM
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Oh my gosh, April! I'm so sorry!! My heart just broke for you. That really stinks. I know it's not the same, but we'll definitely be here for you during that time.
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September 15th, 2008, 07:08 AM
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Awww...I am so sorry April. Hopefully before he goes you can work with the RE and have a plan for right when he gets back!
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