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  #1  
June 10th, 2009, 07:23 AM
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one thing your inlaws do that bothers you? And how do you handle it.

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DHs stepdad sometimes talks to me like a child...and his mother occaisonally likes to play the "I've done this before, so I know what I'm talking about" card, and it irritates me.

I just ignore them and pretend I don't notice it. When I do bring it up to dh, we ususally laugh about it and make jokes AND....dh will needle me and be like "if you weren't a blond, he wouldn't have to...." or "we'll you only got your masters, stupid..."

I guess it is not a big deal, but it does irk me sometimes!

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June 10th, 2009, 07:46 AM
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When we first got engaged it was a little rough but now we get along fine. And it helps that we only see them a 2 or 3 times a year. We spend more time with my family when we are in town.
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June 10th, 2009, 11:51 AM
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My MIL competes to be, what feels like, his wife! For instance, I mentioned in passing that I am going to try and plan a surprise birthday for DH since it's his 30th coming up and now every time I see her she tells me she wants to have a party at her new house and have it catered and what not. And it's like, "umm hello, you knew I already planned on doing that!"

It happens with a lot of things and it can be extremely frustrating. Not to mention she is lonely and likes to talk about everyones business when DH and I are very private about things. She went and told her sister and DH's cousins about personal business and now even DH said he doesn't feel like he can talk to his OWN mother about private things - so he calls my mom!
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June 10th, 2009, 12:46 PM
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I don't see or talk to my inlaws very often. The one thing that really did bother me happened a few months ago. She came over to visit us and we ended up spending about 2000 dollars because she didn't pay for anything. We flew to Dublin and she didn't pay us back for her ticket. It was only about 120 dollars but still. She didn't pay for her hotel room in Dublin either. Then we took a train to Amsterdam. She didn't pay for that or the hotel room there. The meals we ate out we paid for most of. We also got the IAMSTERDAM card and Tour Dublin cards which were 60 euros per person for each city. we paid for those too. and now she wants to come visit again for Thanksgiving. DH tried explaining to her that we won't have the money and she says oh it's ok I can pay for my own. Plus we are having all our stuff packed and shipped around the 20th so she would be sleeping on the floor. I don't think a 63 year old woman wants to do that.
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June 10th, 2009, 01:01 PM
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I don't think they give DH enough credit sometimes. They put so much focus on his sister's 'mistakes' and her kids. It bothers me and I know it bothers him.
I always try to tell him how proud of him I am and support his decisions.
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June 10th, 2009, 03:45 PM
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MY MIL (i do love her dearly) but she is always up our business, like a bit too much and when she does talk to me(about anything) she is like 3 inches from my face...i have this thing with "personal space" and she def enters it. haha...but if that is as bad as it gets, i guess i am ok....
(but she does mention EVERYTIME i see her "well, its y'alls turn for babies" or "you look good with a baby" etc....little does she know we are trying our hardest. But if she knew she would be calling me every month on day 28 and asking if i am prego)
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June 10th, 2009, 03:47 PM
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My IL's always contradict me. It's at the point now that I rarely speak around them (what's the point if they don't listen anyway?).
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June 10th, 2009, 07:59 PM
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I love my in-laws to pieces and I get along with them very well, but sometimes their lack of communication astounds me. They will call DH and I and ask what the other person said they'd do/see/eat/say etc. Um, Hello... you guys are in the same house and we live 60 miles away how should we know?
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June 10th, 2009, 08:03 PM
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My MIL hates my FIL (they are divorced) and constantly talks about him - it scares me how angry she is about it (even 20 years after the divorce!) and it really puts my DH in an awkward position also...
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June 11th, 2009, 02:30 AM
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My MIL is always asking us about money... How much did that cost? How much did this cost? Where did ye get the money for that? How are ye able to afford this with with a mortgage to pay etc... It's gets to the stage if we buy anything new I say it was a present or on sale or make up something b/c it's easier...
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June 11th, 2009, 07:57 AM
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My MIL is a liar, and she steals...like a clepto or something. She also abuses her CRAZY meds. And she always bothers ME instead of her 3 kids with any and every problem she ever has. HaHa! I could go on and on about her. I just try to stay away as much as possible unless she really needs me or something. I've only went off on her one time when she basically stole my truck.

My FIL hates me because he is a manipulator and I can see right through him. lol. He tried to get me to disown Jerrod's mother which I wouldn't mind doing, but obviously can't...and since I didn't just cut her off, he made up a bunch of crap about me and no longer speaks to me...he tried to get Jerrod to leave me pretty much and it didn't work! Ha!

Basically Jerrod is one of few good people in his family. I don't know how he came from them.
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June 11th, 2009, 09:13 AM
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I have it easy. MY family is the crazy bunch. DH's family is wonderful. There's not a single one of my in-laws who I don't trust and adore. My own family, however, is a bunch of flakes, liars, crazies and alcoholics. Guess DH is the one who should be posting on this thread
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June 11th, 2009, 10:52 AM
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I absolutely love my inlaws. I have no complaints.
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June 11th, 2009, 11:49 AM
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My MIL is always asking us about money... How much did that cost? How much did this cost? Where did ye get the money for that? How are ye able to afford this with with a mortgage to pay etc... It's gets to the stage if we buy anything new I say it was a present or on sale or make up something b/c it's easier...
Not my mil..but MY MOTHER always ask me that questions you just stated! OMG I'm like get off my case!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I stopped telling her what I have bought unless it was really important that I want to show off... I prepare myself her question how we afford it. LOL

My MIL is awesome..but she lets people walk over her... my SIL uses MIL for babysitting and money... but when MIL gives us money (she always spoils James and I end up say no we don't need your money but end up keeping it lol), SIL gets mad at us. LOL

my sil thinks we should go over to her house.. but she never comes over to visit us. I'm like can't we take turns?
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