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  #1  
March 4th, 2005, 08:10 PM
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Is there a certain reason why you chose the age you are to start a family, did you wait until a certain age or did it just happen at this time??
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March 4th, 2005, 08:15 PM
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We started now because we are ready, and I have always wanted to start my family young, just because I want to have a large family. Some people might think that I am too young to be actually trying, or think that its wrong because we aren't married. I guess you would just have to know my family, and how I was brought up to understand.Everyone in my family, and my SO's family started young also. I want my children to be close to their cousins as well, just as all my siblings kids have been able to be really close. But we are in a very stable relationship (over 3 years) we have our own place, our own cars and we are financially stable.
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March 4th, 2005, 09:08 PM
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We chose now for many reasons.

1. My husband is 7 years older and we wanted to start and be done before he was 40.

2. We are settled, have a house and great jobs.

3. We just celebrated 1 year in January, and wanted to be married at least a year before trying.

*****4. I lost my Grandma who raised me in December and I have felt such a huge void, and want to share a connection with my child the way I connected to her. Losing her made me realize how short life is, we spend so much time "saving" and "planning" that we lose sight of what is really important. I realized that I wanted to be a Mom more than anything because she taught me the important lessons in life.

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March 5th, 2005, 06:04 AM
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The age (44) chose me. I was always so involved in my career (working 16-18 hours a day) that marriage and children were of no interest. But last year, I was diagnosed with narcolepsy and had to go on disability. When I had the time on my hands and were able to look around, I found neither husband, nor child.

The idea of a child grew slowly and got really intense as time went on. So, here I am, 44, trying and hoping.
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March 5th, 2005, 06:37 AM
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For us it was more of long term thinking. DH's youngest brother is in his 3rd year University and his parents are set to retire. We don't want to be retired and still have children in school and have to still PAY for their schooling when we're retired.

Also, we wanted to have children by the time we were 30. Dunno, that number just stuck out in our heads for some reason. We want to have 3 and want to have them relatively close together for the reason I mentioned above as well as for siblings to be close in age.

The most important reason of all is we started b/c we're READY. We're ready to finally start our family together! Yes, being financially stable and all that is important, but if everyone waited till they were financially set, they might be putting off children alltogether! There's always something we're trying to fix, debt we're trying to get out of, savings we're trying to accumulate, If we waited till everything was just perfect in our lives, I don't even know if we'd have children.

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March 5th, 2005, 07:08 AM
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Just as someone else stated. I want a large family so i believe right now is a great time. I am also hoping fo a 2005 baby
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March 6th, 2005, 04:16 AM
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Well due to my career choice it's now or never. If I have a baby now I'll still be young enough to go back. However if I wait any longer I'll have to put kids off until my 30' which is not somthing i want to do.
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March 6th, 2005, 04:22 PM
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We decided to start now because of many factors: we have great jobs, a nice house, we're coming up on our 4th anniversary, we've traveled, and actually been together for 10 years. Also, we wanted to do it while we are young, simply because it is supposed to be easier the younger you are (I am 27, DH is 25). Other than that, we're doing it now because it is something that is very important to us, and we could not wait any longer!
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March 6th, 2005, 04:55 PM
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The reason why we are doing it.....well, we aren't getting any younger, I'm 38 and SO will be 37 very soon. Previous to this relationship, was never the right time or the right person. We are very lucky to have found one another.
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March 6th, 2005, 10:38 PM
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I didn't choose my particular age to start my family, I just happened to find my husband a bit later in life & as soon as we were married we started ttc. Ideally I would have preferred to have had my 1st child by the age of 30 & have a total of 3 children by the time I'm 35.
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March 7th, 2005, 12:44 PM
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Hmmm, interesting question

I have concerns about starting in my 30's, especially late 30's because my mother went through menopause at the age of 42! That is pretty young, and they say daughters very strongly take after their mother's when it comes to menopause so I really wanted to start no later than 30. and of course DH was all for that too! He didn't want too start much after the age of 30 either.

I am blessed to have DH and to be able to start now!
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March 8th, 2005, 11:30 AM
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Help! I'm so confused to put it TRUTHFULLY ..."I DON'T KNOW NOTHING 'Bout BIRTHING NO BABIES"! so I'd Really love some input from Someone,Anyone...Like for example When is the Best time to Concieve a Baby (Right before or after period?) I grew up without any females around never really needed to talk about this subject before until now. Thanks 4 Reading .If this helps I'm every 28 days & My monthly friend came to visit 3/6/05 We really want a Baby more than anything.
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March 8th, 2005, 02:06 PM
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Hey mommy me,, welcome to JM! I hope you stick around with us while ttc!

To answer your question: Every woman is different first of all so you might be a little bit off from someone else, you migh tjust want to pay attention every month to figure out the exact time you ovulate.
When you ovulate, it is the best time of the month to conceive. For someone on a 28 day cycle you will ovulate around day 14, so since March 3 was the day you got AF that would be day 1. So you will ovulate around March 17th which would be day 14.
Sperm can live for 4 days so you it is best to start trying 4 days before you ovulate, then the actual day you ovulate.
Best of luck, can you tell us anymore about yourself?
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March 10th, 2005, 03:25 PM
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DH & I have been married for 4 yrs now. Im 28 and DH is 32 and we're at that stage in our lives that we just feel ready. We just bought a house which we love and have good stable jobs and everything seems to be going right. Plus I guess with a lot of close friends having babies it just made me realize how much im missing out on. The mommy baby connection is just so amazing and I truly want to have that in my life. I think thats what is going to be make me feel complete...
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