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Have you and DH/SO talked about how many children you are going to want? I know that we are all on ttc #1 but do you have a set number in mind or a just see how many sort of thing? DH and I had a very long talk last night, kind of started as an argument then went into deep discussion about this whole TTC business, we've both said in the past like 3 or so children would be a nice number. I'm just wondering if you have had this talk and what the consensus ended up being. Also have you talked about how close or not so close you wanted your children to be? I guess I never really had a talk about this with DH and he said he would love for our children to be a bit farther apart. He is the youngest of 3 boys and his middle brother is 7 yrs older than him and his oldest brother is 10 yrs older. I don't really mind if they are farther apart so that way we can enjoy each child.
I'd like at least 2 and maybe 3 - and I'd like one of each gender. Dh is more particular - he wants 2 boys and they should be twins! I guess that would make them close in age lol
I haven't thought about har far apart I want them to be.. my brother is 6 years younger than me and I thought that was fine - I was there to protect him from bullies and helped with little things to take care of him. I'm sure that was nice for my mom. Since I'm already 30 they may be closer together than 6 years though.. unless I have more than 2!
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Yeah I never put much thought into it until DH said something about it last night. I have a brother who is 4 years younger than me, which I think is a good amount apart. I also have a half-sister who is 8 yrs younger than me and a half brother who is 13 years younger than me. I'm not sure if I want to wait that long.
Since I have never had children and haven't gone through taking care of a little one, I have no idea how sane I will be afterward. I don't know how well I will hold up through labor (my mother had a very bad labor and we both almost died as well as me having a BM in the womb and she hemorrhaging and having 3 blood transfusions). So having multiple children may be a maybe. Then we want a boy and a girl but we also wouldn't mind three children, but if we get to two we've already looked into IVF with gender selection because even though it is extremely expensive, it is cheaper than us just having multiple children just to try and get a boy/girl. My mom's best friend wanted a girl and they kept on until they had 5 boys and STILL considered trying again....then she realized she was already raising 5 boys and her husband was in the Coast Guard (active) and they moved every few years
I'd like at least two, and would love a boy and a girl. With that said, I will not be preventing any pregnancy since we are having difficulty now TTC #1. When and if we reach a good number, I will look into prevention, but until then, it's ON!!! I don't care if they are back to back!! Okay, maybe I would at 3 in the AM when two babies are crying, yikes!
Maybe 4. At least 2 boys and 1 girl. Of course I've never had kids before, but I've been a nanny for YEARS and basically raised the kids so I know what it entails.
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Kat, mom to handsome Gideon, wife to hunky sailor Heath, welcomed baby Ariella Elise into the world on July 6
DH and I are both only children so on one hand we both feel one is a great number... but on the other hand, two may be good. No more than that!! We both really want a girl badly right now.. I have a feeling if we had a boy first we'd definitely be trying for a girl #2.. but if we get a girl first we may actually decide to go ahead and try for a boy.
As much as I really want my daughter, I also really want the chance to have a boy to carry on our name (we combined both our last names because I'm the last of my branch and I didn't want to end it there).. Yes, a daughter could choose to keep her maiden name but combining her future S/O's last name with ours may be a bit of a mouthful! lol! And also I think DH would raise a wonderful little man, so that would be nice.
As for ages.. I'm 31 so it wouldn't be too far apart. I'd guess the first would have to be at least 1 before we'd start TTC again, but they may end up 2 years apart or so. That's pushing it a tiny bit with my age though, so who knows.
We decided on 3 depending on how soon we can produce #1 After the first is born we want to wait at least 2 years so we can get in the groove of things. Then we'd like to have the other two close in age
My Dh and I discussed this last night as well but we are still in disagreement. Whenever I bring up raising children, he always "corrects" me by saying child. I want two children, no more than two but he says only one. I am sure after the first is born, we will change his mind, fingers crossed
We have decided on 2 but we might have a third or fourth. No more than that though, and we are settled on 2 for now but depending on finances, on how overwhelmed we feel and just how we feel about it once we have kids already...
We're hoping for age differences between 2 and 3 years.
I have always wanted a big family and would be happy with a small baseball team, lol. I would be perfectly content with only 3, but DH refuses and says only 2. We've gone back an forth a million times - his fear is the infamous 'middle child syndrome' - and I have said many times that my goal is to have one and then twins so I get my 3. Where we are at as of now though, is that DH wouldn't mind a big family, but no odd numbers and we have to see where we are at money-wise. We both want them pretty close in age (me and my bro are 10 years apart and I don't like the fact that we aren't very close because of it) we'll start TTC #2 when #1 is about a year and a half. Assuming everything goes as planned, which is a big assumption.
DH says 2, I'm thinking 3..maybe 4 because we want to adopt as well. I just figure we can space them out and it won't seem as overwhelming! Though, after the first I may change my mind... we'll see!
I have always wanted to have 4 kids. When DH and I started dating he asked me how many kids I wanted and I told him 4 and all he said was ok. I think if I said none or 8 he also would have said ok. If I ask him now what he want's it's 4 but I think it's bc he knows what I want. I just want to make sure I have at lest one boy and one girl. But the main thing right now is that I want to TTC our first.
Well we have actually talked about this alot and we want 2. He wants them as close together as we can he even said twins would be ideal. Oh ya and according to him I am only alowed to have boys LOL!! My prefrence would be 2 years apart.
We are thinking to have 3 kids. Baby girl is a must for DH and he says we will keep producing until we have a girl...lol. I would like them to be close in age so that they can play together
