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Hi, everyone. I found this site last night and wanted to thank everyone for the valuable information I have read so far.
Just a brief background about me. I am 27, hubby is almost 27 and we have been together 10 years, married for 5. We have decided to start a family. I think we are both pretty nervous (okay, I know we are), but I feel we are at a good point to support a family both physically, emotionally, and financially. Three weeks ago I went off the pill (after 10 years). My system probably has enough birth control in it that it will take five years just to conceive.
For anyone else who was a loyal pill popper how long did it take for you to conceive?
Thanks so much and I look forward to any and all advice. I am a complete newbie at all of this.
PS I did start taking a multi vitamin (to get my recommended folic acid). Other than that, I have no idea what I am doing.
Hey Dani, welcome to JM!! My name is Angela (28) and my DH (28) are TTC #1 as well!
I don't have much advice for you as far as the pill goes, I've been off for 4 years now. But I have heard it can take a while for your cycles to regulate (28 days on month 30 another, etc). It's good you've started yourself on a multi vitamin, folic acid is very important.
Good luck TTC! I look forward to posting with you.
<span style="font-family:Comic Sans MS">~ Angela ~</span>
Welcome Dani! I am marie, and I too am 27 (DH is 25) and we are TTC our first baby. Your story sounded a lot like mine-- DH and I have been together for 10 years, married for almost 4, and are finally at that point in our lives where we think we can handle a child, although it is still scary! I have been on the pill for about 10 years too, and finished my last pack last October. My cycles never got weird, I've always had a 28-29 day cycle. We are in our 5th month of TTC, and as far as I can tell, everything appears to be functioning normally. I would suggest to you that you find some means of trying to determine whether you are ovulating or not. You can get an OPK, a basal body thermomitor, or learn to check your cervix. I personally like using a OPK. Other than that, relax and have fun trying! Good luck!!!
Welcome, Dani! Hope that you get the support that I have found in this short time I have been posting. Everyone is very kind here. I was on the pill too for 10 years and stopped taking it 5 months ago. I think I read somewhere that you would want to give yourself a couple of cycles to get used to your cycle lengths, but that shouldn't stop you from trying. They say that girls get pregnant on the pill So, don't worry. Just start to chart your cycles and see what you dates look like. I also read that if you had regular cycles prior to stopping the pill, you should still be regular. Hope that helps you. Good luck trying! I am also TTC#1 so, I know what you are going through.
Hey Dani! I just wanted to say welcome to JM and I'm glad you are finding this forum informative!!
I'm sorry I can't help you with your question, I was only on the pill for a year and that wa sa few years ago.
Best of luck trying to conceive!!
Reading the replies it seems that many of us have very similar backgrounds. It is nice to know that I will in such good company.
Before deciding to conceive did anyone feel frightened, scared, nervous about your decision to have a child? I asked a few family members this and they just looked at me puzzled. Maybe I am abnormal. Maybe I think too much.
Okay, I have to ask. I may be doing this wrong. I am a college educated businesswoman, but when it comes to babies and the female reproductive system I have rocks for brains (my OB/GYN gave up trying to explain this stuff to me years ago) . Reading several of the messages on the board about TTC many have spoken about cycles and ovulating.
My theory (myth) on getting pregnant: I was just going to have sex when I felt like it.
I realize that is probably wrong. Can someone explain fertilization, temperatures, etc. Can I still have sex when I feel like it?
Dani--> Of course you can still have sex when you feel like it!
On the 5 days leading up to Ovulation you are just supossed to a lot more. (The sperm can live up to 5 days in your body)
The average woman with a 28 day cycle will ovulate around day 14, but every woman is different.
You don't necessarily have to chart temps, unless it have been a few months with no luck then you might consider it.
You can pay attention to your cervival position and cervical mucus to find out when you ovuate each month.
Dani, this will help you in detecting when you ovulate each month:
Predicting Ovulation by Looking at Cervical Position
In predicting fertility, observing the position of the cervix (located at the lower part of the uterus) can be very instructive. Like cervical fluids, the position and "feel" of the cervix will undergo measurable, tangible change during a woman's menstrual cycle.
By examining your cervix, you can learn to predict ovulation and increase your chances of getting pregnant. If you are fertility charting, then by recording your cervical position changes, you can establish another coordinate for determining your most fertile time.
Examining Cervical Changes
When conducting any self-exam, make sure that your hands are clean. As with ovulation testing and BBT charting, examination of the cervix should take place at the same time every day. Gently insert one or two fingers into your vagina - and by reaching back you should be able to feel your cervix. During the exam, ask yourself the following questions (but remember, it make take time to "learn" about your body - the positions and feel of your cervix throughout your cycle).
Is the position of the cervix relatively low (easy to reach) or high (less easy to reach)?
Does the cervix feel relatively soft or firm?
Does the opening of the cervix feel open or closed?
Is the cervix dry to the touch - or relatively moist - or very moist?
Prior to ovulation - during the first half of your cycle, the cervix will feel relatively firm (like touching your nose) and dry to the touch - and the position of the cervix will be low in your vagina (easy to reach). The entrance of the cervix will feel closed.
However, as you approach ovulation, the cervix will become increasingly soft and will increasingly moisten in order to create a more fertile environment for the sperm. The entrance of the cervix will feel open and begin to lift. At the highest point, the cervix may be a bit difficult to reach and the entrance of the cervix will increase in size. The feel of your cervix will be softer - like touching your lip. At this point, you are at your most fertile time.
Following ovulation, the cervix begins to return to a firmer state and the entrance will begin to close. Also, the position of the cervix will again drop and become easy to reach.
These changes in cervical position can be monitored and recorded, augmenting fertility charting and helping you pinpoint your window of opportunity for conceiving.
Cervical Mucus Analysis in Ovulation Prediction
The presence and tactile consistency of a woman's cervical fluid undergoes a number of changes during her menstrual cycle. By observing changes in cervical fluid, a woman can predict ovulation - her most fertile time for conceiving a baby.
One of the purposes of cervical mucus - during the fertile period - is to sustain sperm in a healthy medium, to allow sperm to move freely through the cervix. Logically, there will be an increase in cervical mucus at ovulation, as well as a change in texture - the mucus becoming more pliable, "stretchable", and slippery.
Using clean fingers, or if you prefer, toilet paper, you can examine your cervical fluid. Prior to ovulation, during non-fertile periods, the woman will experience a dryness (or lack of cervical mucus). Gradually, as the woman approaches ovulation, the mucus will increase, though the consistency will be "sticky" and the color will be white, yellow, or cloudy in nature.
Directly prior to ovulation, cervical fluid will increase greatly, and now the mucus will be semi-transparent, slippery, with the consistency of "raw egg white". This is your most fertile period and ovulation will take place at about this time.
Below you will find an overview of the changes that will take place in your cervical fluid throughout your cycle.
Following the menstrual period, there is a feeling of dryness. There will be no visible mucus. Gradually, more mucus will accumulate - yellow, cloudy, or white in color and sticky to the touch.
As you approach ovulation, your cervical mucus will increase. First, there will be a moistness or stickiness to the mucus, as well as a white or cream-colored appearance.
At ovulation, the quantity of mucus will increase greatly and the appearance will resemble "egg whites", often semitransparent. The texture will become increasingly slippery and 'stretchable'. This is your most fertile time.
Following ovulation, the slippery quality of the cervical mucus will decrease and the mucus will become sticky and cloudier. Post-ovulatory dryness will also ensue.
Welcome to JM!!! I was on the pill for 7 years, and went off in December 2004. It has been a disaster for me, but I know many people that it has not been. I am 26, my DH is 33, and we are TTC #1. I have read every book I can and the latest addition was yesterday called Dr. Richard Marrs' fertility book--my Ob recommended. He is a renown fertility specialist for those of us that did not get pregnant the first go around. Here is what I reccommend:
1. don't get caught up in the "trying" I think that many of us have done that including myself.
2. I cannot do the temp thing because I forget, but if you do go to walgreens or drug store and buy a basal thermometer.
3. Depending on when you stopped the pill in the mdidle of your cycle or the end will determine where you are in your cycle. Mark down when you start your period as day 1, most women ovulate around, before, or after day 14. I am not so lucky day 23 here.
4. If you have an unlimited budget or are not patient (like me) you can try the ovulation predictor kits. When the two lines match in color or the result line not test line is darker than the test line, than you have detected your LH surge. I had a build up of a surge leading from friday to the darkest tuesday. So I believe that until you know your cycles well don't stop testing until the results are equal or the result line is darker than the standard line. ALSO use this test around 10:30 am, not your first urine, most accurate is mid-morning. I am a career woman too, and I stick ovulation sticks and pregnancy tests in my bag and go to the bathroom. You'll learn these tricks once you get going--hopefully you will get a BFP this month and you won't have to worry about all this crap!
5. Your cervical position is a tough one. Basically to be candid if you stick your index finger inside your vagina you will feel a hard long thing sticking down. When you are fertile it is super high, soft, and you can feel the tip of it open. When you are not fertile it is hanging really low and is hard like your nose.
Hope this helps, message me anytime and lots of babydust!