[Peace]

Hey, everyone. I'm a newbie; and I'm not sure if I'm pregnant. My mom died when I was 17 and I'm not close enough with any other women IRL to ask them about this stuff. So I'm here!

Anyway, my fiance and I aren't exactly trying to have a child, but we're not trying NOT to, either . . . Right now it is in the "if it happens, it happens" stage; and we will probably try after our wedding next month.

This month, I've been tired constantly, and then a week ago I started getting odd pains in my abdomen . . . My period isn't due til the 9th, but I'm a worrier and I'm concerned that I might be pregnant and something is wrong. I don't know what's normal and what isn't . . . I called up the OBGYN and they told me that they can't get me in until the 15th . . . which seems like a long time when you worry a lot. And a long time when you spend too much time online reading about ectopic pregnancies and all of that . . . Eek.

So, my question is - These pains aren't anything severe . . . It's kind of a dull pain, I had a couple sharp pains in my left side a few days ago but they weren't too bad and went away within a minute. Now in the center of my abdomen I have a tight feeling and a little of a dull ache now and then . . . I slept for 13 hours yesterday and felt a lot better when I woke up, but now my stomach feels a little cramped up again . . . Just a really weird feeling - I don't know how else to describe it - not normal cramps or anything. I've been a little bloated the last couple weeks, too . . . which isn't a problem I normally have.

Is this something I should be worried about, or is this normal if I'm pregnant? Should I try to get in sooner, or wait until Friday and test then? I'd love to test now, but I think it's probably a little too early to get a good reading.

Thanks!

[wewantaminime]

unfortunately, menstrual signs are very much like pregnancy signs. It isn't abnormal to having cramping in early pregnancy. Being tired is another sign as well. You could go get a home test, get a early one though. Some will let you test as much as 5 days early. I also suggest buying a digital that way there is not question in the results. Sometimes the regular test are difficult to read if they aren't blatant. Good Luck!

[Peace]

unfortunately, menstrual signs are very much like pregnancy signs. It isn't abnormal to having cramping in early pregnancy. Being tired is another sign as well. You could go get a home test, get a early one though. Some will let you test as much as 5 days early. I also suggest buying a digital that way there is not question in the results. Sometimes the regular test are difficult to read if they aren't blatant. Good Luck![/b]

Thanks!

So I shouldn't be so concerned about this unless it's pretty bad pain? I just wasn't sure.

Hopefully I'll be here more often, if it's the case . . .

My due date would be Valentine's Day!

[dzine21]

Funny, I'd be due the same as you. If it's a dull pain like a fist slightly grinding at you it could be a cyst. But usually the pain is constant and really sucks. I think you should try a home test and wait out the auntie flow. good luck!

[DreamChaser]

Hi and - it can go either way - I have had dull aches and been tired just before AF shows up, but other ladies have complained of the same thing and got a BFP. One of the hallmarks of TTCing unfortunately is waiting. Good luck!!!!

[Peace]

Well, I got a little impatient today so the fiance and I went out and got a test - It was negative (is that BFN on here?) . . . but then AF isn't even due until Friday so it's also possible that it's early to tell.

No pain today, just a tight feeling in my tummy - I had a bad headache yesterday and almost threw up about 10 times . . . once at the post office, which wasn't very fun.

I'm just trying not to get my hopes up . . . that way I won't be as disappointed it it doesn't happen.

But I know I can't take a negative too seriously this early, before I'm even past due for AF.

[instant_oatmeal]

First of all, hi and welcome. I would say its definitely too early to tell. Like everyone said..pregnancy symptoms can be a lot like af symptoms. Good luck! I hope to see more of you around here.

[Peace]

I just noticed some light spotting, which hasn't happened to me ever before . . .

Still trying to think negative, though - I hate getting my hopes up.

[nikkim382]

here is a little baby dust for you. good luck, hopefully AF stays away.