[Belita]

I'm finding it odd to be in the "Trying to Conceive Your First Child" board after having a loss. Does anyone else feel that way? In my mind, I have a child, I just didn't get to give birth or keep my baby. I know that I'm technically TTC #1 but it just feels odd at times.

Anyone else who has had a loss feel that way sometimes?

[dansyl]

I know how you feel. I truly believe I will see my child I lost again in Heaven. So really we already have a child. So maybe we should start a TTC your first child on earth forum? Lol

[kbpeanut]

I never thought about that before. I also have suffered a loss, but in my mind, I'm still trying to conceive my first living child, so I feel comfortable here. Interesting thought though...

[junie22]

I feel you. I mean, you're not still trying to conceive your first. You've already done that.

We are all still awaiting our first living child, but some things in the TTC realm just don't apply anymore. A weird thing is to go to the doctor and fill out paperwork and have to fill out that box that asks how many pregnancies and how many live births. It's a crummy feeling.

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[Belita]

I think that's it. It's like once you've suffered a loss you don't quite fit into places. I feel like I don't quite fit into the TTCAL forum because I've had the one loss and there women there who have had multiple. I also don't have any living children, as many of them do. But yet I do fit in because I have had a loss and TTC is different after that.

I also don't quite fit in here because I've already conceived. I know we can do that. However, I do fit in because I don't have any living children and that experience to fall back on.

I started posting in the regular TTC board to see if that helps fill the Goldilocks syndrome I'm feeling. It doesn't quite.

I guess I really just need to be a part of all three boards and all together get my "just right" board.

Karin, that's why I started posting back here again after my loss. I know it does still fit in some ways.

Kara, lol! I'm already having a hard time keeping it all straight sometimes! I think that's a very nice way at looking at it, though.

[nina9809]

I've had three losses and I feel like I fit in just fine in this group. :-)

[delaney24]

I have had 1 loss & now TTC our first rainbow baby. I do feel like I "fit" on this board, but can certainly empathize with why you might feel that way. For a long while after the loss I would feel very out of place on ANY pregnancy/ttc board because of the loss, and now, because we're actively TTC I almost feel awkward on the TTCAL board.

I guess everyone here has their own unique situation, and it's just about connecting with the people and/or stories you can relate to, and acknowledging that some of us "belong" under more than one umbrella.

I hope the Goldilocks feeling goes away for you soon...perhaps when you're in one of the DDCs

[Belita]

Delaney, I think that's it. I love the ladies here, and in all the groups. I just tend to overanalyze things and feel a bit lost in general after my mc so I think it's just transferring into this, too.

I hope it won't be long before all of us get our rainbow babies!